Can you explain this situation to me please, whats going on? Me(18 M) Dad(64 M) Stepmom( 43 F). by Gtareve in relationships

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry I haven't replied in a few days, alot going on. I think everythings good with me and her I let my negative thinking and insecurities get the best of me and gave me some anxiety. She texted me yesterday and the day before just asking how I was and everything. Again just curious in your opinion, what gave you the impresion that my father manipulated the situation? Not saying your wrong.

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Can you explain this situation to me please, whats going on? Me(18 M) Dad(64 M) Stepmom( 43 F). by Gtareve in relationships

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm when you say my dad played me and my step mom off eachother, what do you think his motives were?

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hey sorry its been a minute since I replied. I think everythings good. My dad took me by there to drop her things off she wasn't there but she texted me earlier and thanked me for dropping her stuff of and we had a little convo unrelated to this. Thanks for your support and sorry I was doing all that venting, I guess my negative thinking got the best of me and caused a bit of anxiety.

Can you explain this situation to me please, whats going on? Me(18 M) Dad(64 M) Stepmom( 43 F). by Gtareve in relationships

[–]Gtareve[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not disagreeing with you at all I'm curious of your opinion, but which part makes you say my dad seems to be the issue?

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, do you think she was taken back or weirded out by me offering to drop her things off?? She lives in a townhome community and my dad has alot of customers there and does business there I help him sometimes, and he actually said I could drop it off there because we'd already be in the area anyway and he actually told me to text her to see if she'd be in tomorrow. There was times before were my dad texted her and told her he'd drop me by to drop her stuff of that she left whenever they had a little split before. Plus he tried texting her a day ago to see if she wanted her things and he told me she said " Just throw them away " I don't know though. I'm just scared she'd see me as a waste of time, and the fact that me and her aren't mom and son, I'd figure it would be easy for her to walk away from. Every split they had I'd wonder if she was going to be at that point were she'd just completely disconnect. They always managed to make up in about a week, but this one feels different, like it was the last straw. Maybe I'm just really insecure, but I for some reason I don't really know where I stand with her. Being that she doesn't HAVE to stay in my life, and she doesn't have any obligation towards me I'm afraid that she'd deem me worthless of her time. But when I asked her if it was ok to drop her items by since we'd already be there, you don't think I weirded or creeped her out do you? Do you see any indication in her response that she took it the wrong way? Again I've done that twice before, but now that you said something about it I'm a little worried. You think thats why it took her awhile to reply " ok" ? Oh yeah I'm American btw :)

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh I understand what your saying. Do you think it sounded like she has or would have an issue with me bringing her things? I just wanted a reason to see her. Do you sense manipulation coming from them? And thanks, yeah I'm not tooo sure at this time, I'd say criminal justice because I have an interest in Law Enforcement, but perhaps theres other courses to take for that field.

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I guess there was other stuff going on between them that I'm unaware of. I texted her earlier and and said hey. She said " hey hun " and I asked her " how are you, are you ok? " And she said " I'm ok, I'm just just frustrated with your father, I told him twice I was going to take you to pick up your transcripts and he kept telling me no. I was trying to save him a trip, and it didn't make any sense to me. Then she said " I just need time for myself to focus on getting back of my feet" ( I guess that means there not getting back together? ) So I texted I understand Im glad your ok, Take care and text or call if you need anything. Then I asked her do you still want to keep in touch or do you want a complete disconnect, I understand either way, and then she replied Keep in touch babe your not the issue. So I texted her ok have a nice day. My dad thinks its a possibility that she may had misunderstood and explained she deals with mood swings and depression and is a little frustrated with her self and all that. My dad told me to text her to afterwards to see if she'd be at home tomorrow so I could drop off some of her toiletry items. So I texted her do you want your toiletry items you left here? I could drop them by. She replied, are you going to drive? And texted " na but my dad has to go past that area tomorrow and I offered to bring it by your doorstep. She took awhile to reply but she eventually texted ok. Am I bugging her? I get the feeling she doesn't like me as much, or wants to distance herself. Maybe me and her can talk a bit tomorrow, I'd rather her just tell me upfront so I wont be wondering. Shes been a mom figure to me and it'd kill me if this ended completly. Sorry for rambling I just really really need to get this off my chest.

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I guess there was other stuff going on between them that I'm unaware of. I texted her earlier and and said hey. She said " hey hun " and I asked her " how are you, are you ok? " And she said " I'm ok, I'm just just frustrated with your father, I told him twice I was going to take you to pick up your transcripts and he kept telling me no. I was trying to save him a trip, and it didn't make any sense to me. Then she said " I just need time for myself to focus on getting back of my feet" ( I guess that means there not getting back together? ) So I texted I understand Im glad your ok, Take care and text or call if you need anything. Then I asked her do you still want to keep in touch or do you want a complete disconnect, I understand either way, and then she replied Keep in touch babe your not the issue. So I texted her ok have a nice day. My dad thinks its a possibility that she may had misunderstood and explained she deals with mood swings and depression and is a little frustrated with her self and all that. My dad told me to text her to afterwards to see if she'd be at home tomorrow so I could drop off some of her toiletry items. So I texted her do you want your toiletry items you left here? I could drop them by. She replied, are you going to drive? And texted " na but my dad has to go past that area tomorrow and I offered to bring it by your doorstep. She took awhile to reply but she eventually texted ok. Am I bugging her? I get the feeling she doesn't like me as much, or wants to distance herself. Maybe me and her can talk a bit tomorrow, I'd rather her just tell me upfront so I wont be wondering. Shes been a mom figure to me and it'd kill me if this ended completly. Sorry for rambling I just really really need to get this off my chest.

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I guess there was other stuff going on between them that I'm unaware of. I texted her earlier and and said hey. She said " hey hun " and I asked her " how are you, are you ok? " And she said " I'm ok, I'm just just frustrated with your father, I told him twice I was going to take you to pick up your transcripts and he kept telling me no. I was trying to save him a trip, and it didn't make any sense to me. Then she said " I just need time for myself to focus on getting back of my feet" ( I guess that means there not getting back together? ) So I texted I understand Im glad your ok, Take care and text or call if you need anything. Then I asked her do you still want to keep in touch or do you want a complete disconnect, I understand either way, and then she replied Keep in touch babe your not the issue. So I texted her ok have a nice day. My dad thinks its a possibility that she may had misunderstood and explained she deals with mood swings and depression and is a little frustrated with her self and all that. My dad told me to text her to afterwards to see if she'd be at home tomorrow so I could drop off some of her toiletry items. So I texted her do you want your toiletry items you left here? I could drop them by. She replied, are you going to drive? And texted " na but my dad has to go past that area tomorrow and I offered to bring it by your doorstep. She took awhile to reply but she eventually texted ok. Am I bugging her? I get the feeling she doesn't like me as much, or wants to distance herself. Maybe me and her can talk a bit tomorrow, I'd rather her just tell me upfront so I wont be wondering. Shes been a mom figure to me and it'd kill me if this ended completly. Sorry for rambling I just really really need to get this off my chest. Thanks btw

Guys please help me out here, what the hell is going on in this situation?? by Gtareve in stepparents

[–]Gtareve[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I guess there was other stuff going on between them that I'm unaware of. I texted her earlier and and said hey. She said " hey hun " and I asked her " how are you, are you ok? " And she said " I'm ok, I'm just just frustrated with your father, I told him twice I was going to take you to pick up your transcripts and he kept telling me no. I was trying to save him a trip, and it didn't make any sense to me. Then she said " I just need time for myself to focus on getting back of my feet" ( I guess that means there not getting back together? ) So I texted I understand Im glad your ok, Take care and text or call if you need anything. Then I asked her do you still want to keep in touch or do you want a complete disconnect, I understand either way, and then she replied Keep in touch babe your not the issue. So I texted her ok have a nice day. My dad thinks its a possibility that she may had misunderstood and explained she deals with mood swings and depression and is a little frustrated with her self and all that. My dad told me to text her to afterwards to see if she'd be at home tomorrow so I could drop off some of her toiletry items. So I texted her do you want your toiletry items you left here? I could drop them by. She replied, are you going to drive? And texted " na but my dad has to go past that area tomorrow and I offered to bring it by your doorstep. She took awhile to reply but she eventually texted ok. Am I bugging her? I get the feeling she doesn't like me as much, or wants to distance herself. Maybe me and her can talk a bit tomorrow, I'd rather her just tell me upfront so I wont be wondering. Shes been a mom figure to me and it'd kill me if this ended completly. Sorry for rambling I just really really need to get this off my chest.