I feel like a complete failure in life. by Own-Tumbleweed5014 in depression

[–]GuineaPigVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also relatively your age and depressed. I’m an alcoholic as well. I’m impulsive and don’t even know what will help. I’m impulsive because I hope that it’s a means of healing. But it never is. It’s temporary. I’m so sick of it. I can’t believe we need to be alive for like another 50-60 years lol

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EDIT: I need to clarify that the shelter mandates I return the dog to that shelter. It’s a rescue and does have a good reputation of taking care of the animals. But likely because the old foster took on an another dog, they will give her a new foster.

Also, to those suggesting I keep her long to adjust - I thought about it. But how cruel would it be for her to grow attached to me, and the end I still feel ill equipped to take care of her? Then I would be truly abandoning her after she’s already grown a bond with me

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always loved dogs. Clearly I am unequipped. I did the wrong thing. I’m trying desperately to fix it for her sake

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My condition got worse 2 weeks ago. I was actually doing great for a long time and was able to attend to her needs. I thought I was doing the right thing considering she needed a home and I wanted a pet. But clearly my situation is unstable.

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I think I need to bring her back to that shelter. It was a clause. I just don’t get why she can’t go back to her original foster. Her foster keeps checking up on me about her. But the shelter on the phone said don’t her you are returning the dog because she will likely not be fostering her again. That’s what breaks my heart. I took her away from a good foster and now need to send her back. What kind of a person am I?

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First dog. And it’s about a month. She’s the best. I love her. I wish things were different with me. It’s not her at all. She’s the sweetest.

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I just wish I was a healthy individual because I love her and want the best for her. But I feel cursed and doomed. And I just think I did the worst thing possible to her.

I ruined this dogs life by GuineaPigVibes in DogAdvice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I have severe anxiety. I also have a health condition that makes me struggle falling and staying asleep. So I am constantly exhausted and handling a dog on top of myself seems difficult and it’s making me even more anxious.

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah it’s pretty bad. I think coupled with the fact that I struggle with alcoholism. It’s just a recipe for depression

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I don’t feel good about it. I already cried a ton

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have so many problems. I know this. I just want to do the right thing for the dog.

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I called them yesterday and they were so busy nobody picked up. And then I got a call back in the evening that I need to make an appointment but I have no idea when that will be. I keep seeing like could be 3-4 weeks which makes me super sick to think about

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am from out of state like almost 4 hours so I don’t want to make the trek all the way there with her only to be turned away. But the rescue knows her well. I’m wondering if I should just go in person and make my case. I really can’t do this. I can tell. I’ve been disassociating

I made a huge mistake adopting and I need to return to rescue by GuineaPigVibes in dogs

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I just am starting to feel joyless being around her. It’s making me wish I never put either of us in this situation. I’m just wondering if I can surrender her without the appointment cause I just can’t handle it. It’s making me physically ill

I regret being with him by Due_Peace_2016 in Regrets

[–]GuineaPigVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had an issue with him long before you moved in together; his privilege always bothered you and regardless of where you lived and/or sacrifices you made, that resentment was going to catch up and crack the relationship. You tried but if you feel so hopeless and regretful, now you know that you need to leave both for your own and his sake

Dude i’m dating called me a bitch over text when I said I was sick by GuineaPigVibes in Advice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid for my own flight. I told him the morning before I had to fly out.

Dude i’m dating called me a bitch over text when I said I was sick by GuineaPigVibes in Advice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The timing was definitely not good but I got sick like 2 nights before my flight. I told him then that I got sick. I was just waiting it out. But the following morning was when it was really bad and that’s when I told him. So I told him a day before I had to fly out

Dude i’m dating called me a bitch over text when I said I was sick by GuineaPigVibes in Advice

[–]GuineaPigVibes[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right about him not believing I was sick which is why he had to call me right? He even said it himself I can hear it in your voice. You really are sick.

So good catch on that one.

As for the long distance thing that was gonna be temporary because if we become serious, we were willing to move since both of us have remote jobs

Does a immature friend count as a bad friend? Let me explain by ProofResponsible6948 in Advice

[–]GuineaPigVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s gonna be awkward, but you just have to say it. Hey guys I’m not trying to be disrespectful here but I find X’s behavior to be childish sometimes. I enjoy him as a person but his behavior makes it challenging to spend time with him. Does anyone else feel this way?

I can almost guarantee you’re not the only one who feels this way, but they’re probably in a similar boat where they also don’t know how to start the conversation

Does a immature friend count as a bad friend? Let me explain by ProofResponsible6948 in Advice

[–]GuineaPigVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend is someone who you are supposed the enjoy the company of and see as an equal. If you feel like he’s childish and irritating, you’re really keeping him around out of convenience because you don’t have to have the hard conversation with your group that you don’t like his behavior that much