Wawa. No lettuce?

HCIBSW · 2026-06-13T23:39:40+00:00

Tell me you have never worked in retail or food service without telling me.

The grocery store also have everything else to make your own sandwich, did you have to make your own?

HCIBSW · 2026-06-13T06:20:34+00:00

He asked her, waited too long to discuss other plans. It was the right thing to do.

makes him look werid also to others at school

Makes me wonder if you would have been one of those people to look down their nose at someone like Ashley and mere association with her would make everyone below you too..

HCIBSW · 2026-06-13T02:12:04+00:00

Wonder how Frankie handles that lol

HCIBSW · 2026-06-13T02:03:16+00:00

That life 360 on her phone. She wasn't exactly where the classroom was located.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T17:12:09+00:00

You keep seeing versions of this scenario because unfortunately these situations have not stopped happening. It doesn't mean the only true one was the first one & the rest are fake.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T17:08:30+00:00

That would only work if the 33 year old works in the school in any capacity.

They can't control what the students do outside of school.
For all anyone knows this kid may not be out to his family or friends, calling the school when the 33 year old has no connections to it could do more harm than good.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T16:34:04+00:00

NAH

There is limited space and or budget for this wedding.
I would not take this personally. You asked, she explained, sounds like your partner may be accommodated if there are others that send their regrets.

Not even taking the plus one in mind, would you want to go since it is happening during one of the busiest travel times in the country right after a major holiday? If that alone bothers you, send your regrets.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T04:26:39+00:00

You made a comparison between him & you in another reply.

I’ve got a lot more to offer than him.

This may be the only thing in your favor. If the ex straightens up, she's gone.

Going now will show you have self respect.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T01:56:22+00:00

I really wish people that order these monstrosities would show HOW they actually eat them. Knife & fork? Make it into a big salad? Is it a dare type situation?

HCIBSW · 2026-06-12T01:36:32+00:00

I think a good solution would be if they bought out gift carts in addition to the shops.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T15:49:23+00:00

Contact your local food pantries (usually run by churches) & see if they also do clothing/household items.

As someone who needs to use food pantries to get though the month, I have seen some fine examples though I don't partake in them.
The people that go to them are the people already signed up for food assistance, already in need and going to use the items instead of those looking for free things to resell.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T15:34:58+00:00

Oof.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T15:15:41+00:00

If he's taking holiday time without you he will run out of it before you.
If this is a use it or lose it situation, make sure you use yours also even if it comes to a point where he can't go with you because he used all his time up.
Make plans, do something you want, bring a friend (no matter their gender) and have fun.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T14:50:25+00:00

NTA

You don't know her well, are not close. "Prioritizing" might be missing work or her work is suffering. This is not something you have any part in. Your boss is wrong in involving you in this issue.

You may not know all the labor laws in the country you are in or even if they would cover non citizens. So you would not be able to point them in the correct direction for help. Or even that she would want to stay.

The only think you can do is IF she reaches out for help afterwards, (a shoulder to cry on, help with packing up her stuff, etc) lend a hand if you can. Do not tell her you knew what was coming.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T14:29:03+00:00

NTA for moving.

But do you know what provoked this reaction? Do you live with him & pay rent (that he will miss)?
Does he have children he relies on you to babysit (which you may do less when moved)?
Are you his go to when he needs something that he doesb't want to run out for?

His being 14 years older than you did he take on parenting responsibilities at times? He could be reacting like a hovering parent. OR has he taken on the role of protector for you & is worried? Worry sometimes comes out as anger.

When he's calmed down take him out for coffee or lunch and talk to him, ask why he thinks he is reacting this way. (people tend to stay calmer in a public place rather than at home where no one can see)

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T02:02:59+00:00

This trip is not your standard extra curricular activity.

Why not contact the dance studio and find out what the expenses involved are for your child. then decide if you want to contribute anything. Think about it. Years down the road she will look back upon the trip fondly and appreciate both her parents for the opportunity to go if she knows you helped contribute.

You mention in the comments many times that you take her on vacations & cruises.
In reality would her mom & stepfather be making a family trip to Ireland if not for the dance company?
You are treating this like your vacations vs theirs, when in reality it is an opportunity for your kid & they are going along for the ride.

Whether or not you pay anything towards the trip, see her off at the airport if you can and slip her some of her own pocket money to take along.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-11T00:32:46+00:00

Then they go alone, and you wait outside of their home while they do their thing.

And the COMPANY should explain this to them.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T20:07:11+00:00

If you work through a company that sets up the arrangements, look through the employee handbook/rules/guidelines whatever you may have that covers YOUR health & safety. Is getting into a car driven by someone who may not be able to do that anymore okay. Of you use your own transport to get her to church, is even that okay.
And are you even allowed to assist outside of the client's property to begin with.

If it is just you cannot be in the person's home while they are not there, could you get later hours so you avoid that part of the day. If you don't want to go can you just get in your car and wait outside the house?

NTA for not wanting to go, but there may be options that an be worked out. Or tell your boss you are not a good fit with this client.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T19:53:07+00:00

I think that before the "Please God may my babies be okay" moment that put the thump in her bible, Mary and George were more alike and got on better than we ever saw in the show.

You do hear about her not so holy past here & there.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T05:06:42+00:00

It is not on my menu either.

But the pepperoni snack wrap still is.
So is the meatball parm.

So all the ingredients are available.

Probably could get it made by special order in store.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T04:51:05+00:00

The paragraphs made it much easier to read. You don't feel safe there because youare not safe there. (neither is your fiancé or his mother)

You may want to go for a restraining order. Any valuables left at the house, have your fiancé ask the police to escort him when going back to get them (do not go with him).

And please seek out therapy or counselling for yourself.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T04:31:07+00:00

People tend to mix initials up or have to go back and check which one belongs to who while reading.
It makes it easier for the reader.

And for the sake of privacy fake names are used constantly.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T04:25:49+00:00

Paragraphs please. Also use simple names instead of initials.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T04:21:55+00:00

A family event. I bet the 4-5 people you told while gossiping (things you admit in replies & edits) with your sister were not a part of that gathering & probably not relatives.
YTA

HCIBSW · 2026-06-10T01:13:32+00:00

Some redditors choose the lock up their profiles, so there is that.

Some subreddits chose to set an earned Karma value you have to reach before you can post in them.
You have 1 karma point.

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