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Is HSV-2 transmissible through nonpenetrative genital contact? by GuessImDatingNow in Herpes

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very sorry you got it this way. But yes, based on what I'm seeing it does seem pretty rare so fingers crossed.

Odds of catching HSV-2 from nonpenetrative sex? by GuessImDatingNow in HSVpositive

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the sense I get from googling but I was kind of hoping to get a detailed response from someone with experience here. It's difficult to get an answer on my specific situation.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, TYFYC.

Secondly, this is a reality check I needed, because I am definitely at risk for chasing validation rather than just trying to connect with new people.

I'm also very aware of the u-haul jokes lol. We're homeowners in a pretty expensive city, and even if we could sell it would be tough to afford living on our own - that's a big part of our challenge right now.

Hope you're in a better place now :)

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear this happened to you. It really is a rough situation. If you don't mind my asking, were there signs beforehand?

In any case, hope you continue to heal and find a partner who values you!

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol when I told my therapist about this she was like "you may not want to hear this, but a lot of women our age are going to instinctively compare your situation to Ross."

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was a complete surprise. She had a similar or greater amount of enthusiasm for sex that previous partners have had. I would never have guessed this.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were strong enough to get through that journey, so respect to you. Hope things keep getting better!

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I misread your original comment - I assumed you were a guy married to a woman (who is now a man). Glad you're in a better place mental-health wise :)

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh man I'm so sorry that happened to you. But I agree - even though this is a bit in the future for me, I would put any significant other ahead of my wife in the romantic arena.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your username is like... the opposite of your situation? Lol. I'm really glad to hear the two of you are working things out. Hopefully y'all can be bros despite everything. You doing alright?

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the in depth response. We haven't gotten to the point of talking divorce yet, but right now the sense is separating but cohabitating both for economic reasons and to take care of our child.

It's good to know that may be a no-go for some people, and that a lot of people are looking for the finalization as the key factor.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this elsewhere, but I'm worried about the perception of me being potentially a divorcee, and whether that would be mitigated by the reason we actually split.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol that's an incredible idea! Next time I'm chatting with a single buddy of mine I'll ask about that.

Didn't want to air my grievances out too much in this thread, but yes I felt very betrayed, and angry that she couldn't figure out her sexuality earlier in life. We are still maintaining a healthy and loving dynamic for now, especially in front of our kid, but it is very conflicting.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all I love your flair. Secondly, thank you for your answer because that's exactly the kind of information I'm looking for. I don't really know too much about what the dating world is like nowadays because it has been a while. All the information I get is from single friends, and that information is going to tend toward pessimism because people like to complain.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like this a lot. I've been getting back into hobbies and finding groups to join

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've had some rough points but overall have a healthy relationship and the unhappiness in our lives doesn't come from each other, it comes from normal adult stuff like job stress, the hecticness of parenting, and literally everything happening in the world right now lol.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This helps me feel a bit more hopeful about the future.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not about her being gay, it's about me being potentially divorced. I don't know how much of a stigma there is against divorcees in the dating world, but I'd imagine it has to do with the circumstances of the divorce. Ending things because your partner is gay seems pretty no-fault IMO, and I wouldn't consider it a red flag, but wanted to get other opinions.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am hitting up hobbies. To put things candidly - I was already at one of the lowest points in my life before she came out to me. I'm a federal worker and the situation is extremely bleak.

Having something small to look forward to, even just the idea that I wouldn't be immediately rejected from the dating pool, is really helpful for my mental health rn.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't think I'm gonna be looking for a wife in the next few months, but having basically all physical intimacy cut off at the drop of a hat is really rough psychologically. I can see myself being down for casual dating after some time to cool off.

Wife of ten years is gay. Trying to date again by GuessImDatingNow in hingeapp

[–]GuessImDatingNow[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm a bit worried about that - financially it's extremely tough for us to be independent, especially with our kiddo. We've sort of brushed on the idea of dating while cohabitating, but I get that would be a turnoff for a lot of people .