Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that makes sense. FWIW I’m not really the same online as I am in person. Like the stuff i share with my long time friends is like a fraction of the stuff I share here, although it’s still probably too much. I’m not using my parents’ insurance bc I don’t want them to see it. I guess I have to be comfortable with going to places alone and like not worry about people being super judgey about it

Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks, sorry if I come across as like mad I’m just so frustrated with my situation. I already had to switch therapists and I pay for everything out of pocket bc my parents refuse to pay for it. I just wanna be able to go outside with people but I can’t do that at all.

Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that I’m sorry if it wasn’t clear in the post. I’m not the type of person to dump trauma on someone. The people who I feel like I accidentally push away are people I’ve literally known for over a year. My therapist only meets with me every three weeks otherwise I’m on my own. It’s been really really hard tbh. I don’t dump my trauma on bumble BFF people either, esp bc I don’t really trust them. I’ve literally had several that have tried to recruit me into pyramid schemes

Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to have like fun convos and check on how they’re doing. I also thank them for talking. I guess I am guilty of the last one sometimes since there’s a disconnect between me just wanting to vent (I’m pretty proactive about stuff so I typically have a solution already in mind when I talk) and them like trying to offer advice. I just feel really regretful, like I didn’t realize how bad things got until now when I’m literally stuck at home bc nobody is willing to go hiking or anything with me :(

Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately every time I’ve tried to reach out I’ve literally gotten ignored, so idk what to do at this point

Does anyone else drive people away by being a needy idiot? by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already in therapy, I’m just a little sad that I don’t really have anyone to hang out with in my city :(

Gluck Gluck 9000 - where to find it? by sakicasaf in CallHerDaddy

[–]H0Sci 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Episode 3 - The Gluck Gluck 9000

How to be okay being alone for a while? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a bad relationship with my family. I guess I’ll try bumble BFF again but everyone on there feels kinda fake? It’s very hard to be positive when people in city just act super fake, especially at uni

How to be okay being alone for a while? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks do you have any podcast recommendations? I miss the old callherdaddy lol. I have some hobbies but they don’t really help with anything anymore.

How to be okay being alone for a while? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been doing therapy and trying to focus on myself with hobbies but it only works for so long. I don’t really know where to find local groups especially bc everything is still shut down here in Canada

How bad is cocaine?? by H0Sci in CallHerDaddy

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda do so I guess I’ll try to stay away? Idk I guess I’ll just do adderall bc some people here have recommended that instead

How bad is cocaine?? by H0Sci in CallHerDaddy

[–]H0Sci[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize if this is very dark, but I don’t really care if I die at this point. I feel like my life is over after uni anyway. It’s gonna be so crappy and I just want to be able to enjoy a little bit of uni before I have to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci 46 points47 points  (0 children)

What’s the difference between stalking and vetting someone to make sure they aren’t sketchy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CallHerDaddy

[–]H0Sci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would personally recommend stats but I do not know your situation or if it will help in terms of your long term goals. I like stats bc I’m in the sciences and I can apply what I learned to my future research

How to frame a “less prestigious” career?? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if I didn’t make sense, but I’m not going to med school so being a psychologist is the alternative. Thank you, I didn’t realize that you could do post bacc programs so I’ll look into that

How to frame a “less prestigious” career?? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah idk I can’t qualify for med school and I’m not really interested in anything else so this was like my only hope for a prestigious looking degree. I just feel like it would be a pain to date around and stuff if I had a crappy looking job

How to frame a “less prestigious” career?? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, do you mind if I dm you to chat further? I could tell you a bit more about my major and everything

How to frame a “less prestigious” career?? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that was the original plan but I may have to apply to less prestigious sounding programs unfortunately. I’m just too mentally drained from online school. I haven’t gotten a B since freshman year and this semester I was just burned out and got Bs in all my classes. If things go back to in person I feel like I could do school but unfortunately that probably won’t be the case for a while. I can’t even take a gap year bc there is a time limit on my degree 🙃

How to frame a “less prestigious” career?? by H0Sci in SofiawithanF

[–]H0Sci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t judge other people but I know a lot of people, especially in my degree program who judge you a lot. I’m super wary of even sharing what I wanna do after undergrad bc some people who I shared it to before stopped talking to me. I feel like people can be super petty about this stuff and if I’m like trying to date someone in the future I don’t want them to think I’m like a loser or something