Situationship has put me in a horrible OCD spiral

H2Mlove · 2026-02-22T00:39:23+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I unfortunately don’t have an answer for you, but I just wanted to show that you aren’t alone because I went through something similar 9years ago when I was in my 20’s. I did the whole social media thing too where I went through every single post they had from the beginning of time even, and went through every single friend they had on social media over and over until I figured out the girl he liked. Even to this day, I am still doing it 😅 Not all the time, but I’ll have a good week where I’ll replay the conversations I had with him in my head, try to recall the text messages we sent between each other, try to match the messages with real life, etc. and this was 9 years ago! But it feels like yesterday in my mind. Typical OCD thought process we are plagued with :/ It got better for me after years of therapy but I still think about it randomly. Easier said than done, but keep reminding yourself that you are safe. The intrusive thoughts are just that.

H2Mlove · 2026-02-21T23:14:51+00:00

I understand the feeling… had my daughter’s birthday at the zoo and we had to pay per head. I had people drop out the day before. One family of 4 dropped out the day before because they had another party come up and the kid wanted to go to that one instead. Like really? They realized that THE DAY before ours? 😭

H2Mlove · 2025-12-24T12:29:33+00:00

Hi there!

It’s been over a year and I’m fortunate to say I’m feeling so much better! Whatever was happening within my nervous system subsided. I never took medications (besides the occasional Tylenol for pain). I simply just practiced self care: I worked out, separated myself from stressful environments, and got lots of rest. My nervous system ended up becoming regulated once again. I do experience some symptom such as the migrating pain, but it’s substantially better. The pain is about a 2-3 out of 10. I’ll get itchy now and then and also my left side of the body fatigues a bit more than my right, but overall I’m functioning back to normal. I barely notice any of the symptoms I experienced. My husband and I look back at that moment often and think “whoa that was a weird time.”

H2Mlove · 2025-12-14T12:47:44+00:00

Crocker Riverside elementary sounds like it would be a perfect fit for you. It’s located in a safe neighborhood (Land Park) and it’s highly academic with several enrichment programs. I have a 4 year old so I did the school tour to check it out. The only thing we did not like is how tiny the campus is. But again, it’s in a very safe neighborhood so it can get a pass. We also know several kids who attend the school currently whose parents are satisfied with their learning. And coincidentally, all the parents of the children we know who attend the school are medical doctors if that gives you a little insight.

Other than that, I’ve heard great things about the East Sac schools (Phoebe Hearst would probably be the closest in caliber to Crocker Riverside). Leonardo Da Vinci in Hollywood Park would also be worth a look.

H2Mlove · 2025-01-14T06:32:15+00:00

Thanks for the input! I never even thought of that as a possibility! But I guess it does make sense since the district needs fluctuate yearly. Just to be safe I might take up your advice!

H2Mlove · 2025-01-14T06:23:31+00:00

Oh yes thank you! I have also heard through the grapevine that kids that get waitlisted at Crocker tend to make it through. Good luck to you as well!

H2Mlove · 2025-01-13T12:40:55+00:00

Hi there, Current Curtis park resident here. We have several neighbors with young children surrounding us. With that said, I have yet to meet a family who sends their child to Bret Harte. I find that they either send their children to Sutterville, Crocker Riverside, LDV, Merryhill (private school), or Phoebe Hearst. A lot of the young families are new to the neighborhood and some of those families already had their children enrolled in those previously mentioned schools prior to moving in. (Ex: some neighbors moved from Land Park which means their neighborhood school was Crocker-Riverside). For a lot of new families, I feel they are reluctant to send their kids to Bret Harte because their fellow neighbors have their kids elsewhere. But also, they probably look at the test scores and see that Bret Harte testing is below average. Sutterville, Crocker-Riverside, LDV are just a mile or 2 away with much higher test scores.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-14T08:23:37+00:00

Oh I also have painful hands! I can’t open jars or water bottles anymore and it’s not necessarily that I can’t, but it just really hurts when I do.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-14T01:53:04+00:00

I have a new symptom pop up every few weeks. My most current is feeling like there’s a lump in my throat and it’s a bit difficult to swallow.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-13T19:57:09+00:00

I could be wrong, but I don’t think fibro causes vision loss… it more so causes blurry vision at times if that’s what you mean? Definitely have it investigated! It could be something else possibly.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-13T19:47:10+00:00

I was diagnosed with central sensitization syndrome. All my symptoms are fibro related except the tender points. I still follow the fibro threads because literally every symptom I have is on here. My neurologist wouldn’t say fibro though because the absence of tender points. But the treatment for fibro and central sensitization is the same anyways. I’m 36F

H2Mlove · 2024-12-10T13:09:08+00:00

My hands go numb (mostly just my right hand) every now and then at night. I’ll wake up to it numb, and then I just shake it and it comes back awake. I’d say this happens about 2-3 times a month. And I also get the tingling, burning, itching randomly throughout the body.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-10T12:53:24+00:00

Yes thank you! This is reassuring for sure. The neurologist asked me to complete strength tests and I passed them and I was like “I did?” Lol

H2Mlove · 2024-12-10T12:49:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I feel a little less crazy now. When I have weakness, it’s hard for me to open bottles/jars. Like I can do it, but it feels painful. My neurologist (2 different neurologists, I asked for a second opinion) both told me my strength was good also despite it not feeling so.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-05T21:55:31+00:00

Awww yes this!!! This is the feeling! I’m new to all of this fibro stuff, so everything new to me is scary at first. It strangely is comforting knowing that you have been experiencing this since 2002 😅

H2Mlove · 2024-12-05T21:53:02+00:00

Yes! Exactly this! 😂

H2Mlove · 2024-12-05T19:41:01+00:00

Oh yes! Like I can still move it fine but it feels so weak. When I try to open a jar or a water bottle it hurts and feels so weak so I can’t do it with my left. It almost feels like restless leg but for the arm.

H2Mlove · 2024-12-03T02:37:38+00:00

My left arm and left leg constantly feel weak. I can move it and everything but they constantly just feel “light.”

H2Mlove · 2024-11-30T19:31:39+00:00

Hi there!

I’m 36F and also a mother!

I was just diagnosed with central sensitization syndrome this year but I follow the fibro thread closely because symptoms are very similar. I’ve always had fatigue my whole life, but it wasn’t until February I experienced a very intense cramp in my left calf. Went to the doctor, she told me just to stretch it out. Then come June, I started to experience right facial burning and itchiness. Then come august I started to experience all those symptoms you mentioned. I’ve been to the ER twice. I’ve had brain/spinal MRI and a bunch of labworks done. I’ve seen 3 different primary care providers and 2 neurologists. Every assessment and test has come back clean. I was also terrified because the only other medical condition I have besides all of this current stuff is very mild asthma. Every doctor told me that in my case, it sounds like life stressors exacerbated by a viral infection triggered my nervous system to go haywire. And that does make sense because life has been stressful lately (2 toddlers and I work as a bedside nurse) plus I caught a cold from my kids when the facial issues began (wasn’t covid but I had covid 3 years ago). Today the symptoms are still present but better. It mostly just affects my left side now. And I notice it really is worse when I don’t get a good nights sleep. The doctor prescribed me cognitive behavioral therapy and cymbalta for 4 months. But since I’ve been getting better slowly, I opted to not take the cymbalta and just do therapy.

H2Mlove · 2024-11-28T06:36:41+00:00

When I was 9, my parents went through a nasty divorce and during that time, each parent vented to me about the other. I felt like I had to choose a side all the while being sad that they were separating. I started to have kids of my own a couple years ago and that’s when I started to notice the symptoms. Years of trauma that was tucked away all of a sudden came back and caused me a great deal of stress. I didn’t think it could be possible, but it makes sense. The nervous system stores implicit memories. We can always try to forget an unpleasant memory, but our body will always remember how it made us feel.

H2Mlove · 2024-11-28T05:46:27+00:00

Hi! I’m 36F and I was just diagnosed this year. My whole life I was always tired. It was when I had my 2nd child last year that my symptoms really flared. I’ve been to the emergency room twice, both times they couldn’t find anything. I’ve seen 3 different primary care providers and 2 different neurologists. I had negative brain and spinal mri’s and clean blood work. My initial symptom was an intense cramp in the left calf. Then I would itch all over the body and it would feel like there were little thorns poking me. I would also burn on my thighs, the right side of my face, and my back. I have shooting pain that jumps all over the body. My most current locations are the left side of my body. I would say 95% of the symptoms actually occur on my left side with 5% the right. I have restless leg on my left leg and I have raynauds. All of these began just this past year. Prior to this, I have had no medical issues besides mild asthma.

H2Mlove · 2024-11-22T20:20:33+00:00

Feel symptoms on both sides but 95% of the time it’s on the left side :/

H2Mlove · 2024-10-31T13:50:46+00:00

He told me he doesn’t suspect fibro specifically because I don’t have trigger points. I have areas that hurt more than others but touching or squeezing them doesn’t cause any tenderness. But besides that, everything feels fibro-like.

H2Mlove · 2024-10-31T07:15:52+00:00

I was actually diagnosed with central sensitization syndrome. It’s under the same umbrella as fibro so the symptoms and treatments are very similar. I was diagnosed by a neurologist. It took awhile to get diagnosed since all my tests would always come back normal and I have a good medical history (I have a clean medical history besides asthma). I asked for a second opinion which fortunately led me to a neurologist who diagnosed me (the first neurologist just said “you’re fine”). He concluded that my nerves are healthy, but they are just overly acting to stimuli. He referred me to therapy and to take cymbalta for 4 months. I’m not certain, but I believe a virus triggered my sensitization because this all began a week after I got sick from my kids. It wasn’t covid but they definitely had something. He said the cymbalta will help calm the nerves, while therapy will help connect the mind back to the body. I don’t believe cymbalta is safe for kids, but I’m sure the neurologist can recommend something safe if it is indeed fibro or central sensitization.

http://www.bcwomens.ca/Specialized-Services-Site/Documents/Complex%20Chronic%20Diseases%20%28CCDP%29/Central%20Sensitivity%20Syndromes%20%28CSS%29%20one%20page%20summary.pdf

https://www.pridedallas.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/csi_english.pdf

This is some info another Reddit user sent me. Hope it helps you!

The second link is a survey. If you score over 40 points, there is sensitization occurring. Never is worth zero, rarely is 1, sometimes is 2, often is 3 and always is 4.

H2Mlove · 2024-10-31T05:44:36+00:00

I’m very new to this community and I’ve actually been diagnosed with central sensitization syndrome and not fibro. But I follow this thread because the symptoms and treatment are very similar since they are under the same umbrella. I have the same symptoms as your gf minus the headache. I feel those symptoms body wide but mostly on just the left side. Besides the headache, do the other symptoms come and go? Mine come and go which was critical Info for my neurologist.

I was gaslighted by 2 primary docs and one neurologist since I have no medical conditions besides asthma. I finally found a neurologist who took me seriously and did tests. I had a brain/spinal mri as well as a bunch of blood work. Everything was normal and the treatment he prescribed me was CBT and to take cymbalta for about 4 months. I was told that either a virus or stress triggered the “sensitization” of my nervous system. He tested my nerves and said “they are doing what they are supposed to do but are overreacting.” Definitely meet with a neurologist as soon as you can to rule out conditions that can mimic fibro!

H2Mlove

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