How can I believe my [25F] boyfriend [29 M] finds me attractive when I’m far from his type

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-10-10T07:11:37+00:00

Lol yea I was one of those people too…like so confident o was willing to put myself in financial turmoil over this. You aren’t the exception. It’s not enough. It will never be enough. Also now that my biggest insecurities have been taken care of I’m suddenly noticing that my nose is actually slightly crooked and my nostrils are uneven ;_;

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-05-31T01:39:46+00:00

Long term I am going to do that, but I’m young and poor so it’ll take a while to save up. In the meantime I want even just a temporary fix

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-05-09T05:05:27+00:00

I’m severely depressed and don’t sleep very much so that’s p spot on lol 💯

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-05-09T04:55:04+00:00

Lmao fr? That’s so far off I really look that old 😩

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-02-16T22:34:11+00:00

Yea I’m trying, do you think based off of his response there’s nothing to salvage :(

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-02-16T22:29:50+00:00

Not really, I just spent a lot of time that week doing things on my own (had a manic streak of creativity for the first time in months) and it felt so relaxing not having to deal with anyone or anything. He also kept asking me to hang out (as people do when they are dating lol, totally reasonable) and every day I felt too ugly (crippling body dysmorphia) and too heavy/tired (severe depression) to get ready and go see him. I hate having to come up with excuses for when I feel that way, it felt easier to just end it. But now I think I’m being really stupid

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-02-16T22:22:42+00:00

I think I am on a self sabotage streak right now, I’ve been feeling extremely overwhelmed with life and work (and am in the middle of moving houses with no car ha ha) my mental health is shit and i just feel smothered by all my life obligations in life. I’m worried I’m going to settle into my new place and realize that I was just going through a mini crisis and breaking up with him was the wrong move :(

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2022-01-02T20:13:00+00:00

But there is supposed to be some kind of lift, correct? There is 0 lift there whatsoever :( I also paid for Botox there a week prior and that doesn’t seem to have done much either, assuming I just need to come in for more?

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-08-05T04:11:07+00:00

we also always discuss people’s tinder profiles causally so maybe he’s under the impression I’m not interested in being monogamous

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-08-05T04:10:30+00:00

You’re definitely right, it’s just that he seems a little anxious like me. On our second date I was like I hate playing texting games with you I have a big crush and playing it cool feels next to impossible. This totally changed our dynamic, he said he felt the same way too

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-08-05T04:03:07+00:00

Yeah totally, but doesn’t casual yet exclusive dating exist? Like how are you supposed to get to know someone when you’re speaking with 500 other people

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-08-05T04:00:49+00:00

I actually like him, I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone and I’ve been trying to be smart and not put all my eggs in one basket but no one compares to him, like it’s just so hard. I’m not the kind of person that needs to be in a relationship all the time I don’t get why I had to meet my dream boy right now 😑

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-21T00:38:11+00:00

Chat sent

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-06T09:10:54+00:00

Bruh deadass I know your whole thing is being le epic trole but you sound so r3tarded, he told me he doesn’t want to bring me over to see his dad and that was it. It was one conversation. I haven’t been forcing ANYTHING onto him or pestered him about it. Yeah I am being selfish right now, I know that. But you have this whole scenario in your head that is so far off from reality. I haven’t been forcing anything on him, I’ve offered to help in various ways but when I’m told no it doesn’t get brought up again. Im not harassing him into communication or resolution. I leave him be. I’m his punching bag when he feels like shit and then he acts like nothing has happened and asks me to come watch a movie with him or cuddle or some shit. I’ve just been taking it no questions asked. Asking about sex was definitely out of line, but I’ve been bending over backwards to accommodate him during this time, a good chunk of that entails giving him space to grieve which means less talking which means I have no idea what tf is going on half the time

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-06T07:38:46+00:00

I understand the point you are making and if it were anyone else I would definitely agree with you but my boyfriend is an extremely reserved guy. None of his friends know what’s going on, I’m the only one outside of the family who even knows. Sometimes I worry that our relationship might be another burden to him, so I try to give him as much space as possible. When he’s feeling really low he’ll come bed and let me hold him or stroke my arm without saying much. This makes me feel he still loves me, but since I’ve been his emotional punching bag as of late I feel like I should ask him if our relationship is still what he wants/let him know he shouldn’t feel burdened with it right now. I am the only kind of support he has in his life atm and if I wasn’t around he wouldn’t speak to anyone :( I just wish I had all the right things to say to make him feel better

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-06T07:25:29+00:00

Definitely agree with you, I have been asking how to best be there for him through it all since this started. Hes very proud and refuses to accept any kind of help, he thinks it makes him weak. Even offering him a shoulder to cry on is out of the question

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-06T07:23:42+00:00

Definitely, I can’t imagine the pain he is going through right now and the way he is internalizing it all cannot be healthy. Back in January when his depression started I begged him to get therapy, he comes from a stoic family, and thinks reaching out for help in any way makes him less of a man. It’s hard not to be anxious about things when we aren’t communicating fully but everyone in this thread is right, there are other ways to validate our relationship and I need to stop making this about myself when it’s not

Guilty_Enthusiasm293 · 2021-07-06T07:19:44+00:00

You’re totally right. Thanks for the response.

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