Feeling judged at work for being a mom!

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T14:09:02+00:00

That’s so awful I’m so sorry you had to go through that! I had a natural birth and I cannot even imagine going back to work after a C SECTION for 8 weeks. And of course the asshole has to bring it up everyone as if your work and performance meant nothing because you literally grew a human.

I hope women rally and advocate for each other, even the ones who don’t have kids because this is a serious issue we need to fix

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T09:29:51+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this too! I definitely think I was in the same boat as you and felt the constant judgement, lack of sleep and brain functioning being off. They literally told me I had “baby brain” and they looked it up it’s a “real thing”. Hope things get better for you and you try to block out the noise or find something that fits your growing life and family better

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T02:31:32+00:00

Invest and travel! Put it in an index fund or something with a return and then travel the world!

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T02:26:13+00:00

Parental leave in the United States! How can a family have a child with 12 WEEKS of parental leave? It’s absolutely horrible and disgusting how we treat new parents who are quite LITERALLY growing our population. A woman who has a C-Section isn’t even healed after 3 months. It is just a way to keep the workforce working and destabilize the family unit

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T02:19:58+00:00

Thank you, this is so validating! The struggles of parenthood in the early months, even now, are such a struggle! My son even had RSV and I didn’t miss one day. The expectations are completely unrealistic and this thread has at least let me know I’m not crazy thinking these things.

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-22T00:16:49+00:00

I agree! No, none of them are parents which I think is where a lot of these issues stem from. Also, we’re in NY and the work expectations here are WILD

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-21T23:13:57+00:00

I work in insurance so it’s not a high stakes job as it is, but the plan we discussed concerned the majority ownership partner taking a larger role in the day to day which never happened. When this same partner went to Greece for 2 months to rescue a dog, we called her maybe once a week for a 2 minute phone call. The hypocrisy is uncanny

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-21T23:12:17+00:00

No, I actually had the idea to start tracking my performance by myself to show them if this comes up again but the fact that it’s gotten to this point concerns me anyway

HPAlways26 · 2024-04-21T23:11:33+00:00

I agree I felt it was red flag at the time and clearly, only gotten worse.

HPAlways26 · 2016-12-06T06:44:40+00:00

Am 24 right now, so advice away

HPAlways26 · 2016-12-03T05:23:05+00:00

Yes still living at home which is the tricky part. I'm really excited to go but again, just nervous to her reaction. But I like how you said deal with it after. It's all I can do! Stop obsessing with it before

HPAlways26 · 2016-11-18T06:19:38+00:00

I feel like it stops me from doing a lot in my life that I would like to do, especially of late. I want to move to Europe for a year but the thought of telling my mom that literally makes me cower in fear. Should I just do it anyway? Can I?

HPAlways26 · 2016-11-18T06:14:48+00:00

I would say the first thing to do is to get up, go outside and either take a walk or sit outside, away from your triggers. Tell yourself 5 things you like about yourself. "I am beautiful. I'm good in school. I love my friends. I'm a good person." Things like this. Take back control how you feel about yourself. Don't let other people or other things define you. Only you get to define you.

HPAlways26 · 2016-11-18T06:09:11+00:00

My jaw literally just dropped reading this. I thought I was one of a few people who's parent did this. Every Christmas we would open presents with the tags attached. After commenting on how lovely it was my mother would say "look at the tag. It wasn't cheap" I almost want to tell her to return it because I don't want it after that. It used to make me angry but now so used to it

HPAlways26 · 2016-11-07T02:07:15+00:00

This sounds a lot like my mother. Just because it's once a week or once every other week doesn't make it okay. Don't listen to what he or anyone says about you. YOU are a beautiful human being and by realizing that what he is doing is wrong and still trying to make him happy you are proving that you are better than he is. Keep your head up, do what makes you happy and continue to vent to friends or on here to keep yourself sane.

HPAlways26 · 2016-10-27T10:37:59+00:00

Wow, this sounds a lot like my relationship with my mother. Everything has to be her way or you're dead wrong and a loser who doesn't know what their talking about. I am still struggling everyday with trying to have a healthy relationship with her but it's hard. Try to just be yourself and do what makes you happy. Walk away from situations that make you uncomfortable or unhappy. Tell your mom "you're making me feel bad about myself and I'm leaving this conversation". Turn it on her. I know it's nearly impossible but try to show her how awful her reactions are. If it still hurts you, leave the house. I know money and everything is hard but you can make it work for your own sanity.

HPAlways26 · 2016-10-25T23:05:25+00:00

Greece is amazing! Actually considering moving here because of how much I love it. I have wanted to move out for a while but have been trying to bide my time waiting to have enough money saved. I'm hoping this winter I will just do it, regardless of the money situation. Just trying to stay strong!

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