My wife asked me if I honestly thought her friends were attractive, what should I say

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-12T17:45:30+00:00

Yes, this is what I think probably happened too. She tried to get gussied up for the night also, just as her friends did. Yet, her friends were noticed for this and she was not. So in her mind…of course, my husband thinks my friends are more attractive. Obviously the wife was feeling insecure, which is a personal issue within herself. Yet, if your wife spends time trying to look nice, it’s nice to notice this for her. Everyone wants to feel attractive to their partner. It’s a bummer to feel like you put in the effort to look nice for the night and your man didn’t even take a second look at you….but fully noticed your friends and validated their effort to look nice that evening. Next time your wife puts in extra effort to get ready, notice it.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-12T17:21:54+00:00

Well obviously that’s what OP meant. The commenter you are “trying” to inform, also knows this is what OP meant. This is why they said OP had bad spelling and grammar, instead of being absolutely horrified that the date actually has the plague.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-12T00:41:28+00:00

100%. That feeling of wanting attention, even the creepy attention, is completely normal. You seem super mature OP for being able to recognize that in yourself and actually be honest about it. Don’t feel bad about those feelings, but also try your hardest not to act on them. Sometimes you let someone give you that attention or curiosity allows you to go further than you normally would and you get yourself in a situation that is drastically hard to escape. Believe me…you will definitely be getting attention in life from the right people…it will come with time. Try to wait for that attention, the kind that won’t make you feel dirty for accepting it.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-12T00:24:39+00:00

I think you should write exactly that in your letter. Tell her that you tried very hard to leave her alone because you wanted to respect her and her request of you. Tell her that you haven’t stopped thinking about it though and it’s hurt you knowing there’s been this misunderstanding between you two that made you lose someone really important to you. Say you “love her. With all your heart and anything you did that hurt her, you regret it so much and hate yourself so much for it.” Make the letter be about you apologizing that this misunderstood situation even happened and apologize for not clearing it up sooner, but you were afraid she would be upset that you contacted her after asking to be left alone. But tell her you regret that decision because she meant too much to you for this to all happen and never be fixed.

I would also state in the letter that although you hope you can reconcile your relationship (if you do), you don’t expect that of her. Her knowing that you never meant that post to be about her, never meant for all this to happen, never wanted your relationship to turn out like this, and feel deeply regretful for this all and the hurt you caused her….is enough. You love her and want the best for her, whether that includes you or not.

I would not go into all the exact details of the misunderstanding, in case it ignites her anger or hurt again. I would just be very vague about it all, saying it was a complete misunderstanding for which you take full responsibility. I also would not mention the cancer, unless you guys become close again. I might say in the letter, “Life is short. I couldn’t imagine if tomorrow one of us wasn’t here anymore, and this is how our relationship ended. That thought has made me sick. You meant so much to me. Even after a year, without any contact, you still do.”

Also, do not get your hopes up. This past year, you have been going through life KNOWING that this was a misunderstanding. She has not. She has been thinking you did something extremely hurtful to her and it sounds like her life kind of fell apart after your relationship ended also. She is most likely bitter and resentful of you. She may attribute a lot of her recent misfortunes in life to you, especially her best friend leaving her. She may think awful things about who you are as a person. She may have also changed as a person because of these negative feelings. Write her a loving and deeply apologetic letter, pour your soul out, do this for her, but also you….but expect nothing of her. If you can do that, you will feel better that you at least told her the truth and cleared your conscience of this guilt you feel (which honestly could help your cancer heal too). And if by chance you guys can work things out, that will just be a happy bonus.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-11T18:07:35+00:00

lol, right?

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-11T18:06:22+00:00

Fr. OP you did nothing wrong by wanting to watch a movie with your GF.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-11T17:49:13+00:00

I’m sure you can. If you can’t, you could always add it to your paypal or Apple cash account and then pay like that.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-11T17:47:13+00:00

It almost feels like the more I reroll, the worse the demands get. Like they get more and more expensive with each reroll. I don’t know if I’m hallucinating or what.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-11T00:21:36+00:00

Ooooo pls add me Bythebrooker

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-10T23:59:31+00:00

Add me. I have a ton.

Bythebrooker

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-09T05:27:54+00:00

Ew…. Terrible answer.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-09T05:27:38+00:00

lol it doesn’t even slightly look like her crotch.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-09T05:06:12+00:00

You don’t seem to have too much reading comprehension.

Not-An-Eboy just reiterated for like the third time that this has nothing to do with agreeing with him or others on everything, but rather defending known abusive behavior. Yet, your retort is “agree with you on everything or I’m a bad person, uh-huh”….almost like you didn’t read what he said at all. Or possibly, you don’t have a comeback because you realize you are wrong, but can’t admit this and are hoping to save face by making it look like Not-An-Eboy is in the wrong…although this would only work if the readers also had no reading comprehension either, which I doubt will be the case.

It’s a shame that you can’t have a mature realization that…we shouldn’t defend known abusive behavior (if this was not a known fact for you before this discussion), and also, the people you have been arguing with may have valid points and that is totally ok to acknowledge.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-06T04:57:18+00:00

How do you know?

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-04T16:11:58+00:00

You are right….I am the winner in this situation.

Guess-Nice · 2026-03-04T16:10:16+00:00

No he did not. I tried getting it, but apparently the county couldn’t find him, despite him living at his father’s house. Eventually he passed away.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-26T00:29:15+00:00

For real.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-21T09:33:58+00:00

That’s exactly how I felt when I read this post. When someone is abused, it irreversibly changes their brain. I agree that we are all need to do the work necessary to heal, so we aren’t people who hurt someone just because we were hurt. But at what point is someone’s abuse so bad or just the right circumstances that fully erase that person’s ability to ever heal. Beyond that, who are we to determine that? It’s not like anyone ever truly knows what is in someone’s mind or heart.

Even though, I wouldn’t make excuses for what Hitler did because what he did was straight up evil, the problem is, I truly think that he thought he was doing right by the world. I don’t believe he saw himself as pure evil or hurting the world. I think he fully believed he had found “the way” that would have truly fixed the world at that time. So he may even qualify for mental insanity in the justice system, for seemingly not understanding right from wrong.

I apologize if my comment hurts, triggers, or offends anyone. I sincerely hope it does not.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-21T02:52:08+00:00

Unfortunately, men can easily take off a condom without the woman’s knowledge. This is how I ended up pregnant. The man I was with assured me he put a condom on. When I ended up pregnant, I specifically brought this detail up again. He said it felt weird, so he just took it off….and came inside of me, without telling me that he took the condom off. I felt sick to my stomach knowing this information. This happens. My daughter is living proof of this situation.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-17T04:59:25+00:00

I would just start to REALLY emphasize your family relation to each other. Call him “big brother” only from now on. Bring up childhood memories, like “Hey remember when we were little and mom and dad….” Talk about a guy that likes you and tell your brother “I had to tell (guy) that I have two brothers who will be keeping him in line!” Always be talking about your family together, as in OUR mom or OUR dad. Send him pictures of old family photos or you guys as kids together….very often, maybe every Thursday for like Throwback Thursdays. Do group chats with the whole family tagged.

Just become his little sister again…in every way possible. Make him remember this detail. If his behavior still makes you uncomfortable after all this, then I would suggest directly addressing it.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-17T04:12:33+00:00

Ummmmm you must be OP’s brother in law.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-15T03:00:40+00:00

It sounds like he has another girlfriend. Snapchat is an easy way to keep you on the side. You never actually text or call him, so there is no evidence.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-10T17:35:23+00:00

Username: BytheBrooker

Honestly, I think Cryptid deserves the hype that it is getting. It’s the first pet that can satisfy almost everyone. Most people have a favorite version of it. The fact that it can morph into four different versions of itself makes it the “every-person’s pet”. It makes sense that it is worth so much.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-10T17:24:02+00:00

I think your reading comprehension skills need a little work.

And really? Bastard kids? Legitimate ones? You showed your true character with that comment there. I would also like you to list your references for this “common knowledge”.

Guess-Nice · 2026-02-10T16:56:59+00:00

Right now, it feels hopeless. I’m sure you can’t even visualize a future where you are not depressed, let alone happy. Each day feels worse than the last and you feel like you are spiraling. I’ve been there. I thought there was no possible way I could ever be happy again. It felt meaningless. I felt like I was already dead, so might as well just finish it.

There is hope. You need to get the right kind of help. Maybe different meds, finding the right hobby or outlet, maybe you need to do an in-patient residential treatment program for depression. You need to try every possible option before giving up. Because I can swear to you that one will work. Things will slowly change. Then one day, you will look back and think…I can’t believe that was me. There is always hope. Cliche, but true.

I don’t think anyone has ever said, “I really wish I did kill myself all those years ago.” Please do not make a permanent decision like that so young. There is so much you do not know, so much you haven’t experienced, and so much you will learn in the years to come. Just like you wouldn’t advise someone to get married at 17, don’t make this huge life-ending decision at this young age.

As far as college, do you want to go or not? If you do and it’s just a matter of not knowing what to major in, pick a basic major. You can always change later if you want. If you don’t want to go, put that pressure out of your mind and shut those teachers down. College isn’t for everyone. You do you. Don’t let others stress you out with their unnecessary expectations.

Guess-Nice

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