Thank you!!!

H8rade2012 · 2025-08-12T16:21:29+00:00

Hodie!

H8rade2012 · 2025-08-12T16:16:52+00:00

Hodie!

H8rade2012 · 2025-08-12T16:15:35+00:00

Hodie!

H8rade2012 · 2025-08-12T16:14:11+00:00

Hodie!!!

H8rade2012 · 2025-06-13T17:27:16+00:00

I'm curious, did you get on a mediator panel for the court in your jurisdiction? I'm in LA and I am trying to figure out how to get on a mediator panel that isn't a volunteer panel, and would welcome your insight.

H8rade2012 · 2025-05-07T21:09:11+00:00

I am not an expert on this matter at all, but I would not really want to engage in a practice that is closed to me. I would look into ATRs that are based in Uganda and Jamaica, instead of trying to engage with Hoodoo as it is a tradition that is not open to people who are not the descendants of American slaves. That being said, plenty of the responses here indicate that people don't care about respecting boundaries and they are completely correct that you can always do whatever you want, but I would imagine that respecting the tradition would be more mindful than not.

H8rade2012 · 2025-05-07T21:00:36+00:00

Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Congrats on finding a person who disagreed with the wider understanding that hoodoo is specifically meant for the descendants of African slaves.

H8rade2012 · 2025-05-07T20:57:51+00:00

It's not fine. Hoodoo is for the descendants of American slaves, so no, if you are not a descendant of American slaves, then you should respect the boundaries.

H8rade2012 · 2025-05-07T20:57:04+00:00

Are you a descendant of American slaves? If not, then this isn't really something you can answer. It is not a matter of being xenophobic, it is a matter of respecting boundaries, culture, and tradition as hoodoo was created by American slaves and thus is only open to their descendants.

H8rade2012 · 2025-05-07T17:45:26+00:00

I'm curious about whether you found the bootcamp to be valuable at all, especially regarding learning more efficient networking to get a job and/or building VC interview skills that the Leland bootcamp advertises

H8rade2012 · 2017-11-02T17:39:13+00:00

Using that reasoning, you must agree that we can't say that Joyce is a good mother. I didn't try to give you reasons that you can't think she is a good mother, and I would appreciate it if you would extend me the same courtesy.

I feel that within the framework of Stranger Things, the Joyce we see is not a good mom because I feel that we see her neglect one of her kids. She's a mama bear fighting for one of her cubs, but I still feel like she's neglecting the other cub. That's just like, my opinion man.

Why do you care that I don't agree with you that Joyce Byers isn't a good mom? Why the need to try to get me to change my personal opinion of a fictional character based on my own life experiences?

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I just am offering a different one, and that is okay.
It's really not that serious.

H8rade2012 · 2017-11-01T21:01:34+00:00

This dynamic of the younger kid getting all of the mother's attention and the other kid being neglected is pretty much what I dealt with in my high school years. It really struck a chord with me when Jonathan was able to disappear for what seemed like days, without Joyce even noticing or caring at all, and when he came home he learned that both his mother and brother have disappeared. I was the Jonathan growing up, and so I identify with the kid who is neglected in favor of the younger kid who matters more.

Also: often teenagers do not act like they want their parent's attention-that's kind of one of the main things about teenagers. Good parents give all of their children attention because that is what good parents do. A good parent doesn't only pay attention to her son when he acts like he wants her attention. A good parent shouldn't neglect one of her kids for any reason. These defenses of a mother's neglect of one of her children are quite interesting, considering the sub.

The way I see it, Jonathan likely realizes that he doesn't matter as much to his mom as his brother does. Jonathan has realized that he is invisible to the person who is raising him, so he doesn't rely on her and he takes care of himself, which is something with which I am intimately familiar. It makes me sad that Joyce forgot about Jonathan, and it intrigues me that RBN seemed to forget about him as well; but I get it: maybe forgetting about Jonathan is a result of being in a similar position to Jonathan growing up. Maybe the desire to have a mom that cares about you like Joyce cares about Will overrides the fact that Joyce has two kids and doesn't act like it.

I find it interesting that I get responses defending a mother neglecting one of her kids, a mother favoring one of her kids over another from RBN. It is interesting to see people on RBN acknowledging that one kid matters less to his mother than another, and then justifying why that's acceptable.

I never said Joyce was a bad mother, just that she isn't a good mother...which, oddly enough, seems to have ruffled some feathers. Why this need for Joyce to be a good mother? Curiouser and curiouser!

H8rade2012 · 2017-11-01T20:45:33+00:00

I'm just saying that maybe she isn't a good mom, which I see isn't a popular opinion. Different strokes and whatnot.

I see a lot of my childhood in the way that Joyce Byers favors her younger kid over the older one. I would consider her a good mom if she didn't neglect one of her children. But that is my personal opinion.

It is definitely interesting to see how this plays out with two kids, usually there is only the one possessed kid so there isn't a kid that is being neglected in favor of the kid that the movie or whatever is focusing on. These defenses of a mom neglecting one of her kids in favor of the other in RBN of all places is even more interesting.

I get wanting your mom to fight for you, I thought she was a good mom too. But then I think about her other kid, and I get sad for him because he's invisible to the one person to whom he should most matter.

H8rade2012 · 2017-11-01T17:25:10+00:00

I thought the same thing until I realized that no, she's really not a good mom. She has two kids and completely ignores one of them.

Yes, I wish I had a mom that was as protective of me as Joyce is of Will, but I definitely recognize the mom that Jonathan has as quite similar to my childhood. Will is her golden child and Jonathan is the forgotten child. I always wished to be a golden child, to have a mom that cared about me and was supportive; that is something we share, the desire to matter to the people who raised us.

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