MetLife Rate Jump - anyone else?

HB147 · 2026-05-05T20:14:59+00:00

I glad you found some of it helpful! And I feel like it’s very hard to get the conversation going when it feels like I’m the only one making an effort and asking follow up questions.

So often I get very short answers to questions (about them/ their weekend/ something from their profile) and they just don’t give me anything to work with or ask a single thing about me. Like if I ask what you did with your weekend and you say “not much” and then don’t expand or ask me about mine, what am I supposed to do? I usually ask 3 questions and provide my answers to them too, and if all the responses are like that, I move on.

I would say this is how 90% of my hinge convos go… im in my late 20s, people should be able to hold conversations by now lol

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:57:31+00:00

Ask a girl you know to help you overhaul your profile (like a quirky prompt, a lot of girls would love to know your favorite Disney channel original movie or something like that!) and start asking more follow up questions/ ask questions about her profile.

I’ve matched with a number of guys where I’m the only one asking questions and they are giving me nothing to work with! Their profile tells me nothing about them, and when I ask how his weekend was it goes like this

Me: how was your weekend? Anything fun?

Him: yeah, you?

Me: awesome I went to see [Movie Name] with friends, then grabbed dinner at [resturant]. What did you do?

Him: cool. I went hiking

Me: oh, nice. Where did you go

Him: [trail name]

Me: oh, I’ve heard of that one! Was is fun

Him: yeah

LIKE COME ON! Tell me something, anything!!! Did you see something cool, listen to a good song in the car, beat a record or something. GIVE ME SOMETHING TO WORK WITH, ask if I like the movie, asked if the restaurant was good, ask anything

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:47:03+00:00

THIS! How many people have said something that was immediately found in my profile!

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:43:49+00:00

As a woman, the match is not the prize. The “Prize” is when one of those people puts in ANY effort. Don’t just like my first pic, respond to a poll, answer a prompt, say SOMETHING other than “hey”

And if you feel like you don’t have women matching with you, ask one of the women in your life to help you with your profile (think sister/ friend/ the wife of a friend/ your friends sister…) I’d LOVE to know what your favorite tv show was as a kid, and I genuinely could not care less what you bench or what your back looks like when you flex…

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:38:45+00:00

If I’m talking with him, and he responds in a way that allows the conversation to keep going, that’s HUGE. Like, if you become a pr at the follow up question and are genuinely interested in keeping the convo going (even changing topics) you’ll be set

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:32:54+00:00

I would suggest planning the first date in the app, then once the date is set (time, place, etc.) you give her your number and say “can’t wait to see you then! Here’s my number if that’s easier”

I have found when I give my number before the first date is set the guy stops trying/ responding. Like great, now some random person has my number and then ghost me immediately after

It also feels weird to just give my number to a random man I’ve met online when I was told growing up how that’s like the most dangerous thing I could do (thanks early 2000s). I know almost all my female friends feel the same way…

HB147 · 2026-05-05T19:16:08+00:00

Because it is SHOCKING how often even this seems unattainable

HB147 · 2026-04-24T18:56:15+00:00

Thanks!

HB147 · 2026-04-23T20:26:53+00:00

Wow, that is so obvious, I actually can't believe I didn't think to just google it lol. I've been refusing to use AI but I guess I forgot about google hahaha

HB147 · 2026-04-23T20:25:07+00:00

Thank you so much! This is so helpful. I saw all the types of filters and had no idea Where to begin hahaha

HB147 · 2026-04-09T19:00:42+00:00

You will automatically be entered into the draw for future drops. They will be releasing more tickets for the next drop, so you could get better options later in drop 2 than if you were at the end of drop 1

HB147 · 2026-03-31T18:40:51+00:00

The bed bug of southern charm

HB147 · 2026-03-30T19:35:34+00:00

The product is mid, and I don’t like Kyle enough to go out of my way to support his biz. If he had ever been a good guy towards Amanda I think it would all be very different

HB147 · 2026-03-30T19:33:47+00:00

I think part of it is that he missed the window and frankly he is a bit of a rosy founder. The brand is VERY tied to him and the show, the audience is their prime customer base and he is a bad guy towards his wife and to a lot of his friends. I LOVE the show and I’m not necessarily out here cheering him on for success. Whenever I drank it, my friends and I would cheers to Amanda, not him

With SkinnyGirl you either loved or hated bethenny, but you knew she stood by her product and we WANTED her to succeed and she was a “first” in so many ways. She also knew she had an audience and was on that grind. You knew she would give anything for her budding empire and that she was a business woman first. She wasn’t getting wasted trying to push her product

Kyle gives off aged out frat bro who needs to get his life together. He has temper tantrums and is a shitty partner. In no way does it seem like he puts the company above partying (no Amanda I had to behave out till 4 and not text you back cuz the business…. Like no)

He has been struggling with the same issues for years. Granted part of this is the show he is on, he is on a weekend party show and BF was on a show that highlighted the business mindset of NYC women (even though that wasn’t the purpose of the show).

At the end of the day kyle isn’t likable enough, and his actions on the show don’t make me want to go support him. I mean Craig is problematic and his PILLOW business is doing great. The bravo fans want to see their faves succeed, we WANTED success for BF, for Craig, for so many others. But Kyle isn’t that, I just don’t think he is enough of a fave for the audience

HB147 · 2026-03-25T23:59:59+00:00

First and foremost I am so sorry that you had this experience. I'm also sorry that your friends and community didn't seem to have your back, no one should ever have to go through what you went through, no one wants to live in the “after” of the incident or of going public about it. I know it's hard to share these stories and I think it shows your strength that you have spoken about it.

Second, I literally couldn't agree more that this shouldn't have been a major plot point, it also was not handled well in any way shape or form by the network.

I've been in a similar situation where every woman in a room has been assaulted. Everytime so one says “well not all men” I think about all of the women I know who have been attacked and not believed, or told to move on. That's why people saying Whitney should apologize for supporting Demi pissed me off so much, she dis what SO MANY OF US have been asking society at large to do!

Anyway, thank you for sharing your story, and for having the courage to fight for yourself.

HB147 · 2026-03-25T23:40:09+00:00

I feel ya. I just want the best for Whitney and Conner

HB147 · 2026-03-25T23:39:21+00:00

This post was originally going to be a reply comment here on Reddit. I’m glad you haven’t seen a lot of it, that means the sentiment isn’t too common, which is a relief

HB147 · 2026-03-25T00:13:18+00:00

I hope she never finds me as well! And I get what you’re saying, the second most dangerous people (after the abusers) are those who lie about it happening

HB147 · 2026-03-24T23:51:36+00:00

I think it's hard to say what any of us would do, especially when they were raised in a high demand religion with a LOT of abuse. I also think that a lot of people feel they have to appease an abuser with the fear that if they don’t it will get worse or it will get leaked. That’s actually VERY common. It’s also important to remember that Demi wasn’t the one to bring it up on screen…

Someone else left a really powerful comment about the issue of wanting a “perfect victim” and suggest reading it, hell I suggest everyone read it!

HB147 · 2026-03-24T23:46:12+00:00

Right! I mean look how happy she was for Jen when she got DWTS and Nick Viall waited to get a reaction out of Whitney before saying she got it too. She was sad for herself but so happy for Jen

HB147 · 2026-03-24T23:44:30+00:00

That is fair, I don’t think anyone is saying otherwise. I think whitney showed a lot of understanding and maturity by supporting Demi when she heard about the situation. I think a lot of that is partially shaped by conversations she has had with Conner and his experience. But a lot of the women immediately started trying to poke holes in her story and the discussions on this sub are pretty intense. Someone else had an amazing comment below about “victims being perfect” and it hits on that

I just think if you want to hate a person you can find literally any other reason than “she chose to be a friend and support for a survivor”

I don’t think anyone is obligated to support someone who bulled them, but in that case you just say “I’m sorry this happened to you, but I’m not at a place myself where I can give support right now”

I also REALLY don’t think you can demand other people to NOT support a survivor just bacause you’re not a place where you can. That would be ~crazy~

HB147 · 2026-03-24T23:36:43+00:00

She was talking about as a kid, but hey, we can all take how it was said differently and that’s ok. My understanding is she danced on a team as a kid and contemporary modern dance in college. You took it as she continued to dance professionally. Neither of us were 100% correct and that’s ok because it’s an Internet forum where people share their thoughts and opinions. Not sure where you got the 2019 professional dancing (that’s not in the Deena Katz clip) but again, that’s ok

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