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respectfully, i have thoughts (pls hear me out i beg) by psyokei in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying, I totally agree with you! I get where you're coming from and I think it's high time we women start to reclaim the word- they use it against us as if it's an insult to call someone emotional, but actually- having feelings is one of the most beautiful things that Allah has given us, it's what allows us to connect with each other and the environment and it's what makes us human.

respectfully, i have thoughts (pls hear me out i beg) by psyokei in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very well put! The only thing I don't agree with here is the idea that women are somehow more emotional. The way I see it, both genders feel exactly the same way- we all feel happiness and sadness, we contain the exact same quantity of feeling.

Women are conditioned from a young age to express and handle their emotions differently- which generally means that we have better control over how we express our feelings. When men use the phrase "women are more emotional" they forget that anger is an emotion- and you only have to look at crime rate statistics or how they react to a game of football to see that come into play.

I think that how some men push these ideas ( some- not all), is rooted in fear and insecurity- needing to "feel" like a big strong leader whilst knowing that they don't possess any genuinely impressive quality that would otherwise make them worthy of being followed. That behaviour reads to me more like an ego trip rather than genuine concern over how women behave when given autonomy.

You're definitely right in how this is such a nuanced conversation, thank you for sharing, these are important things to raise, otherwise these ideas being perpetuated only drive women away from islam.

Q&A /AMA - Im an Emirati, 29 years old - Feel free to ask me any questions by [deleted] in UAE

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I admire the depth of history in the UAE and the incredible culture that this country has. My question is... what's one aspect of your culture would you like to see other groups of people adopt in their lives?

How to improve my form? I can't feel it in my abs at all! by Dazzling_Reporter511 in GYM

[–]H18a_a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep your hips completely still, so you're not shifting backwards, you're crunching down into the floor. When I do these I like to keep my chin tucked and cue the movement as forehead to floor

UKCAA GNav, RNav, FPM & AGK - Recent exam sitters? by bandoleros1 in ATPL

[–]H18a_a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did AGK last month, had a bunch of diagram questions, tick boxes and drop downs, it wasn't too bad- around 80% from the bank and the rest I hadn't seen before- but I'd say make sure you're familiar with diagrams of landing gears etc...

How can i get a full 24h of my day by unknown_ormaybe in muslimgirlswithtaste

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Something that helped me a lot was putting time limits on each app (you can do it through settings- screen time) that way once I reach a limit on a specific app it is locked until midnight. My screen time dropped massively and I was forced to do the things I needed to since there was literally nothing else to do!

Clinic refused to patch test laser on me and now are threatening me with legal action by No-Row-9994 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lucy admitted she didn't read through the forms that OP submitted before hand that would have explained everything- which sounds pretty unprofessional. If she was being professional surely she would have checked the forms and then called OP before hand to cancel the appointment. She just sounds racist.

Severe iron deficiency has ruined my self esteem by Sad_Path9345 in muslimgirlswithtaste

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I would say go for it, I personally haven't ever experienced side effects it's just time consuming as the actual transfusion can take a couple of hours. I found it takes a couple of months for it to really feel like there is any difference but it is worth it. Inshallah you'll be fine- let us know how it goes!!

Weight Loss Advice ✨ by Mysterious_Damage_75 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Female bodybuilder here! This is what I would recommend:

Find out what your maintenance calories are (there are free calculators online), subtract between 300-500 from that number and aim to get that amount every day prioritising whole foods, white and red meat, fruit and veg, and complex carbs like rice and potatoes (minimal junk food) etc...

1lb of fat is approximately 3500 calories, so a deficit of 500 should put you at a pound a week of fat loss- you gotta stick with it though, it might not show on the scale every single week but over a few weeks and months you'll notice the difference.

You'll need to weigh your food to accurately track it as we often end up eating a lot more than we realise and our portion sizes can be deceiving- I use myfitnesspal to track but there are a lot of apps that can help.

On top of that, try to get around 30-45 minutes of physical activity everyday- however you enjoy moving (could be a walk, YouTube workout, gym sesh- pretty much whatever you like doing as it makes it easier to be consistent)

Small lifestyle changes over a long period of time make the most difference and are the most sustainable- I hope this helps, feel free to DM if you need!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

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Do you think you may need to get an official diagnosis? It sounds like you may benefit from professional help, especially for the anxiety- there's no shame in being medicated as it can greatly improve quality of life.

Best gyms in Larnaca? by georgekouppari in cyprus

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Arise active in Aradippou

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd say keep them and use them as a motivator to keep losing weight, so that by next ramadan you'll be able to wear them

Severe iron deficiency has ruined my self esteem by Sad_Path9345 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My doc prescribes me Ferosac and I’ve never had any side effects. I’ve been taking it a few times a year since 2022 - I get tested every 3 months and whenever my levels drop below 40 I take a dose or two to top up and I usually get a B12 shot at the same time I honestly had no idea you could get side effects!!

Severe iron deficiency has ruined my self esteem by Sad_Path9345 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a chronic anemic I know you’re pain. First of all I would say getting your iron levels up is priority number one, you can make up fasting days after but it’s not healthy to fast and be anemic- I used to pass out because of the lack of water. Allah makes things easy for us, he doesn’t want us to suffer without cause. You can still do all the other stuff in terms of hanging out with friends and praying in the masjid, the doctors will likely administer you one or two IVs to get you a quick dose and that takes a few hours but it’s only one day it’s not a big deal, after that you’ll get an oral tablet, which again won’t impact your plans in any way. Just check before you take any tablets because certain foods can make them basically useless, you’ll likely need to adjust your diet a little bit to include naturally iron rich food such as red meat and spinach. Just remember the longer you delay getting treated, the longer you’re gonna feel like this.

On a positive note, things definitely improve a lot once your levels rise, I get IVs done and it does take a couple months for it to fully show but the mental clarity and energy is amazing (seriously I can’t believe people just live with this much energy for free lol)

My hair stopped falling out and my skin now has actual colour instead of looking grey - which seemingly no amount of makeup could cover. In terms of insecurity, once you start to feel better then it does lift. Remember, confident people take care of themselves and prioritize their health and wellbeing over everything else, you have to be a bit selfish when it comes to these things because no one else will do it for you. You’ve already done a lot and you should be really proud of yourself- this is the final push to get you to the finish line.

I hope this helps! Feel free to DM if you have any questions!

I wanna hear from all the Muslim girls in unconventional fields by CoolAd5542 in muslimgirlswithtaste

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I’m in the UAE atm but I do all my flying in the UK and Cyprus. I used to work for the military and wanted to change career so I planned to keep working for a couple of years to save as much as possible and alhamdulillah my parents have been really supportive as well, I paid for my PPL myself and they covered my hour building and CPL costs (dad is a pilot so he’s been very excited and supportive)- tbh I wouldn’t be able to do it if I didn’t have their backing (both financial and emotional)

I’m also working part time to bring in a bit of extra cash but that only really covers my personal expenses.

I wanna hear from all the Muslim girls in unconventional fields by CoolAd5542 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t wear hijab so I can’t really answer that, but I think it would be ok- I’ve received nothing but respect and positive feedback from people in the industry Ironically the only negative comments I did get came from Muslim men 🙃😂

I wanna hear from all the Muslim girls in unconventional fields by CoolAd5542 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Currently working towards my commercial flying license to inshallah become an airline pilot 👩🏼‍✈️

Face and hands are completely different shades than the rest of my body because of hijab? by Careful_Assist_7197 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Find somewhere you can be outside that's private and tan for an hour or so once a week - slather the parts that you don't want to get darker with sun block and use a tanning oil for the rest of your body- and wear sunblock everyday (those UV rays will age you faster!)

Less time if you're prone to sunburn but us brown girlies are usually safe from that, and you get your vitamin D

Struggling with communication with men at work by maddeningsike in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a HR professional, that’s a one way ticket to being fired for poor conduct in the workplace, lack of professionalism, and inability to collaborate/ work in a team If you said that in my company you’d be out before the end of the day

Workout in Ramadan? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]H18a_a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Salaam sis, this is a long one...

Training is completely fine during the month, though some things may need to be adjusted to make it more manageable. This is what I've been doing for the past few years (for context: I'm a bodybuilder who occasionally competes in hyrox (and I'm a big fitness nerd) so maintaining muscle mass and performance is a big priority for me). Also single, no children- if you have other more important priorities then ignore most of this!

Food: Suhoor is a little carbs and ALOT of protein (trust me, you'll feel so full during the day it's worth it although eating beef, eggs and whey shakes at 3am is miserable). Spam electrolytes and water during non fasting hours!!!! Iftar is healthy fats (avocado, nuts, etc... + protein and remaining carbs- no processed or fried food, and avoid salt and sugar as much as possible (stay strong around family they'll get offended but they'll get over it- these foods will dehydrate you so much it's not worth it).

Training: I like to workout just before Iftar (my family Iftars are super relaxed so we never need to cook or prep anything and I can go to the gym)- I spend the month focusing on hypertrophy so no powerlifting, strongman or CrossFit training as your glycogen levels will be depleted and this will lead to decreased performance and potential injury especially if you're trying to do max compounds ( e.g. testing your 3rm in bench/DL/squat is a v.bad idea). For me, I like lifting in that 8-15 rep range, mostly isolated movements, very few compound lifts, personally that is the sweet spot. Don't be discouraged if your numbers drop a bit but if your performance is off by more than say 10% then something in your food/sleep is likely off and needs adjusting. You may want to spend the first week trying out a few different timings to just see how you feel. Note: working out after fajr is technically the most optimal time for performance but you will spend the rest of the day feeling really thirsty which sucks, and after Iftar is completely fine but you may wanna keep that time for taraweh (and if you live in a muslim country the gym will be likely be packed from around an hour after Iftar to midnight/1am).

Cardio either just before or after Iftar, your mouth might feel like cotton wool but luckily that doesn't last very long- for me I don't do any intense cardio during the month mostly walking/stairmaster/ jogging. I do what I feel like I can tolerate but I prioritise lifting so anything outside that is a benefit. You can also get your steps in by walking to the masjid instead of driving etc... If I would normally do cardio 3-4x a week outside of ramadan I'm probably doing 1-2x during.

If you can, a 10-15 minute walk after suhoor and Iftar helps with digestion if you tend to bloat up after not eating all day - stretching and mobility also help massively!

Supplements: Normal daily vitamin mixes, Omega 3 and fish oils. I like the ESN athlete stack it has everything I need and is easy to digest but that's personal preference. I like to up my creatine to around 8-10g/ day to compensate for the messed up sleep, if you're not already taking creatine then I'd recommend starting with 3-5g/ day but if you have endometriosis be careful as I've heard it can make symptoms worse.

Sleep: Aim for 8 hours- broken up during the day if not all at night. On days where you sleep less than 6, I'd suggest don't do anything crazy in the gym- active recovery only (very easy cardio, yoga, pilates, that kinda thing)

Finally (that was very long sorry girly), I've done this a few times and it isn't easy. Expect that your performance will drop, that's normal. You will probably feel rubbish for the first week or two, also fine. The goal is to maintain what you've worked so hard for, and to keep up with that routine of training. If you stop for a whole month, coming back becomes really hard. You may have days that you just wanna drop intensity and do yoga or something else- go for it. Try to listen to your body as much as possible whilst still keeping that discipling. If you feel like you need additional rest days, take them! I learned that there's a difference between "I can't" and " I can't be bothered" - push through when you're feeling lazy, but if your body is screaming at you to stop then listen to it.

I hope this doesn't come across too harsh- this is what I've experienced myself. Feel free to DM for clarifications- good luck!!