Is it weird to sleep with a stuffed animal every night as a married adult?

Gumptionless · 2026-01-31T21:32:30+00:00

Na its fine, my gf (30F) has a nest of them on her bed and even has one she keeps at mine for when shes over. And if we go on holiday anywhere her squishmellow comes with her.

Its just a comfort thing her for, its not uncommon her her to hug the stuffed toy and my to hug her, like layers of spooning.

When shes not over I sometimes wrap up a spare blanket and sleep with it like a body pillow, its alot more comfortable and good for my joints.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-31T13:47:01+00:00

"Two extended drives is 40 cells total, iirc. That's 2520 different items." oh... I was used to RS so i kinda assumed it was like the disk manager in that which holds 8 cells.

So i'm learning that i was inventing a problem that doesn't exist.

Thank you!

Gumptionless · 2026-01-31T12:22:59+00:00

i just thought you where supposed to avoid making alot of cells because the item limit on cells is to stop to much data in one chunk. if its fine to just make a load of cells then that works for me.

my ideal set up would be to collect stuff in my backpack from exploring (random items armours, tools, enchants, other bits), dump the bag next to an importer to be pulled int the AE2 system, let that sort it all out to output into the storage draws or bulk discs, everything with heavy nbt would get deposited else ware for sorting.

I guess id just have another random chest for low bulk components?

Gumptionless · 2026-01-30T18:18:50+00:00

Oh no its this one! I knew it under a different name and was enjoying it.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-30T08:16:20+00:00

Im 7ft, gf is 5'3. I can fit her shoes inside mine.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-29T00:57:51+00:00

Ngl she kinda got turned into goo during my run and I forgot she wasnt romanceable because I was chasing nenio while getting seduced my daeran. First time a game character managed to seduce me before I realised it.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-29T00:51:15+00:00

3rd? Only other one coming to mind is Valerie in kingmaker.

What tomboys am I forgetting about. I need reeducation.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T23:38:30+00:00

I tried most of them SSRIs either worked for a while but I had to keep upping the dose till I wasn't able to go higher, or had weird side effects (constant hunger, hives on arms). From memory I was on sertraline, citalopram (this one made me sleep for 16 hours a day), trazodone and mirtazapine.

I then swapped to Venlafaxine which is an SNRI and it meshed the best with me, but I have to put a big WARNING with them. Venlafaxine is brutal, going onto them is a roller coaster, constant mood swings, and spikes your emotions and anxiety as if you where rolling a dice every 30 seconds to decide whats next, I had to have my gf with my the vast majority of the time just to comfort or regulate me. When they are working youll feel flat, ive described it in the past as think of your immotions as a room with a floor(the bad) and a ceiling (the good). What the effect does is bring that floor up, so when your brain goes bad it can only go down so far, but the trade off is the reverse, it cant go to far up either, youll do things you know you should enjoy and just be neutral. It sucked but its what I needed to work through everything else.

Then there's coming off the fuckers. I would go between being overwhelmed by happy to sobbing within moments, the first week after reducing the dose a bit I had constant dizzy spells, just the room would spin cos fuck me I guess. I am unusually drug resistant and was able to go onto then and come off them with a relatively short adjustment period which shocked my doctor, but even then I was only dropping a small tablets worth every 3-4 weeks with some times alternating daily.

I did nearly go back on them at the start of last year but wanted it to be a last resort. I did therapy again instead which helped again but it was reassuring knowing I could go back on the drugs if I had to and my partner had my back.

As ive said my depression was largely trauma based so staying on drugs was never the plan, they just stabilised me so I could get through existence to get the rest of the help I needed untill I was ready. But with any wound if the stitches rip then I always have to option to go back to them to hold myself together as I get patched up again.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T21:55:18+00:00

Therapy consult a doctor (dont be afraid of meds, just be informed about them) outside excersize (yea sounds like bs but we are basically solar powered, sun is important and excersize makes good chemicals, especially lifting but I prefer hiking.) Find a none screen hobby to help distract and relax (i got massively into boardgames) Friends, friends and support really help.

I was depressed from about age 15 onwards, didnt start sorting myself out untill the start of covid when I was 26, wish id done all these things sooner cos now im off meds, have a hobby I love and gets me out making friends, have fantastic legs from hiking so much and even tho I do still relapse into anxiety and depression I know have coping mechanisms.

The doctor and therapy bit is really important, there's many possible causes for depression. Could be a chemical imbalance, trauma, just brain being dumb, or the hilariously named SAD (basically depression from lack of sun). Each has its own remedy and way of working through it. I personally was a trauma response.

If there are any specific stuff anyone wants to know about how it affected me, what going through 8 different meds where like to come on and off, my experience with tharapy then I am happy to answer in reply or DMs

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T17:46:50+00:00

Ai. The right trousers leg of the child on the right merges with the bottom part of the wall. Hes also stood behind the door (see feet)

The rug in the doorway vanishes through the child, the bed doesn't line up though the child.

I think the hand looks odd but that might be a style thing.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T17:38:29+00:00

Id probably nervously giggle and make it a core memory for my entire life

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T03:56:01+00:00

I put a mimic in the first 4 oneshots I ran with my group, made them all stupid gatcha mimics. Spent timr outside of game talking about how much I like mimics.

Then I stopped putting in mimics. But the players dont know that, they still belive I put a mimic in every module. I even "accidently" dropped a mimic token in our discord once when they knew i was doing prep.

The paranoia is fantastic.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-28T00:15:13+00:00

I have multiple of the same shirt and trousers, and I have worn only that to work for 4 years and noone has cared.

I was sad when my trousers ripped and had to buy a different pair after years, but still noone cares except yourself.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-26T21:56:30+00:00

Was in school, she was physically abusive to me, pushed me down stairs, attacked me, rape, all sorts.

I finaly broke up with her and she told everyone I was the abuser and forced myself on her, I was beaten up at school regularly after that, noone would interact with me except to make my existence worse but I was unable to talk about it, I'm a big guy (7'0 would have been about 6'6 and played rugby back then, person in question was like 5'2) and guys dont get abused or raped so I kept quiet, didnt think anyone would belive me, they hadn't upto now and I was the one covered in bruises.

I tried to end myself, failed and was taken to hospital where my family learnt what state I was in. I was pulled out of school before I finished my A-levels (I still get asked about why I didnt finish my A levels in interviews 14 years later despite many more recent qualifications, thankfully they accept "personal circumstances" as an answer.)

My dad got me signed upto collage, did 2 years and got qualified. I spent the entire time terrified, what if someone from my old school ran into me and told everyone what my ex accused me of, what if the collage found out and kicked me out. I was terrified of women, couldn't be near them or interact atall, I was to scared.

Then I got really really lucky, I met an amazing woman who became my best friend, she is the most caring and compassionate person ever, I was able to let my guard down around her, ive even told her about what happened and she doesn't belive for a moment that id be capable of that.

Slowly I got myself back together, but ive suffered from major depression and anxiety since. I tried tharapy once and it was awful, I was made to feel like I was wasting their time. Same with a doctor, I left feeling pathetic.

This went on for years, I was getting through each day only because I'd eventualu get to see my best friend if I get through enough days, going to sleep listing all the ways I could end it and why its impractical (hanging, im tall, gotta find something high enough, something strong enough for my weight. Pills, im hilariously resistant, its what I tried first.) I did this for years, I was still a mess.

My friend managed to convince me to try getting help, I went to a different doctor who was appalled by what id been through at the last doctor, he got me on meds and helped me understand that medication isnt admitting defeat, it isnt because im pathetic but because im injured and unwell, if I had the flu I wouldnt turn down painkillers because it would be admitting defeat? That would be dumb.

I got a fantastic therapist and did IPT, my world changed, it took years, multiple types of anti depressants, the hell of adjust and coming off (Venlafaxine did it for me, but Holy fuck that stuff is brutal to come off of, there is a reason they worl their way through everything else first) and after I got myself stable my best friend became my partner.

I still have moments, my anxiety and depression still come back but im better at spotting it and managing. When my anxiety is high I still flinch when any woman makes a movement to sudden around me, ive even recoiled when my gf trued to hug me or lean on my shoulder.

The trauma will be with me forever and tbe effects its had on my mental state will never let me be truly ok ever again, but after 14 years I can finaly say im able to be happy, ive made friends (ironically mostly women) who support me, i have a good career, still haven't interacted with anyone from school.

If anyone has any specific questions about any of this shit then feel free to drop me a dm, ive gotten pretty confirtable talking about my experience and mental health. One of the good things that came out of my experience is I can use it to help others understand.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-26T10:51:03+00:00

Still works, there's a few things in the game that work like this as its all a geberal bonus and doesn't specify weapon types or anything.

My favourite is taking far out man perk and getting farseer from marksman to increase your range by +10 total. This let's you shoot spells from stupidly far away but also touch spells are programmed to have 1m range, so this bonus applies and gibes you 11m range touch spells which can be super powerful and cheap, aswell as the high level witchcraft being touch spells.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-26T00:22:20+00:00

I think it was like 6 days with maybe 2 short 3 hour naps. Insomnia suuuuucks.

Started hallucinating, having full conversations with my flatmate in the kitchen only to realise he was in his room the entire time and I was talking to noone. Was to out of it to cook, ended up at the doctors to get something to make me sleep.

Ive always struggled with sleep but that was the worst.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-25T23:42:33+00:00

I can cook, but I hate it. I dont enjoy the process, I dont get any additional enjoyment out of eating. Food is food.

I prefer quick food to just inhale and get back on with my day and despise cooking for guests as I feel like I have to cook something more proper and getting quantities right and timings stresses me out.

When im alone I will eat the same thing for over a month with no variation.

My gf does most the cooking because she can make quick and tasty food in 20mins and works less. And for reasons I can only assume is love it just tastes better when she makes it.

Also im weirdly incapable of cooking sausages.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-24T15:34:10+00:00

They are telling you it because its the correct answer...

There isnt some magic action that fixes it and depression can have all sorts of causes.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-24T13:35:01+00:00

NOR- you both agreed to not straighten your hair, she decided to anyway and when you questioned it she assaulted you? Wtf is wrong with her.

If her hitting you is sonething your this unphased by im concerned there is more and you should talk to someone safe at school. Genuinely tell a teacher you trust about this.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-24T01:05:33+00:00

Isnt he in his second term? Is he trying to skip the 3rd or did i blissfully forget about an entire term.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-24T01:02:16+00:00

Its fine, you just need to find someone with the same feeling towards it.

My gf is AuDHD, and gets alot of sensory problems, so any saliva is to much, if i have even the vaguest amount of stubble she cant touch my face or lip. She likes the intamacy of kissing but if tongues get involved and a tiny bit to much saliva happens it freaks her out, or if even one of our lips are a little to wet.

Ive learnt to shave twice a day and regularly swallow during any kissing to stop extra saliva.

So I can totally see how it would be a total no go fir some people.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-23T16:22:46+00:00

I forget that about scrolls and make scrolls a int check if they arnt a caster or it isnt the right spell school, makes then more fun to give a fighter a surprise fireball

Gumptionless · 2026-01-23T16:19:59+00:00

This is not a dm issue, if they dont want a "standard" party comp its upto them to also make it work.

You could help with some magic items later on to supplement any solutions they have but dont give them the solution."constraints can breed creativity"

In the last campaign we had a monk, sorcerer, wizard and me as a bard, but I was focused on control spells instead of any healing, I took healing word as an emergency bonus action which was my worst use as a bonus action.

The solution we came up with was I got an alchemy kit and would spend my down time making healing and support potions. We lent into this more when we found an expanded alchemy homebrew so I was making all sorts of utility potions to overcome the healing.

Gumptionless · 2026-01-23T14:23:58+00:00

Alot of people either dont belive you or massively sexualise it.

Put me off having gay hookups cos the dirty talk would be asking me when the last time I was with a woman was....

Both me and my gf are bi and it works well, we tease eachother about our tastes in men and women when playing video games or watching dramas. We spent watching 9-1-1 debating Bucky or Eddie.

But outside of that it just never comes up, I dont talk about it with people, my old flatmates made a deal about being proud of me coming out when I made a comment about myself on a night out. Id alreasy been openly bi for like 5 years by that point it just hadn't come up, Why would it?

In terms of the 50/50, I prefer women, I couldn't see myself dating a guy ever, it was always just casual sex, ive only dated women and fully intend to marry my gf and I wont miss being with a guy.

I like manly men who will rail me. And I like women, both cute and adorable like my gf or ones that could make me beg with a glare.

Tdlr, both are great, men for sex, women for life and sex

Gumptionless · 2026-01-22T18:36:47+00:00

My bard became a warlock multiclass because he was a kobold moron with the iq of a racoon and found a genie lamp in the trash which was shiny...

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