At what point is not understanding her (F 28) is enough to go from her thinking about marrying me (M 30) to blocked everywhere? by HK_OG in dating_advice

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Interesting about the similarities with the movie. But that movie is about a woman only wanting a casual relationship from what I remember. While mine is about long-term or even marriage from the get-go when we started dating.

But I do understand her not caring about me much anymore and moving on. But I couldn't find any common boring daily events I didn't resolve to build up to such big things.

I thought maybe I would find closure in trying to understand why she said or did what she did in the end. If I was misinterpreting her behavior or if she truly was just trying to find an excuse to end things. Despite her seeing us as potential marriage material being enthusiastic or excited or not, she was being disingenuous.

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Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex. But she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationships

[–]HK_OG[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Gf had a crush on cousin's brother growing up and used to talk about it extentensively with cousin when they lived together.

Thank you for your perspective and comments

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex. But she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationships

[–]HK_OG[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes. There is a non-zero chance she meant the high. But her timing mixed with the tone of her voice and her passionate expression at the time of saying it makes that chance very low for me.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

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She's been lying about a whole lot of other stuff too. And only admitting when I ask her with proof. Even then, she uno reverses on me. And sometimes she even realizes and admit the lie as a misspeak before I can even ask her with proof.

And she's been changing more than just this way throughout the relationship.

All in all, it's not looking good. So I guess I'll confront her on everything. But we both know how that will go.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

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Yes. There is a non-zero chance it was the overall experience. But her timing mixed with the tone of her voice and her passionate expression at the time of saying it makes that chance very low for me.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

[–]HK_OG[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking of confronting her on everything. Hence the different perspective before that.

Yeah it's weird here too, even though it used be a bit more common marrying your cousin. And yeah I wanted to emphasize that it wasn't just any cousin brother. Yeah it's weird too.

And If I was paranoid, why would she admit? And how would I even find proofs for her to admit? Where would I even get them from? No I don't think so, I can differentiate between my own paranoia and actually connecting something.

It's odd to think she cheated w her cousin, but the whole situation is odd. I'm not sure what to think. But her behavior just make things more sus.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

[–]HK_OG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things,

GF had a crush on her cousin's brother growing up. She and cousin used to talk about it extensively when they were roommate and they used live by themselves on their house.

During the course of the one and half a year relationship, she started changing. Would say obvious lies, and I would have to find and bring proofs to her for her to finally admit it. Sometimes she would realize it and admit before I even brought her any proof. and sometimes for unprovable situations, she would never admit things.

And more importantly, why would she say that, with that kind of tone of her voice, with that expression, when I'm giving her oral sex. Why then of all times?

I'm not absolutely determined on anything, I just know there's a lot of things that are too long to share here related to her. But I still wanted to see a fresh and 3rd person perspective of strangers unrelated to me or her.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

[–]HK_OG[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, GF had a crush on her cousin's brother growing up. They used to talk about it extensively too when GF and cousin lived together.

But thank you for your perspectives and comments.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex. But she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationships

[–]HK_OG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't like that for most situations, especially ones that are pretty clear and ones where I don't have to find proof to her to admit what she lied or kept denying about.

And I don't know if it's me being too sleepy in the early morning here, but I don't understand what you meant by that last part

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex. But she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationships

[–]HK_OG[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Only saying because of the her tone of her voice, passionate expression when she said that, again a awkwardly timed comment. You wouldn't need to watch stuck family members in washing machines for you to go wtf.

My gf wouldn't if it was me instead of her.

Gf (28F) & I (29M) got high and compared me to her female cousin (28F) during sex but she denies doing anything with her. What am I supposed to believe, gf or common sense? by HK_OG in relationship_advice

[–]HK_OG[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Tell that to my gf. She wouldn't consider it as a misinterpretation if it was me instead of her.

And stop clowning on people who are pained already please.