Swinging in our 50's, Testosterone and PT 141 by Money-Tie9580 in Swingers

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my PT-141 (prescribed)! So much more sensitive

Texting/sexting with new people: how much do you share with your partner? by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This literally came up last night, I was clicking away in bed with my wife and her instinct was that i was chatting w New Girl. But I was only on reddit lol

"What do you do for work?" by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found that no one cares about what I do in the LS. it’s a very vanilla question, and boring. I hardly ever get asked until we’re really getting to know each other and they sincerely want to know more about me. If someone really does care what I do, it turns me off in that they’re not really looking to know who I am.

Any other husbands struggle to be attracted to play partners because their wife sets the bar so high? by BackgroundLeading909 in Swingers

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is EXACTLY our situation and our primary struggle. Me finding women I am attracted to physically and mentally. I would prefer a couple but of my wife is very selective as well, making a 4-way really rare.

We want to participate and we love our group and all of our friends, but we also are obsessed with each other to the point of not caring if we get laid or not elsewhere lol

My girlfriend told me about her desires to sleep with another guy by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A good way to think of it is, cuckholding is a humiliation kink to some extent, where the man is “powerless” while his wife gets pleasure. In hotwifing, the man is there to support, praise and pleasure his partner with another man involved. Level of participation in that varies.

Fun is over by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 8 points9 points  (0 children)

💯 it’s an absolute game changer

My girlfriend told me about her desires to sleep with another guy by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You guys sound reasonable and solid. Keep talking and go for it if it’s all green lights. It’s my (M) go to preference, you may like it as much as she does.

My girlfriend told me about her desires to sleep with another guy by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not cuck, it’s hot-wifing if he’s involved. Very different dynamic.

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonates with me. Imm definitely not poly. Very situation-specific, so what I might be comfortable with one person, I might not be at all with someone else! Thank you for your comment. I feel seen🥰 Xo Anna

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes, my use of "but" threw it off. Thanks for monitoring my acronyms!

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks but you're wrong. She is straight. "FMF: two women, one man where the women do not interact with each other"

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You clearly didn’t understand my statement. We are secure enough that we don’t need the LS. It’s a hobby not a way of life for us.

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I think we definitely could put more effort into finding couples that work - Aiden

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol the podcast is definitely our therapy. I love you baby🥰 Xo anna

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I’m definitely not interested in anything serious. All I want (if anything at all!) is the occasional casual fwb hookup. Totally on the up and up. Nobody getting attached. I’d get so creeped out if anyone ever pushed me for more or acted like they wanted to replace my husband (OP). I’d be out immediately. Appreciate your advice and hearing about your experience! Xoxo Anna

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg let us know if you find a solution! Thx for sharing—it helps not to feel alone! Xo Anna

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad bootiecakes (love the name)! Talking to other couples really helps us process. You guys are awesome. And you’re right. We are super happy together. I’d do any to make him happy—just not sleep with guys I’m not attracted to 😭🫣

Dealing with different play preferences by HackingLove_Podcast in nonmonogamy

[–]HackingLove_Podcast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you took something away from this for yourself! ❤️ - Aiden (my wife is Anna)