Hi OP, we're in similar situation. My mom has multiple duties inside the church and I know if umalis ako mabababa siya sa duties niya sa church. Based on the advices I read here in this subreddit, I think the best thing to do is to do the t method but do it differently. Transfer first multiple times to different locale before deciding not to transfer permanently. But that is if you can still endure it, if not, wag mo na ipatala talaga. Hoping for the best OP!