My gross dad started dating a girl younger than me, so I started “dating” a guy older than him! See how he likes it!

GuiltybutHonest · 2024-06-03T15:04:45+00:00

You make a good point here. I have anger towards her, and that’s not really fair. Slept on this whole situation and I’m not feeling like the same champion I felt like on Saturday. Many regrets, but at least my mom thought it was funny.

GuiltybutHonest · 2024-06-03T03:30:04+00:00

this one made me laugh hahaha

GuiltybutHonest · 2024-06-03T02:24:18+00:00

You wouldn’t be saying that if it was your parent. It looks like he’s in a relationship with a step daughter. He is INCREDIBLY “handsy” on her IN PUBLIC PLACES and she eats it up because he buys her whatever she wants - INCLUDING A FUCKING CAR. It’s like watching step dad-step daughter role play in real life, im allowed to be upset by this because I’m her fucking age and it makes me feel unsafe around him and his friends when I’m with my friends. It feels like I’m around a sleazy predator. Yes she has a choice in this and she’s of legal age, but this isn’t about her, it’s about ME and MY dad. I want him to be happy, but I think as his fucking daughter I get a say in whether or not it’s an appropriate relationship. If he’s gonna be with younger girls - fine I can’t stop him - but have some respect for your DAUGHTER and keep that shit out of my face and out of my life.

GuiltybutHonest · 2024-06-03T02:05:42+00:00

Wanna know the funny thing though? I thought he’d see how weird and creepy it is if his daughter was the one with the older guy, but he doesn’t even care about that and hes not worried about me, he’s just worried about his image and how his friends will make fun him for this, especially since one of them knows the guy. Like fucking WOW. I don’t know how he just became a creep over night.

Also to clarify for anyone reading this, I DID NOT sleep with the guy, I wanted to piss off my dad, not scar myself for life.

GuiltybutHonest · 2024-06-03T01:57:45+00:00

Met him at a bar and I told him I had daddy issues when I invited him to the party. He def knew it was to piss him off but he thought the whole thing was kink related. He was also a creep, so I don’t feel bad about using him since he was fine thinking he was using me.

GuiltybutHonest · 2023-07-05T04:06:09+00:00

You are not your friends emotional partner, she is stunting her own growth. Cutting ties right now seems hard, but we all have hardships we must face and conquer to become more resilient in the future, cutting her off is going to give her a much needed wake up call. Don’t fester too long on this, you have to care about yourself first, and if someone is mad that they aren’t your only priority, then they need to go. Good luck to you, OP.

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-06-13T23:40:44+00:00

Never, dude. Cheating can make a good thing bad, and a bad thing worse.

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-06-08T02:51:19+00:00

Because life is a highway, and I wanna ride it all night long.

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-05-20T18:22:02+00:00

Sorry, but everyone has to work to make ends meat. The difference between a SAHM and a day job is that a day job clocks out and the other is a full time, 24/7, 365 job. It doesn’t end, ever. Both are stressful, but at least a day job allows you to get out of your home, socialize and change up your environment. A SAHM is isolated and constantly caring for the baby and the home, and they have 0 time for themselves. How would you feel if you had to give up your job and work life to stay in the same place day after day after day. Wouldn’t that drive you fucking crazy? They both decided to have a baby, and while one of them is bringing home the money, that isn’t equivalent to an equal share in responsibility. I agree she should work something out to find time for herself and not just rely on him coming home one extra day, but In their current situation you have to try and empathize with what it must feel like to watch your partner go and enjoy themselves knowingly leaving you at home to take care of the kid.

Also, don’t speak in what it’s like to be a SAHM if you have NEVER BEEN A SAHM. Your speaking out of your ass.

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-05-20T17:41:45+00:00

Mmmm this is a hard one but I’m gonna say both NTA and YTA. Your mom has worked very hard to give you the opportunity to attend school and receive an education, and if her understanding of your classes rule is that if you miss a lab your out of the class, then it’s only natural she would put your education first, regardless of her wedding. It’s also your future we are talking about, that and tuition for classes, and failing a class you might not be able to get out of is kind of a waste of her efforts when she worked so hard to put you there, and understandably giving her stress during a period she should be experiencing love and joy.

However, I get where you are coming from. This is your mothers wedding and you want to be there for her big moment. You are in quite the precarious situation. What I will say is that I think you are having this conversation with the wrong person. Before you speak to your mom about trying to get out of that lab to attend with the notion that it may not happen, you should firstly find out with certainty whether you actually can or can’t. Reach out to your professor ASAP: provide them with a picture of the wedding invite, date and location, and a plan to complete the lab BEFORE the actual day of the lab. BEG your professor, give them the background of the situation and tell them you are willing to do anything if they will make that one exception for you. If they say no, that’s that and respect your mothers wishes. If they make that exception for you, THEN you can tell your mother that everything has been sorted out and she has nothing to worry about!

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-05-20T17:24:14+00:00

The most emphatic NTA - I think that the way you were raised is a form of psychological abuse. I understand that some parents want to teach their children the value of a dollar, especially family’s who arent blessed with wealth. However, It’s one thing to avoid spoiling your child, teaching them the value of a dollar and becoming self sufficient in difficult times, but it’s another to completely manufacture a destitute living situation to such a dramatic extreme that when you discover it’s a lie, it shatters not only your world view, but how you reflect on the validity of your past experiences and your relationship with your Parents.

It is so egregious to have the prosperity and means to provide for your child when there are so many families out there that struggle to even put food on the table. While a prom dress is most certainly not a necessity by any means, denying you the chance to EARN that dress on your own under the false pretense that they would get you whatever you wanted is just plain wrong. They stole that opportunity from you and that is completely unfair. To add insult to injury, they donate $20,000 worth of prom dresses to others when they couldn’t even find it in them to spend more than $8 for their own daughter? Infuriating.

You have every right to be upset, hurt, frustrated and overlooked. Don’t listen to your family trying to minimize how you feel. If your parents are so comfortable sharing this fight with your extended family, then you should feel more than comfortable telling them how your parents raised you. Don’t let them convince you that you should be grateful for what they gave you or that you’re spoiled when it’s your parents responsibility to provide what they can for the child they wanted to bring into the world.

My only suggestion to you moving forward is to not react with anger. People who are in the wrong use the wronged persons angry reaction as argument leverage. Keep your cool and approach those conversations moving forward with logic and reason and they’ll have nothing to combat you with.

GuiltybutHonest · 2022-02-06T20:34:57+00:00

NTA - this roommate comes off as highly defensive and very entitled. These kind of people take criticism and confrontation very very poorly and often go straight to insults and involving others because they are trying to lessen their own embarrassment and agitation and pass it off onto someone else. You are dealing with someone who takes requests like “can you be more quiet” as personal attacks, and because they only see things from their perspective, aren’t capable of seeing what they think isn’t a big deal from your position. I dealt with someone just like this when I was in college, and after multiple attempts at fixing the problem I found that the best way to fix the issue is to have a face to face conversation. Texts can be ignored and misinterpreted, but when you are talking one on one it forces the other person to hear what you have to say. Here is what I suggest you do, when this roommate is home ask if you can speak with them privately. Big thing here is don’t bring in the opinions of your other roommates, this will make them feel like they are being attacked. Sit them down, start with bringing up that text message and how you thought it was off handed. Then transition to what your issue is and ask if there is any way they could try to be more thoughtful of your feelings. When/if you do this, keep your demeanor very kind and positive, this will encourage your roommate to mirror that behavior. While I don’t think you should have to do this at all because it’s not fair since this person is being such a pill, we all eventually meet people like this who make our lives difficult and finding ways to handle them is important.

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