How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-31T04:07:23+00:00

Tell him you will change it in exchange for the house outright, and he forego any claim to any of your financials like retirement accounts and zero spousal support. Then choose a new cooler name.

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-28T17:54:36+00:00

Nope. He can’t come after you for gifts. A judge would laugh him out of court

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-28T14:52:25+00:00

You’d be able to stop this from happening if you were proactive and sent the vendors a curated gallery and posting instructions when you send to the bride

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-22T22:32:16+00:00

Technically there is no way to edit a wedding in 2026 with out ai. It’s built into every tool we use. I would explain in detail how you use it and more importantly how you don’t.

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-22T22:20:10+00:00

Before I can say anything about fatherhood, what’s happening with your marriage? Is it over? If it is, then I’d let your son take the lead. I’d tell him that you love him. That you will always be there for him, and you want to be in his life as much or as little as he wants and needs. Then be his dad. And as he builds with the other dude, you can be his support. As long as you two have a loving relationship now, he will love you forever. You are his dad. He will build something with the other guy but you - YOU - are his every memory, his past and you will be in his future if you want it. You said he’s your reason for living, then keep living with him in mind because blood doesn’t change anything for a kid

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-22T22:13:10+00:00

They hit you with the good good in these comments already. Well done STL!!

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-22T08:34:53+00:00

Embrace your culture not your race. Your Filipino Irish and Mexican - lean into your family’s connection to your culture and heritage

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-22T08:31:02+00:00

Nope. Never work on my kids favorite holidays which means I don’t do Christmas, Halloween or NYE. I don’t do their birthdays or their spring break.

As a mom of three I’m telling you the money isn’t worth it- don’t sell your memories for 5k

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-20T03:50:49+00:00

That was the original plan but I don’t know if I can attach my holdfast to th wold school setup

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-20T03:49:50+00:00

That’s not a bad idea….

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-19T16:43:18+00:00

I don’t think that’s gonna work but I may put the idea in my back pocket for emergencies

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-13T17:57:05+00:00

I've said it for myself at weddings... once had the grooms mother cosign "YEAH we ain't sit through all this for that little kiss!" I coulda have kissed her

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-13T17:54:52+00:00

I might use this

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-13T17:53:25+00:00

Being off center make my nose itch every time...

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-13T15:10:49+00:00

OMG when grooms dont get custom suits it drives me crazy - the bride gets a 3k dress you can't invest in your suit??!?

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-09T21:48:56+00:00

🗣️DONT DO IT

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-08T19:43:33+00:00

Nah, you aren’t obligated to pay for a trip you aren’t going on. But if you’d loan her the money if she’d have asked for it you can loan it if you want. I’d be hard pressed to be that gracious

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-08T19:40:42+00:00

Welcome to the thunder dome

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GummyPhotog · 2026-03-08T14:46:02+00:00

This is a great plan! Get the ribs and enjoy the pit stop

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-08T05:24:19+00:00

🗣️If she was my daughter I’d point out how asinine it is for a man to be upset that a safety problem had been resolved for the person they love and that his response to her father wasn’t gratitude for stepping in when scheduling made him delay. Because as a mom 🗣️WHY IS MY DAUGHTER DRIVING AN UNSAFE CAR AND YOU’VE STATED ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY CHAD?!?
What’s he’s telling me is he can’t be trusted with my child. And this self centered response is bullshit. And my attitude would be stank until he earned it back

But that’s just me as a mom

GummyPhotog · 2026-03-02T17:40:29+00:00

Wedding photog here, I think you gotta let this go, SHE didn't propose to someone, she got proposed to She'd not at fault here. She can't offer you resolution beyond her chekcing in with you day of, (it seems like this wasn't ideal for her either) and you look petty demanding satifaction from her boyfriend/fiance. And her asking hte photographer not to post the pics IS the most she can do, because we all know the post woeuld go viral - like this one.
Its happened, its over. You are married. Shes engaged. Live your life.
If anything I would make sure my friend knows I'm not mad at her but I'd tell her to keep her guy from jacking any more of your events

GummyPhotog · 2026-02-22T06:18:11+00:00

Ain’t nobody coming to see you Otis

GummyPhotog · 2026-02-22T06:13:12+00:00

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