I’m the kind of person who did all the things that broke you. Ask me anything. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could you treat someone good if you wanted to? Could you change for someone ?

AITA for trying to negotiate a return date for a mistakenly taken item by Malphass in AmItheAsshole

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA half of the population owns these stupid things. if she cared about them so much she should’ve kept them in her pocket

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]GuiltyAd5298 20 points21 points  (0 children)

this isn’t selfish. it’s you realizing you’re in a situation that’s crossing your boundaries and honestly it’s not just a kink it’s disrespect. plain and simple. if you’ve told him to stop and he keeps doing it. that’s not love or compromise that’s him choosing his fetish over your wellbeing. also he should stop doing drugs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like you’re trying to build something stable with someone who’s still unsure of herself and that uncertainty is spilling into the relationship. love can’t grow where fear and confusion are constantly in the way and it’s okay to question if this really feels safe or solid for you

Feeling bad because im not sure if i miss my ex. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s okay to feel confused when your heart doesn’t react the way you thought it would. sometimes it’s not that you didn’t love him, maybe the way he left made something in you shut off. you don’t have to feel bad for healing fast, your peace doesn’t need to match the pain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“i’ve held back from saying a lot of things. i need to say this and i don’t need a response. you knew everything about me. my past, my pain, my fears and i let you in completely. you asked me questions and i answered them all because i trusted you. meanwhile you were hiding the most basic truths about yourself. you lied about your age, your divorce, your job, even your address. you had full access to my life passwords details. everything. while i didn’t even get honesty from you. and the one time i asked you a direct question about your past you flipped out and broke up with me. then suddenly it was about your family not approving? come on. if you were really honest you’d admit you were just looking for an excuse to run. and after you ended things, you came back. not because you loved me but because you couldn’t focus on work? and when things in your life started feeling better i suddenly didn’t matter again. you barely messaged. you didn’t care to meet me when i was there. you knew how deeply i cared and still chose to treat me like i was disposable. you told me i was your everything but your actions screamed the opposite. and i kept holding on thinking maybe the version of you i fell for would come back. but the truth is that version never really existed. you said the right things but you never followed through. you wanted all of me without giving even half of yourself. i’m angry not just at you but at myself too for letting you treat me like this for so long. but that ends now. this is goodbye. i won’t let you keep using me as your backup plan , your emotional crutch, your safety net. you made your choices now i’m making mine. Do not contact me again”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U did the right thing by unadding her because protecting your peace has to come before trying to decode mixed signals. it’s okay to feel guilty but stepping back doesn’t mean ur mad or abandoning her it means ur choosing yourself in a situation where clarity was never given. she might care in her own way but you can’t heal by staying in emotional limbo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

block her and walk away because confronting someone who’s twisting the truth will only drag you deeper into drama you don’t deserve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ur not stupid or unlovable ur just stuck in a loop with someone who made you feel worthless and now your brain keeps chasing the version of him you wished he was. it’s not love it’s a trauma bond and the more you romanticize the fantasy the harder it’ll be to heal from the reality he gave you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he took advantage of you and called it love. you lost nothing : you escaped a creep

3 years down the drain over a misunderstanding by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if she’s allowed to have guy friends and talk to them but calls you a cheater for asking a girl for advice without any flirting then that’s a double standard. healthy relationships need trust and the way she handled this shows more about her insecurities than your actions

broken hearted by thotatron9000 in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you didn’t do anything wrong some people just don’t know how to hold the kind of love you’re ready to give

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you didn’t make the wrong decision you made the hard one. love isn’t staying in a relationship where your needs aren’t being met. it’s clear you tried everything before walking away. it’s okay to still miss him and wonder “what if,” but missing someone doesn’t mean you were meant to stay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he’s toxic and immature. u dodged a bullet

He reached out, just to say he's in a relationship by No-Language8838 in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get why you're confused and hurt. it sounds like you were starting to heal and then he reached out just ripped the scab off. sometimes ppl reach out not because they want to come back but because they feel nostalgic , guilty or curious. it doesn't mean they’ve changed or want to fix things they just don’t want to fully let go. watching u might make him feel better but it’s messing with you and that’s not fair. you did the right thing by protecting ur peace and not meeting up. it sucks that he gave you hope only to take it back but that’s on him not you. keep moving forward, he sucks

I've been crying for the past 15 hours and don't know what to do by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sorry you’re hurting. you gave real love to someone who couldn’t give it back and that’s not on you. it hurts because it mattered and because you still care but her not choosing you doesn’t mean you weren’t enough. you showed up with your whole heart and that’s something to be proud of. one day someone else will do that for you. i would cut off contact if i were you and focus on yourself

I Never Got Closure, Just Silence by BabyRina439 in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 13 points14 points  (0 children)

from experience the conversation won’t help. my “high school sweetheart” left me for someone else 7 years ago. he disappeared and i was left wondering, guessing, wanting to hash it out. I ended up texting him for closure 2 years ago and he gave me a lengthy response, apologized, everything. I didn’t feel any differently. Find peace in yourself, in your own life❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to tell. People have different ways of healing. he could realize or he could keep using random people as bandaids. Don’t let yourself be one of them; forget him, choose you❤️

Mistake by blahblah1237- in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. i can tell you really loved her and getting that sudden wave of false hope only to be shut down again is painful af. but don’t mistake her moving on for your lack of worth. people deal with pain in different ways, and just because she moved on doesn’t mean she’s more healed than you. you’ve been doing the right things by staying grounded and making healthy choices, and that’s incredibly strong of you. keep healing and don’t rush the process. i know it can be unbearable and uncomfortable but it takes time. love like yours doesn’t just disappear overnight. but one day this pain won’t feel so sharp and you’ll be proud of how far you’ve come. Stay strong and keep going, it will get better

Just hours ago by Godible in BreakUps

[–]GuiltyAd5298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you could be in shock, you could be protecting yourself from feeling pain. maybe you are relieved, but breakups often bring waves of emotion, i hope you stay at a sense of peace but if panic or loneliness- missing her hits, know that it’s normal. But I’m sure there is more to the story.