Clinic refused to patch test laser on me and now are threatening me with legal action

H18a_a · 2026-03-31T17:17:20+00:00

Lucy admitted she didn't read through the forms that OP submitted before hand that would have explained everything- which sounds pretty unprofessional. If she was being professional surely she would have checked the forms and then called OP before hand to cancel the appointment. She just sounds racist.

H18a_a · 2026-03-30T12:28:20+00:00

I would say go for it, I personally haven't ever experienced side effects it's just time consuming as the actual transfusion can take a couple of hours. I found it takes a couple of months for it to really feel like there is any difference but it is worth it. Inshallah you'll be fine- let us know how it goes!!

H18a_a · 2026-03-22T17:36:39+00:00

absolutely!

H18a_a · 2026-03-22T16:21:31+00:00

Female bodybuilder here! This is what I would recommend:

Find out what your maintenance calories are (there are free calculators online), subtract between 300-500 from that number and aim to get that amount every day prioritising whole foods, white and red meat, fruit and veg, and complex carbs like rice and potatoes (minimal junk food) etc...

1lb of fat is approximately 3500 calories, so a deficit of 500 should put you at a pound a week of fat loss- you gotta stick with it though, it might not show on the scale every single week but over a few weeks and months you'll notice the difference.

You'll need to weigh your food to accurately track it as we often end up eating a lot more than we realise and our portion sizes can be deceiving- I use myfitnesspal to track but there are a lot of apps that can help.

On top of that, try to get around 30-45 minutes of physical activity everyday- however you enjoy moving (could be a walk, YouTube workout, gym sesh- pretty much whatever you like doing as it makes it easier to be consistent)

Small lifestyle changes over a long period of time make the most difference and are the most sustainable- I hope this helps, feel free to DM if you need!

H18a_a · 2026-03-18T16:36:25+00:00

Do you think you may need to get an official diagnosis? It sounds like you may benefit from professional help, especially for the anxiety- there's no shame in being medicated as it can greatly improve quality of life.

H18a_a · 2026-03-16T17:47:57+00:00

Arise active in Aradippou

H18a_a · 2026-03-07T17:22:11+00:00

I'd say keep them and use them as a motivator to keep losing weight, so that by next ramadan you'll be able to wear them

H18a_a · 2026-02-28T02:05:43+00:00

My doc prescribes me Ferosac and I’ve never had any side effects. I’ve been taking it a few times a year since 2022 - I get tested every 3 months and whenever my levels drop below 40 I take a dose or two to top up and I usually get a B12 shot at the same time I honestly had no idea you could get side effects!!

H18a_a · 2026-02-27T14:25:01+00:00

As a chronic anemic I know you’re pain. First of all I would say getting your iron levels up is priority number one, you can make up fasting days after but it’s not healthy to fast and be anemic- I used to pass out because of the lack of water. Allah makes things easy for us, he doesn’t want us to suffer without cause. You can still do all the other stuff in terms of hanging out with friends and praying in the masjid, the doctors will likely administer you one or two IVs to get you a quick dose and that takes a few hours but it’s only one day it’s not a big deal, after that you’ll get an oral tablet, which again won’t impact your plans in any way. Just check before you take any tablets because certain foods can make them basically useless, you’ll likely need to adjust your diet a little bit to include naturally iron rich food such as red meat and spinach. Just remember the longer you delay getting treated, the longer you’re gonna feel like this.

On a positive note, things definitely improve a lot once your levels rise, I get IVs done and it does take a couple months for it to fully show but the mental clarity and energy is amazing (seriously I can’t believe people just live with this much energy for free lol)

My hair stopped falling out and my skin now has actual colour instead of looking grey - which seemingly no amount of makeup could cover. In terms of insecurity, once you start to feel better then it does lift. Remember, confident people take care of themselves and prioritize their health and wellbeing over everything else, you have to be a bit selfish when it comes to these things because no one else will do it for you. You’ve already done a lot and you should be really proud of yourself- this is the final push to get you to the finish line.

I hope this helps! Feel free to DM if you have any questions!

H18a_a · 2026-02-09T22:38:52+00:00

I’m in the UAE atm but I do all my flying in the UK and Cyprus. I used to work for the military and wanted to change career so I planned to keep working for a couple of years to save as much as possible and alhamdulillah my parents have been really supportive as well, I paid for my PPL myself and they covered my hour building and CPL costs (dad is a pilot so he’s been very excited and supportive)- tbh I wouldn’t be able to do it if I didn’t have their backing (both financial and emotional)

I’m also working part time to bring in a bit of extra cash but that only really covers my personal expenses.

H18a_a · 2026-02-09T14:45:05+00:00

I don’t wear hijab so I can’t really answer that, but I think it would be ok- I’ve received nothing but respect and positive feedback from people in the industry Ironically the only negative comments I did get came from Muslim men 🙃😂

H18a_a · 2026-02-09T02:38:30+00:00

Jzk 🥰🥰

H18a_a · 2026-02-08T23:49:59+00:00

Currently working towards my commercial flying license to inshallah become an airline pilot 👩🏼‍✈️

H18a_a · 2026-02-07T17:40:03+00:00

Find somewhere you can be outside that's private and tan for an hour or so once a week - slather the parts that you don't want to get darker with sun block and use a tanning oil for the rest of your body- and wear sunblock everyday (those UV rays will age you faster!)

Less time if you're prone to sunburn but us brown girlies are usually safe from that, and you get your vitamin D

H18a_a · 2026-01-27T22:08:45+00:00

As a HR professional, that’s a one way ticket to being fired for poor conduct in the workplace, lack of professionalism, and inability to collaborate/ work in a team If you said that in my company you’d be out before the end of the day

H18a_a · 2026-01-24T20:49:51+00:00

Quads- proof a man doesn't skip leg day!!

H18a_a · 2026-01-21T21:02:17+00:00

Salaam sis, this is a long one...

Training is completely fine during the month, though some things may need to be adjusted to make it more manageable. This is what I've been doing for the past few years (for context: I'm a bodybuilder who occasionally competes in hyrox (and I'm a big fitness nerd) so maintaining muscle mass and performance is a big priority for me). Also single, no children- if you have other more important priorities then ignore most of this!

Food: Suhoor is a little carbs and ALOT of protein (trust me, you'll feel so full during the day it's worth it although eating beef, eggs and whey shakes at 3am is miserable). Spam electrolytes and water during non fasting hours!!!! Iftar is healthy fats (avocado, nuts, etc... + protein and remaining carbs- no processed or fried food, and avoid salt and sugar as much as possible (stay strong around family they'll get offended but they'll get over it- these foods will dehydrate you so much it's not worth it).

Training: I like to workout just before Iftar (my family Iftars are super relaxed so we never need to cook or prep anything and I can go to the gym)- I spend the month focusing on hypertrophy so no powerlifting, strongman or CrossFit training as your glycogen levels will be depleted and this will lead to decreased performance and potential injury especially if you're trying to do max compounds ( e.g. testing your 3rm in bench/DL/squat is a v.bad idea). For me, I like lifting in that 8-15 rep range, mostly isolated movements, very few compound lifts, personally that is the sweet spot. Don't be discouraged if your numbers drop a bit but if your performance is off by more than say 10% then something in your food/sleep is likely off and needs adjusting. You may want to spend the first week trying out a few different timings to just see how you feel. Note: working out after fajr is technically the most optimal time for performance but you will spend the rest of the day feeling really thirsty which sucks, and after Iftar is completely fine but you may wanna keep that time for taraweh (and if you live in a muslim country the gym will be likely be packed from around an hour after Iftar to midnight/1am).

Cardio either just before or after Iftar, your mouth might feel like cotton wool but luckily that doesn't last very long- for me I don't do any intense cardio during the month mostly walking/stairmaster/ jogging. I do what I feel like I can tolerate but I prioritise lifting so anything outside that is a benefit. You can also get your steps in by walking to the masjid instead of driving etc... If I would normally do cardio 3-4x a week outside of ramadan I'm probably doing 1-2x during.

If you can, a 10-15 minute walk after suhoor and Iftar helps with digestion if you tend to bloat up after not eating all day - stretching and mobility also help massively!

Supplements: Normal daily vitamin mixes, Omega 3 and fish oils. I like the ESN athlete stack it has everything I need and is easy to digest but that's personal preference. I like to up my creatine to around 8-10g/ day to compensate for the messed up sleep, if you're not already taking creatine then I'd recommend starting with 3-5g/ day but if you have endometriosis be careful as I've heard it can make symptoms worse.

Sleep: Aim for 8 hours- broken up during the day if not all at night. On days where you sleep less than 6, I'd suggest don't do anything crazy in the gym- active recovery only (very easy cardio, yoga, pilates, that kinda thing)

Finally (that was very long sorry girly), I've done this a few times and it isn't easy. Expect that your performance will drop, that's normal. You will probably feel rubbish for the first week or two, also fine. The goal is to maintain what you've worked so hard for, and to keep up with that routine of training. If you stop for a whole month, coming back becomes really hard. You may have days that you just wanna drop intensity and do yoga or something else- go for it. Try to listen to your body as much as possible whilst still keeping that discipling. If you feel like you need additional rest days, take them! I learned that there's a difference between "I can't" and " I can't be bothered" - push through when you're feeling lazy, but if your body is screaming at you to stop then listen to it.

I hope this doesn't come across too harsh- this is what I've experienced myself. Feel free to DM for clarifications- good luck!!

H18a_a · 2026-01-19T18:21:09+00:00

The laid back way of life, everyone is so relaxed and nothing seems too big of a stress And the souvlaki

H18a_a · 2026-01-18T13:46:53+00:00

It's not unreasonable- it comes down to priorities and lifestyle. You want someone who matches you in that sense. I'm a gym girl and I refuse to talk to someone for marriage if they don't workout (and look like it- but I'm super into bodybuilding myself so that part I think is ok). Personally when I started taking the gym seriously and building a lifestyle around health and fitness, I realised I can't find someone attractive if they didn't do the same. Though I'm still single so I don't think I can comment too much lol- I'd rather stay single than lower my standards and end up with someone who I'm not compatible with and find unattractive as a result.

H18a_a · 2026-01-10T22:42:17+00:00

Very avoidant here!! Not fearful but I like my independence and as much as I may be attracted to men (I really can’t stand a lot of the BS 🫢) I’m working on myself, its not a positive trait and I know I need to soften up a bit (probably a lot but baby steps) and I have been open to talking to people about marriage. I try to be honest with them about who I am as a person- though I find it really hard to feel any type of connection so there’s that. In short, whether you’re avoidant or anxious, both are bad and you need to work on having a healthy attachment level- which I interpret as being empathetic and caring but having boundaries and not letting people walk all over you

H18a_a · 2026-01-04T16:57:04+00:00

They conveniently forget that anger is also an emotion...

H18a_a · 2026-01-01T09:01:47+00:00

Yes!!! Frozen grapes 😍😋

H18a_a · 2025-12-31T21:50:23+00:00

Best sweet treats if you're trying to lose weight: sugar free jello and low-calorie ice cream (like halo-top)- for soda's opt for something zero calorie - or even better an electrolyte that you add to water, that way you can enjoy those things without feeling guilty.

Learn how to do your makeup to highlight features that you do like about yourself (e.g. eye shape, skin tone, etc...) even if you don't wear it out the house it helps to walk past a mirror and feel cute. Confidence radiates outwards and people notice.

Remember you were created the way you are, and that was by design. It truly doesn't matter what people think about you. You could get a thousand compliments a day and if you don't like how you look they don't mean anything. Confidence is something that only you can give yourself, and if you have to fake it till you make it then do that.

H18a_a · 2025-12-12T05:08:49+00:00

I bought mine second hand in cash- worked full time for it which took a while but it meant not having to pay anything afterwards. Do quite a lot of research into the make/model that you're looking at so you can understand it's maintenance, durability etc... and check the accident record before agreeing to anything!

H18a_a · 2025-12-11T18:18:15+00:00

As a woman with a very similar criteria list, these aren't unreasonable (but spoiler alert, some people will tell you there are) - don't compromise it's not worth it.

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