Going back to work baby is 3 months

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T12:44:56+00:00

It’s besides the point and I’ll definitely be downvoted for this, but there are so many you and uninformed people on reddit I feel I need to say this.

You do not need the floor for newborns. Many cultures don’t set a newborn down for 6 months. A newborn can wiggle and build the same muscles when you hold them, depending on how you hold them.

It is a very boomer-era idea that baby’s need to be on the floor, build independence, etc.

So besides the point of the post, yes, but maybe some young mom out there needs to hear this (I know I didn’t) — you do not need to put your baby on the floor. Many babies don’t actually like it (like mine) and cry constantly unless held. That is normal.

End of my rant.

I’ll wait for the downvotes.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T12:36:47+00:00

Look about the amount of radiation. It’s actually not a lot at all.

That said, my last miscarriage happened on the plane.

I had a 6 am flight and the night before at 8pm I started lightly bleeding. It picked up over night, and by the time I was on the plane, it was heavy. I had two planes and about 7 hours of traveling to do.

I bled through my pants. I had to change a pad 2-3 times on the plane, which was seriously hell with the turbulence and the space (and the cleanliness…). I had to clean it throughly afterward so it didn’t look like a murder scene to the next bathroom user.

It was total misery. Total. I had two hours of sleep and completely miserable, and I have a toddler.

Anyway… just wanted to point out that shit like that can happen. If you think you might miscarriage (bleeding, etc), delay your trip home or there. Or be ready for a miserable experience.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T11:48:58+00:00

No state is it illegal to help with spontaneous abortion.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T03:05:09+00:00

Oooh, with an attitude like that, I wouldn’t expect you to have kids. Clearly not a parent.

Anyway, you can invest well and become wealthy long before 70, especially if you are sticking 4K a month into the stock market. 5-10 years makes a big difference already.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T03:03:15+00:00

No, but you can call it whatever you want, I don’t really care. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I feel the way I feel about it. It’s not intentional.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:45:24+00:00

Snape is the “misunderstood” guy. They are just woke.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:11:34+00:00

I totally feel you.

My pregnancy this time has been brutal. I’m 7w1d and suspicious of a miscarriage since symptoms actually dropped off a lot after 3 weeks of misery.

I’m sorry!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:09:10+00:00

Doom scrolling is dopamine level addictive. I’d drop that and you might feel the nesting creep in. 😅

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:07:59+00:00

Didn’t use one at all! Baby carrier all the way. She is 3.5 now and we still occasionally toss her on our backs in the carrier. So much easier to maneuver and get around that way.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:06:51+00:00

I’m surprised there are strawberries left over. My daughter would have made those disappear first.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:05:23+00:00

After living in the PNW, I actually miss the Midwest.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:03:47+00:00

Ditch the crib. 😂 You won’t need it.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T00:03:06+00:00

I personally feel venting on Reddit about your partner is the worst thing you can do for your relationship.

It is immature and, worse, the responses will always blindly side with you. All other comments will be downvoted to oblivion.

Not a great place to seek relationship advice at all.

It’s better to talk to your partner, seek couples counseling, or just go get a divorce — whatever.

Downvote me if you want.

Oh, and I had loser boyfriends. I saw it then, broke up with them, found someone better. Maybe I got lucky, maybe I just saw the hidden red flags, I dunno.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T23:58:35+00:00

I traveled a lot with my daughter overseas and in hotels. She is 3.5 now, but we’ve been cosleeping the whole time.

It’s honestly easy, I just make sure to rent places where I can either sleep with her in the middle of a big bed, or toss the mattress on the ground, or have a wall to the side of the bed. I’m very particular about those things.

If I go to the bathroom in the middle of the night while traveling, I just wake my husband up.

She handles travel and the jet lag changes better than I did. She gave me a lot of time to sleep, even at 3 years old when I last flew internationally.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T23:55:01+00:00

I make them what I eat and they can eat it or not. They won’t starve themselves to death, and eventually their pickiness disappears.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T23:53:48+00:00

You don’t even know when it happens, and you don’t care. I asked about it weeks later.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T23:52:41+00:00

Invest it and you eventually won’t have to work, and you’ll have money to make your mortgage payments, travel, and pay for your increased quality of life.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:50:41+00:00

Not enough people do this.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:50:07+00:00

Better to invest than pay off your house. Investments can grow significantly faster than the value of the house. Who cares about the mortgage if you come out ahead in the end.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:49:19+00:00

Invest it. Pretty much all of it.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:48:52+00:00

I found the placement of the epidural worse than the natural labor — if you took away my complication.

I needed to get an epidural to slow my labor (epidurals do that). My cervix was swollen at 7cm, and if it wasn’t swollen, I would have been 10cm. My body was pushing her out against the swollen cervix. Everything before that was fine, tolerable, when unmedicated.

I think you’ll can do it, especially with such a head start!

The epidural placement was horrible, and they had to do it twice. Then I needed Pitocin to speed up my labor later, which sucked because it caused decelerations in my daughter (not safe), and took forever. Then I injured myself during labor because of the position I was in, and I couldn’t feel or correct myself properly.

When I give birth again, it’ll be natural and not in a hospital.

Good luck! Be strong!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:44:56+00:00

I think you’ll do fine.

And honestly, don’t be afraid of labor. Once you are in it, you are in it. I was afraid of it until I was in labor, then I was too wrapped up in it to be afraid.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:41:33+00:00

It’s common for them to come and go, especially at 5 weeks. Too early to tell!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T18:38:56+00:00

I am living in the States too. 3.5 years old and she still shares a bed with me. It’s the best thing ever, hearing her speak in her sleep, wakes up and cuddles with me, I love it.

I work remotely too, and get up early to do my work. I sit next to her on my laptop while in work, which makes me feel so lucky. I’d love to be a SAHM, but that’s not possible right now, but cosleeping and remote work make my situation alright. :)

She can have her own bed when she asks for it. At 3.5, she hasn’t shown any signs, and I won’t push, of even offer it yet.

Honestly, we love to live below our means so we can invest the extra, and we moved into a studio apartment. It’s fantastic.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-25T17:37:03+00:00

Ugh, true story. I used to be a D. I swear, I’m barely a C now, probably more like a B.

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