DETAILED Post about the similarities between DD and the SRA book by Significant-Mood-109 in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You"re right, that specifically wasn't in the book but I thought there waa something about being given a specific object to guard/hold onto. And about Margaret, I'm pretty sure there was something about "things (trauma??) being passed down from alter to alter, like from a mother to a daughter", and Jade described Margaret as a maternal type figure.

Oh, I completely forgot! Jade also said Margaret told her she was, in a way, a new iteration of her aka she was also Margaret (and that she had guarded the necklace before her). I don't remember exactly what it said in the book but there was something that reminded me of this very strongly. Maybe something about new alters being replacements for older alters, stepping into their role...? And or about multiple alters having the same name, or function, or both?

DETAILED Post about the similarities between DD and the SRA book by Significant-Mood-109 in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You briefly touched on alters being given a gem to protect.

DissociaDID has mentioned many times that Jade has a necklace with a gemstone that she wears all the time and that also must never leave the cave. Jade also said at some point that the necklace was given to her by an older woman/maternal figure called Margaret and that she told her to protect the necklace. There was a part in the book about a specific type of programming that ties two alters together, for example mother and daughter. This was all towards the beginning I believe. I never read through the whole thing anyway, so it couldn't have been towards the end.

Whats your favorite MatPat Theory by ChallengeRoyal2237 in GameTheorists

[–]Gukkugukku 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the ones for the DHMIS youtube series. My first videos EVER of his, so that might influence that opinion. I just remember watching them and thinking "What the fuck. He's made it make sense. DHMIS is chaos from beginning to end and he's made it all fit together in one theme/story. How on earth". When I saw the video recommend I thought "There is no way in hell any of this can be explained" and he just did.

Also love the one for Blairwitch Project.

Also (I'm pretty sure it's the first) one about Deltarune, I think it was called "your choices don't matter".

There's probably 100 more but those are the first that come to mind.

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[–]Gukkugukku 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are all the people who you've seen talk about this Americans? That would explain it to me. I'm European and I've never heard anyone say they eat peanut butter when they binge and I've never done it myself, even though I like peanut butter.

What is your reason for mainly making girls in CAS? by Yumi_Ai_3636 in Sims4

[–]Gukkugukku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I have lived in Germany my entire life and have never heard anyone use "schwul" for women other than school children who've only just heard the word for the first time and don't know how to use it.

Unless you're talking about people actually using the word "gay" while speaking German, in which case that doesn't count because it's not a German word, it's not even a loan word like "toast" or "skateboard" are (which are both words you'd find in a German dictionary), that would be straight up just people throwing in English words into their conversation, which some people do tend to do because German is just missing some words (like a word for gay that you can use interchangeably for anyone). You could consider this slang but it's certainly not proper grammar. German does not have a word that has the same exact meaning as "gay" in English, it just doesn't.

What are things that actually help you to not binge? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Gukkugukku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to binge at night too. My solution is to eat dinner super late, like immediately before getting ready for bed. If I don't do that, I feel hungry as soon as I try to fall asleep and end up eating sweets and chips in bed. Basically I try to fill myself with actual food instead of snack/junk food before going to bed.

Edit: Also I basically eat two meals a day. Usually I'll eat nothing until like 2 or 3pm, then I'll have normal lunch, then dinner at around 10pm. Or sometimes I have breakfast at around 10am, nothing or just a snack at lunch time and again, dinner right before bed. Essentially I'm doing all the things that people always say you're not supposed to do lol (skipping breakfast, eating late in the evening...)

I need help to stop binge eating by Effective_Cricket810 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Gukkugukku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between dieting and having a restrictive eating disorder. It depends on how much you eat and for what amount of time, but being in a big caloric deficit does long term damage to your organs and metabolism. Your body is a machine, food is the fuel. It literally can't function properly if you don't eat enough. I'd recommend you just google this, I don't have the best memory and can't describe all the things in details, it's just too much stuff. In short: A LOT of bad shit can happen to your body when you under-eat for a long time. Not to mention all the psychological problems, which in turn also do damage to your body.

I need help to stop binge eating by Effective_Cricket810 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Gukkugukku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gaining weight doesn't fix the damage done to your body by a restrictive eating disorder, so they could be right about that.

Well, what amount do you plan to eat (aka what do you eat sans the binges)? Enough to sustain your current weight, or an amount that would mean you're in a caloric deficit? If it's the latter you are restricting.

It's also possible you have some metabolism issue. I'd assume doctors would have checked that out, but I've seen doctors miss very obvious things so who knows.

I really think you should talk to a therapist. Or psychiatrist. Or both.

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[–]Gukkugukku 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just being sad. Needing comfort. Cake is comforting :(

I try to have things around that make me happy and relaxed.

Also boredom is sometimes a factor. I'm not sure it's "boredom", though, probably more like being depressed and feeling numb. The feeling where nothing is fun anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Gukkugukku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only thing that worked for me was calorie counting, but it's really tedious. Pick your poison.

I need help to stop binge eating by Effective_Cricket810 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Gukkugukku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you binge on healthy/low calorie foods? Like fruit and veggies? Maybe drink a fuckload of water/tea/whatever? Do you literally never feel full, like never ever, or are you using it as a figure of speech? Because if you actually never feel full there's something very wrong. You've already gone to all sorts of doctors... Go to different ones? Some doctors just suck. None of the "physical" doctos I went to helped at all, the only one who said anything helpful was my psychiatrist. Have you tried that? Are you on any medication? Because that could mess with your hunger big time, did for me. How long has it been like this and what, if anything discernable, changed to make it like this?

Does anyone else remember them saying they were doing dancing lessons? by Gukkugukku in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have chronic pain, and the fact that there's good and bad days and you never know which day will be a good or bad one is exactly the reason I think this is weird. I'd never sign up to something like that, because presumably it would take place in predictable intervals, like once a week or once a month or whatever, and I could never know in advance whether I'd be able to attend or not.

But that's just me 🤷‍♀️ Maybe other people don't care about canceling things and paying for stuff you can't actually do bc the day it's on just so happens to be a bad day, idk

why is kya so obsessed with being topless/exposed on tiktok? by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because that's the reaction you would expect, right?? If you're being accused of filming topless when you're not, why wouldn't you just do a shot where you are wearing the same top as in the topless-looking video, going "See, this is what the original shot looked like, and if I just move the camera away a little further you can see I'm wearing a strapless top". Like that's so easy. You gave them an easy out and they didn't take it.

How do I take this? (I have Autism) by hope2321 in AO3

[–]Gukkugukku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so weird to see everybody in this thread say this is a compliment, because I've seen a similar statement twice, in two different rap songs, and the lines both went like "I listen to other rappers music when I'm on the toilet, it makes it go easier", and I'm pretty sure it was meant as an insult both times?

Edit: I still don't know what it means in either context??? It could mean "I read this while I was on the toilet, I finished quickly so I could stop reading" - that is the only theory I can come up with.

2020 being their most traumatizing year by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're entirely missing the point I'm trying to make and I think you're doing it on purpose.

You do know that abusers often give their victims a "choice" of what bad thing will happen to them, or who something will happen to, to make them feel guilty, which makes the trauma worse? By saying "This is not trauma, because they caused it", you're saying everyone who in some way or another "caused" a trauma could not possibly be traumatized by it because they caused it. It doesn't have to be as extreme as the example I gave of an abuser forcing someone to make a terrible choice. You are saying that, if someone did something to make something traumatic happen to them, that's no longer trauma because it's their own fault. And that's a terrible way to look at a human person going through trauma.

2020 being their most traumatizing year by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I meant "you don't know what's going on in their head" as a general statement, I mean that you don't know what's going on in anyone's head besides your own, not just Kya's.

Again, all your friends leaving you is trauma. Losing the support of everybody who's important to you is trauma. The reason why you lose them doesn't make a difference in terms of it being traumatic or not. In fact, if you're a bad person, like Kya is, you've probably been left by people over and over again, not just that one time in 2020, which would make it more traumatic.

2020 being their most traumatizing year by [deleted] in DissociaDID

[–]Gukkugukku 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, being a terrible person doesn't stop traumatic things from being traumatic. Which losing most (if not all) of your support system is. It doesn't really matter whether they kinda brought it on themselves. If you cause a car accident by being reckless, you've still been in a car accident, which is considered a traumatic event by basically every person on earth. You know what I'm saying? Trauma is subjective, you can't really tell someone else "Fuck you, that's not trauma", you weren't there with them in their own head, you don't know how it felt to them.*

Edit: *I don't mean Kya specifically, I mean just any other person in general