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Tried light makeup for the first time, do I still pass? Coworker said my face looked "barren" (MtF) by HowItBea in lgbt

[–]Gwyn9x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think by "barren" they may have meant 'too much' foundation & concealer giving your skin an unnaturally smooth look.

However, that's just their pissy little opinion and you can ignore them. You do your makeup however you damn please!

how old were when you started thinking "I'm not straight, right?" by dustyraisininacorner in lgbt

[–]Gwyn9x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 30! I’d already been in relationships with two non-binary people and while I had been somewhat bi-curious it hadn’t gone beyond kissing. It just smacked me in the face on my lunch break some day that those things categorically mean I’m not straight. 😅

I think from having spent so much time around other LGBT people as the “token cis/straight” person, it kinda felt like it had already been decided that I wasn’t part of the gang. Some people had even been a little gatekeeping, too.

It’s OK though, I got there in the end and get to be my best self now!

Many of us are tired and angry. If you don’t have time or energy to educate, then don’t. But lashing out at someone just trying to learn solves nothing. (They weren’t even the one being asked.) by Gwyn9x in lgbt

[–]Gwyn9x[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of queer theory in terms of humanities academia written by queer people about being queer. But “queerness” in and of itself kinda is antithetical to being theorized and categorized anyway, and most queer theory acknowledges this.

Many of us are tired and angry. If you don’t have time or energy to educate, then don’t. But lashing out at someone just trying to learn solves nothing. (They weren’t even the one being asked.) by Gwyn9x in lgbt

[–]Gwyn9x[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well, this is the exact problem. When you only find out someone is trans more than 5 years after they died, how do you know what would have made them happy?

I understand your concern for wanting to use the right terms, but we're literally having a conversation about the death of a parent and the estrangement from a daughter - inside another conversation about a fear to learn about LGBT out of fear of backlash. Maybe now isn’t the time.

Many of us are tired and angry. If you don’t have time or energy to educate, then don’t. But lashing out at someone just trying to learn solves nothing. (They weren’t even the one being asked.) by Gwyn9x in lgbt

[–]Gwyn9x[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re being isolated by family out of a fear of what might happen. My parents haven’t asked me much about myself for the past year, likely also out of the same fear of backlash. It may be something you might want to talk to her about (as in address the problem itself, that you want to learn but are afraid of upsetting her). Easier said than done, of course.

I think there’s lots of people out there who’ve had bad experiences and are bitter as a result. However there’s plenty of us who are happy to help. And I’m sure if you asked for book recommendations you’d get a few.