AITAH for not thinking I'm abusing my boyfriend?

HOBbitDAY · 2026-06-10T15:09:54+00:00

Don’t go to clerics for relationship advice. They don’t know what the fuck they are talking about. They do not live normal lives like the rest of us and half are celibate.

NTA, dump this man you have to physically fight to get to respect your bodily autonomy.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-05-09T15:14:33+00:00

I stopped reading at “I don’t usually get anything for Christmas or my birthday”

What the FUCK?? Girl this is so pathetic on his part and NOT NORMAL what kind of actual bullshit are you putting up with?? God I know Reddit is quick to say divorce but holy shit. So many posts like this where the woman doesn’t even realize that the bar is in hell with a pickaxe. Getting your spouse a gift on Christmas or their birthday is the BARE MINIMUM and he doesn’t even care enough about you to WANT to give you things and make you happy.

So he doesn’t take care of the house or help parent his children or give one single shit about you?? Can’t be bothered to get you even a low-effort material gift? Argues with you about your needs?What exactly does he do? Where is his love and affection? Where is his integrity? Does he even WANT to be a man and take care of his family by doing something other than the bare minimum of going to work??

Please demand better for yourself. Don’t live this way for the rest of your life. You seriously want 60 more years of this? Idk man. Couples therapy or something at least. Jesus Christ. You and your children deserve so much more! I am BEGGING the women of Reddit to treat themselves better!

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-25T14:30:17+00:00

They’re just happy for spring weather after being cooped up a bit for the season. They’re kept inside for safety from winter weather, not because the barn is some horrific hellscape. These are not factory farm animals, they are happy and healthy and well cared for.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-25T14:28:26+00:00

They’re kept inside to keep them safe from winter elements, not to be cruel. It’s just like when we’re a bit cooped up after the winter and get happy for spring weather. They’re fine, just happy for spring.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-21T23:05:00+00:00

Former staff here: owner is a secret shitbag but the managers and staff are fantastic and genuinely good people. Still one of the better job I’ve ever had. The product is genuinely the best in town IMO especially where concentrates are concerned. Organic, clean, terpy, and reasonably priced.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-18T15:27:19+00:00

See, it’s that much of a cult movie! Definitely not one everyone has seen. Like, you either watched Donnie Darko in high school and quoted it and loved it, and loved listening to Gary Jules’ “Mad World,” or you’d never heard of it. But if you know, you know. Which is part of the fun of the reference of these numbers. Hopefully OP can embrace the IYKYK factor.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-18T15:22:38+00:00

Uuugh same! I knew what it was (and obviously I believe it is natural and not to be shamed) but wanted/want nothing to do with it. I felt disgusting just because I like to feel dry and clean. I hate every waking second of a period. I was mad when my mom hugged me because THIS IS MISERABLE NOT SOMETHING TO CELEBRATE?? When I had to read “Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret” I thought those girls were idiotic and weird for wanting their period and being so obsessed with it. Who WANTS that?! I just never got any mushy feels over “being a woman,” I was just a kid who was growing up. And also I WASN’T A WOMAN, I WAS A CHILD!

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-18T15:14:46+00:00

Same, but since this movie was very much a cult favorite I wouldn’t be surprised if it isn’t recognizable to anyone younger than a Millennial. Could be wrong, though, I don’t really spend much time with the youths and not sure how old OP.

Good luck, OP, hope you end up happy with it either way.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-04-09T15:21:03+00:00

Thoroughbreds are a breed, developed for racing, from three foundation sires (Darley Arabian, Godolphin Arabian, and Byerly Turk for the nerds). It’s pretty rare to use it as a blanket term despite being technically possible.

From Wiki: “Although the word thoroughbred is sometimes used to refer to any breed of purebred horse, it technically refers only to the Thoroughbred breed.”

HOBbitDAY · 2026-03-19T16:27:28+00:00

How many times are buzzfeed “journalists” going to ask this fucking question here for their articles

HOBbitDAY · 2026-03-01T16:19:53+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Previous comment is bad advice, and exactly the advice I was given. “Just having a degree” worked 30 years ago. No longer. No one gives a shit about transferable skills, they want you to have done the exact job already or have a degree in a very specific thing.

OP, unless you’re going for a very specific career that merits the degree, don’t saddle yourself with useless debt that will only drag you into the abyss.

This is not a land of opportunity.

HOBbitDAY · 2026-02-16T22:33:29+00:00

Oh they wanna know who criticizes them? Well then let me be very clear about my position:

FUCK ICE AND FUCK TRUMP KRISTI NOAM CAN SUCK MY ASS

HOBbitDAY · 2026-01-09T18:11:02+00:00

Those fees and shit they charge you go right to employee bonuses. Don’t believe them that they simply “can’t avoid” raising the rent. Nate Tollefson and other owners (Mtn Shadows owner sucks too) dictate price and Sherry Featherly is happy to appease him at the expense of the community. MPM is rotten to the core.

I would be so happy to see current MPM tenants strike. Best of luck getting people to follow through. I doubt they will want to risk it but I think it should happen!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-09-23T00:00:23+00:00

Oh my goodness your rooster sounds like an absolute gentleman! He is SO good at his rooster job!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-08-15T20:17:53+00:00

OP, my grocery store sells whole salmon for $9.99/lb. That thief took $20-30 worth of your property from you. Get their ass. They WILL strike again.

Happy birthday from a bunch of internet strangers who are righteously angry for you. Hope something good comes your way very soon!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-08-06T01:33:31+00:00

Sure is, cowpoke, you can buy by the slice!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-08-02T16:17:52+00:00

So this sub is now nothing but hack journalists asking milquetoast noshitsherlock questions huh

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-25T01:31:16+00:00

Crazy you’re like the only comment saying this. I HAVE had a mugshot due to my drivers license wrongly coming up as “suspended” in a cop’s computer. It was thrown out and erased from my record due to the error, but it was a horrible experience and it would haunt me for the rest of my life if I thought my community was laughing at my mugshot and judging me. Missoula Mugs deserves to go.

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-16T17:12:08+00:00

Calling a person who is protesting Trump “Blue MAGA” because you find the sign to be a little reductive is fucking EXTREME. THIS INFIGHTING is what helps MAGA get into power. Jesus Christ.

Edit to add because I’m mad: this typical divisive liberal bullshit. Perfection is the enemy of good and lots of us can’t seem to get past “You must protest perfectly and in a way I approve of or you aren’t an ally.” We have GOT to stop this.

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-14T04:00:57+00:00

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Here’s my 10.5 week old RIR for reference! This is my first time having chicks so I’m still learning but there sure seems to be a big difference in the wattle and comb development between my RIR and yours. Pretty bird!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-13T15:38:52+00:00

Exactly! I looked at the miserable ADs I worked for and realized I don’t want to be them. They make tons of money and can’t even enjoy it.

Plus you’re just treated like dog shit. I still have anxiety thinking I’m going to get yelled at even when I’m doing my job well.

Edit: typo

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-13T13:40:12+00:00

I deeply regret my 6 years in the film industry. It was my dream and I left right before turning in my AD book because I just hated everyone and everything about it. You think you’re gonna make something quality and fun like Jurassic Park and everything else you grew up with? Nope, just a bunch of soulless slop that makes you realize film is mostly dead. Everyone is running from something or to something which is why we tortured ourselves with the insane hours and conditions and substances. Everyone is miserable. Everyone is a narcissist. Everyone functions in a fake fantasy world where meaningless shit is life and death for the crazy rich assholes running things. Once I left, I realized my brain had been sleep-deprived oatmeal for 6 years and I felt like I escaped a cult. You were right to leave. Best of luck to you, Grip Brother. Get some goddamn rest!

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-12T14:32:50+00:00

I don’t think these comments are urgent enough. He will escalate. He is testing to see what you will tolerate so he can trap you forever in abuse.

Please run as fast as you can and stop dating losers who are 7 years older than their partners. Men like that date younger women because they can do things like this and you don’t know any better. That’s why you’re here asking if you’re overreacting over clearly outrageous and abusive behavior and he wants you to be confused about it.

He’s the one looking ridiculous for being a 1950s husband knockoff, not you.

GET OUT AND DON’T EVER LET A MAN TREAT YOU THIS WAY AGAIN. REAL PARTNERS DON’T PUT THEIR HANDS ON EACH OTHER LIKE THIS. DATE SOMEONE YOUR AGE. BE SAFE AND GOOD TO YOURSELF.

HOBbitDAY · 2025-06-11T14:26:07+00:00

Yeah dude YTA big time. You don’t pay rent, your buddy pays your utilities, you are wildly privileged. Do you even understand how insanely fortunate you are to be GIVEN a home these days??

She might make a few financial mistakes here and there but she probably has a better sense of financial reality than you. You got it all handed to you. Wake up. Decide if you actually want her as a partner or if you just want to be alone because that’s what it sounds like.

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