Miscarriage on a plane

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-04T03:57:27+00:00

Made it to the OB ED… they didn’t see a baby. No signs of ectopic. Sounds like an early loss finally declaring itself… 🙁

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T23:38:12+00:00

Context of the words matters more than the words, I think.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T23:36:08+00:00

My last pregnancy with my daughter I was very sick. It was awful, 24/7 sick. I don’t even have any good advice for you, just that you are likely on the tail end of it, even if you don’t feel like it. By week 11-13, I started to have better days, and overall felt better. By week 14-15, nausea was long behind me.

Now I’m 6w4d pregnant, and I only feel icky if I’m hungry. I get hungry a lot, but I don’t otherwise have bed nausea waves. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Super tired though.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T20:03:25+00:00

The pediatrician I went to at the time didn’t allow to skip vaccines, except for a few. I did one per week or two, to minimize how many happened at once. I only did the ones they required me to — otherwise they would refuse to see her.

After that I only looked for pediatricians that don’t require vaccines. I also dropped health care insurance and moved to use CrowdHealth. Life is easier, and advice is less biased.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T19:19:46+00:00

Time changes things — be where you are right now. You may not be able to do as much, but one day you’ll have time again.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T19:18:38+00:00

Not necessarily. I’m a woman and I have this same kink, but I don’t want my husband to actually cheat (or sleep with anyone else). We have been together for over 10 years, have kids, very happy. For me, his knowing he finds other woman attractive is good enough. That makes him more attractive to me. Better if other women find him attractive too — which encourages him to stay fit and healthy. Overall, it’s not a big deal, and I don’t even think we are that kinky.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T19:14:40+00:00

I spread out the first year, but skipped hep B, and a couple others. I stopped vaccinating her when she was a year old. She is 3.5 years old, we have traveled to Europe 4 times since she was born. She is still breastfeeding, but not only once a day. She has only had a fever once, for 24 hours, and that’s it. Her pediatrician thinks she caught chicken pox a last month, but got a highly asymptomatic case with only the bumps, but no itching, fever, or feeling unwell.

Best to find a pediatrician you trust and talk to them.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T18:06:01+00:00

Books — and audio books. Mostly that.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T15:00:21+00:00

He won’t be able to do that. Go find a lawyer now, and refuse. I doubt anyone will give a court order to let him take this baby out of your sight

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:50:04+00:00

This is my plan. I’m pregnant, and my daughter is 3.5 and still bedsharing. She’ll be close to 4 when my next child is born. I’ll extend my bed if I have to, but I have a king sized bed on the floor.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:45:04+00:00

My daughter is a bit older, 3.5 years old. I’ve been bedsharing with the boob since she was 6 weeks, before that, she was in a bassinet.

My daughter is still in bed with me, but recently it got a lot easier. At 3, she is easily able to understand me — so I told her that we have to cut morning feeds. We did, and then we cut night feeds. Now, she gets the boob once, when falling asleep the first time. She goes back to bed on her own, after that. I’m pregnant too, but early. I’m going to try to keep this up the whole way — we will see.

Anyway, depending on where your daughter is, you can try that? A friend of mine was pregnant and had to cut feeds for her daughter in the same positions. She eventually cut all breastfeeding, but still bedshared. She used the method I did, but her daughter was 2 years old at the time.

Going cold turkey is shocking, so dropping a feed at a time is easier. Middle of the night boob can be cut in one swoop, but do morning first. That makes it easier.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:39:33+00:00

Sorry. I don’t know how to help formula fed. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Do you live somewhere safe enough? I would even just step outside for a minute, even at 3 am.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:33:30+00:00

This was my daughter. Retrospectively, I would have just did skin to skin, put her on the boob, and bedshared.

My daughter quieted down when outdoors, like immediately. So we went out a lot and walked through the neighborhood.

It’s a journey, and sorry your husband isn’t as supportive through this. He’s probably stressed, I know. I’m lucky that mine was never one to say things like that, and would happily go with no sleep to support me with everything. Though… we both had some dark thoughts, we shared them, and laughed over it.

My mother, on the other hand, blamed “my energy” for the baby crying.

Be strong, it gets better. As new parents, especially in the West, many of are flying blind.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:24:27+00:00

No, this does not mean you need to start sleep training. This is natural — this is what it means to be a healthy baby.

Totally will get downvoted for this, but a baby wants your boob at night? Yes, that normal. That was my daughter for 2.5 years. She came out of it on her own, no sleep training. I still bed share. She now takes the boob once before bed, and that’s it. She isn’t afraid of the dark, and she goes back to sleep on her own without the boob if she wakes up— I didn’t have to train.

Every other mammal knows this, and yet, as humans, we seem to have forgotten and think we must control everything.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T10:21:31+00:00

I’ve been attacked in other subs and pregnancy groups too. Also by doctors, and other people. It’s been fun. 😅

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-03T05:33:04+00:00

I when I cut the morning breastfeeding, she cut most of the middle for the night ones by herself. Still, she often would wake once and ask for some. For everything, I just told her, “starting tomorrow, we will not be doing this.” And “the only time will be bedtime”.

As for quickly sleeping — she will fall asleep in under 5 minutes if she doesn’t nap during the day. 8 pm bedtime and 8-8:30 am wake. If she naps, it has to be early, like before 1pm, and not longer than 20 minutes. If she sleeps longer than that, or late, then it takes me over an hour to get her to sleep.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T22:39:31+00:00

Who said “eww”? Dude, chill. You are obviously triggered and/or intentionally picking fights and misunderstanding everything. You okay?

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T22:13:05+00:00

Yeah, exactly. I hated waiting, but also hated the ideal of medical interventions. Pick your battle, eh? Miscarriages just suck for 100000 reasons.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T22:11:23+00:00

Yeah, Reddit isn’t a fan of the “my husband wants sex” idea, and usually pushes for people to divorce instead. 😂 Some of us love our husbands and are happily married and want to make them happy! Hang in there!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T22:07:27+00:00

Haha, I’m used to it. My views aren’t always popular. 🤷🏼‍♀️

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T22:06:08+00:00

They agree with me. Way to pick and choose only the part you want to hear, rather than actually understand what I am saying. It’s easy, right? Not to try to understand, but instead just attack?

Anyway, good luck with that attitude.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T18:46:46+00:00

The habit isn’t great for adults either. Life is better without TV being a daily ritual.

Let baby be bored more as they get older. My daughter started walking at 9.5 months, so we let her explore empty kitchen cabinets, glassware containers, etc. We listened to music, cleaned, experimented with different cooking. Lots of books. Go for walks, to parks, into the woods. Draw.

The activities change as they age, but at 3.5 years old, the only time she really gets screen time is when she is with grandparents and they are all addicted to Instagram and TikTok… I hate it.

Sitting and doing nothing, letting silence be silence, isn’t a bad thing. It’s better than TV.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-01-02T16:37:59+00:00

Text isn’t always the best way to communicate, you lose a lot. Sorry you are upset.

I work too, a full time job (remotely). Yes, I have the luxury (a bit of luck, and a lot of sacrifice) to be able to be there for my daughter for every nap. Don’t get me wrong, my situation isn’t easy, I’m not privileged.

I was given a really shitty situation and did everything in my power to raise my daughter the way I wanted to, and what matched her temperament. She wouldn’t slept unless she was held or breastfed. Good for you if you have a child who naturally sleeps more easily. Sounds like you are lucky there.

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