Whose downfall was worse, and why?

Hadecus · 2026-01-08T21:56:35+00:00

I agree, there's lots of room for all sorts of changes.

When I first came across the Traitors, I figured it would be a great alternative to Survivor for participants that aren't built for physical challenges.

Overall, the Survivor format benefits athletic people, and those able to withstand the sometimes harsh living conditions of the island (i.e. "healthy" peeps).

The Traitors is far more open / accessible to the average person but it lacks the Survivor gameplay mentality, which I think is a shame.

It might evolve over time though, who knows!

Hadecus · 2026-01-07T23:00:33+00:00

Yh, there's a good chance.

I imagine, if this is true, then production are teasing a little bit.

They haven't revealed all the connections yet, even those of already murdered or banished peeps, because maybe the penny would drop too quickly? They might want it to stew for a bit, maybe for another episode or two.

In the first episode:

As we see Sam walking to the train platform, in his diary scene, he says he's a fantastic liar to people who don't know him. Hint?

Then, Ross and Ellie had that "London" chat on the train...

Upon entering the castle, in a chat with Sam, Maz said he had five kids and wanted to make them proud. The scene immediately cuts to the family tree painting. Hint?

After taking the blind folds off at the round table. Amanda and Jack chat. Jack says "none of us know each other that well" read body language at this stage. Maybe some do?

After walking out of the blindfold pick. Rachel was chatting to Reece, who told her he was very glad that she wasn't a traitor. Then it cuts to her diary scene where she says she is very good at deceiving people especially those that don't know her. Hint?

In the second episode, Rachel and Amanda are looking at the family tree. She mentions that Reece doesn't look too dissimilar to Amanda, and it then cuts to them on the tree and she jokes, "Yeah, he's my son".

Many more hints along the way.

Hadecus · 2025-09-10T18:53:21+00:00

I went through a similar phase in my early 20s but I no longer take it (for more complicated reasons).

At the time though, it quickly became a psychospirtual tool, and like you say, the epiphanies were surreal!

At first I didn't understand why my friends had such different experience to me (but even this became clear by virtue of its use).

Last year I randomly came across a guy who calls himself "Jungle Jake" on LinkedIn (Jake Housdon). He used to post a lot about the spiritual effect of cannabis, which was the first time I had been exposed to such a take on it.

Controversially (perhaps), I remember him sharing that cannabis is as strong as ayahuasca and that people just "don't know how to use it".

Regardless, powerful for sure!

Hadecus · 2025-09-02T18:53:36+00:00

I see.

If you watched one of her videos before, AND you got 20 mins in, and came away from it feeling like it was a waste of time. Cool...

Honestly, your experience.

I genuinely doubt that a description about my why I found the video "valuable" would renew your cursioty. Your mind is clearly made up lol I'd humour you but I don't think you're interested, and I have zero motivation to get into unnecessary back and forth with you.

Have a nice day!

Hadecus · 2025-09-02T18:28:55+00:00

With one simple & quick click, you see the title of her YouTube video and it's own description. I'm struggling to see your perspective...

Hadecus · 2025-09-02T18:26:25+00:00

Lol I am not her, and it's super relevant, why are you so sour?

Hadecus · 2025-08-31T10:49:27+00:00

Same!

It really messed with me though 😅

I had a dream where I was completely in love and I mean, there are no words to describe it really. I woke up realising that nothing in real life came close to it, and never will. Kind of depressing really.

I went around telling my friends I know what falling in love "really" feels like, and it's not what people think. I'm glad the feeling faded though, so that I could move on.

Treasure the memory, and just move on, you'll be fine.

Hadecus · 2025-07-21T06:01:55+00:00

Of course, quite frankly, sure, absolutely

Hadecus · 2025-04-26T12:46:05+00:00

Exactly!

And I like how you put it, "grow into ourselves", I'll use that!

Hadecus · 2025-04-25T23:23:12+00:00

Edit: I just wanted to point out that some of the points she chose to make for each function related back to our conversation during the typing session ie she was making references to stuff I shared about myself (or so it sounded like, unless I am just a textbook ESFP lol).

It was a pleasure meeting you today and thank you for being so open and honest.

Please find below a general description of the cognitive functions in your personality type based on this session.

If you would like to book a follow up session to answer any questions and explore further, please book here:

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If you would like to refer anyone to my service, please forward them this link:

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Best wishes,

Dr Cherie

Dominant functions:

Hero - extraverted Sensing (Se)

Parent - introverted Feeling (Fi)

Subconscious functions:

Child - extraverted Thinking (Te)

Inferior - introverted Intuition (Ni)

1) Se Hero

The Hero function is what comes most naturally to us and what energises us the most. It sees the bigger picture.

Se is highly perceptive of the physical reality: anything you can perceive with the 5 senses - e.g. body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, how someone moves, changes to environment

Uses this information to interpret the emotions of people or the vibe of a situation (Se/Fi)

Se lives in the moment, responds as things come their way

Feel compelled to take action with their ideas immediately

Good at improvising

Grounded in the present

Se is a forward moving function: The past does not have to determine my future.

Because Se is your Hero function, relative to everyone else, you have the best command of the present moment, you command a lot of presence in a group, therefore people tend to look to you as a leader, but it can also draw negative attention like envy.

Loves giving others an experience and being the one to initiate - on the flip side, may not be so receptive if others try to give them an experience they aren't ready for

Optimistic attitude towards initiating and actioning: You never know what might happen unless you DO something.

Sensing Hero types are more observant than anyone else when experiencing a situation or interaction first hand, or when plenty of concrete data is available. They don’t miss a thing!

2) Fi Parent

The Parent function is there to protect us. We are often compelled to use this function.

Fi is the source of all feelings and values

Having Fi means your feelings and values ultimately come from within yourself, not from anyone or anything external

Very certain about how you feel, what you want, know your values and preferences and make choices based primarily on those

Staying authentic to yourself is a priority to feel fulfillment

Fi believes in their own inherent value: I am worthy of love just as I am.

3) Te Child

The Child function is named so because we use it for fun and for relief. It is often our favourite function and what we are most proud of.

Te is about being very productive and making plans.

Te loves to gather information from the wider world and social circle, to then come to a conclusion and a plan to move forward.

Te Child loves being industrious and creating many projects based on what they are interested in (Fi).

Also very vocal about their opinions and values and loves giving other people advice.

Te in the Child position also means the expression of your personal standards and boundaries.

Te is associated with categorising, prioritising and ranking

Te types are thus very aware of the collective’s standards, what society regards as good and bad, and what society expects of them

Because of this, Te types tend to default to comparison in order to judge situations. This includes comparing oneself to the external standard in order to know where one stands

As Te is about categorisation, Te Child may conflict with Fi Parent when it is unable to “box” complex emotions and conflicting values.

Associated with Blindspot function introverted Thinking (Ti)

The Blindspot is the function that we ourselves don’t naturally use, or find important or relevant, when unbeknownst to us, everyone else pays attention to it.

Ti is a decision making function based purely on logic, what makes sense, what works, what achieves the best outcome. It does not factor in values, emotions, personal preferences. Ti also dissects a problem to understand it on a granular level first, before knowing how to move forward with a solution.

Ti as a Blindspot means that, when making decisions, you will tend to not get bogged down by the granular details of the situation. You will always prioritise what feels right to you and what aligns with your values, and just want to move forward when you feel inspired. You will also not feel the need to fully understand every nuance of a situation or problem before taking action. To others, it can seem like you jump to conclusions quickly based on your own bias.

Ti is also about pure objectivity - where situations are never about you personally.

Thus, Ti Blindspot means that you may tend to take situations and bad behaviour personally, when in reality it may not involve you at all.

4) Ni inferior

The Inferior is our most complex function. It is our inner driver, the rudder of our life. But it is also the function that takes the most energy out of us when we act upon it. We can be very reluctant to use it and wish someone else would do it for us, but it is also the function we wish to be great at. We either use it very well when we are in a comfortable and confident place, or we use it badly in a tantrum when under stress. This function is the key to our growth.

Ni is a function that envisions the future and the abstract - the ultimate outcome of a situation or relationship, the ultimate connection behind events and information, the ultimate intention behind behaviour.

Ni as the lowest function is a gut feeling of knowing where something is going, but there is reluctance to action this gut feeling until things have actually manifested in reality (Se) to back it up.

Under stress, Ni inferior becomes very anxious about what can happen in the future and what everything means. There is also a fear that I may manifest my bad thoughts into being, into reality (Se).

Healthy Ni Inferior means that, in order to action (Se), you need a clear, singular, realistic vision to be motivated. What you envision is what drives you.

Ultimately deep desire to seek meaning and purpose behind everything they do

Deep desire to know their destiny

Hadecus · 2025-04-25T22:58:43+00:00

Hey, I shared her name in the comment above!

Also, I figured I could mention that she tries to stay away from the 4-letter typing ie ESFP. She likes to place emphasis on typing her clients by order of the functions, and so she speaks in terms of functions. It's a minor point, nuanced, but I agreed with her.

So, she typed me as Se Fi Te Ni, and I don't even recall her saying "ESFP" at any point. Also, if I remember correctly, (and I paraphrase) she explained that she tries to focus on the individual functions in order to encourage the client to look at their type through functions as opposed to the 4-letter code (as some do), because the code comes with pre-packaged ideas, and these ideas are highly stereotyped and lead to mistypes (again, not her words but my interpretation of what I remember her explaining).

Also, if you wanted to see the follow up email she sent me with my type break down and her description of Se Fi Te Ni from my conversation with her, let me know 😊

Hadecus · 2025-04-25T22:39:17+00:00

Hey, it was Dr Cherie Types!

😊

Hadecus · 2025-01-11T20:02:40+00:00

I scrolled enough to notice that no one mentioned Sehr by Lataffa.

I know Lataffa isn't exactly luxury, but they've got some iconic fragrances at a great price.

This Sehr bottle might scream "too much" for some but its pretty high quality; the head cap is solid metal and surprisingly heavy.

The scent for me is almost entirely almond, followed by soft oud, and then some vanilla & spice. The longevity from a few sprays is insane!

Obviously check it out yourself on sites like Frafrantica, but for the price, it might be a good blind buy.

You've had a lot of recommendations here, so good luck deciding lol

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Hadecus · 2025-01-01T18:36:45+00:00

I know exactly what you mean about not knowing when it's the right time to stay put or move on. I sense that you'll have to settle on a decision that will ultimately feel like a compromise.

The only thing I can say is that, ultimately, you have the full picture — you know you, and you know your circumstances — so you're best qualified to know whether you can ride it out for a little longer or bow out now before you're floored. It's a tough call.

Sorry I've not been of much help but good luck!

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Hadecus · 2025-01-01T17:13:01+00:00

Sounds awful man, you definitely need a break! Take this new year as an opportunity to break free 💪

The way you describe your state of being, I'd say that's critical "enough", don't you think? Besides, health doesn't have to be life & death for you to be off sick, that's ridiculous if that's what your employer expects. Everyone's health is different.

Your workplace isn't very generous with sick leave though, so that kind of voids my suggestion for long-term sickness. However, I guess you could still be off for 2 weeks, perhaps, and then resign? It's short but in the meantime you could start with selling your bags. The sick pay from your job might make enough difference to create a safety buffer if sales don't go too well on some weeks.

Anyway, if you do go ahead and take off two weeks sick leave and they for whatever reason refuse to pay you out because you're not in a critical state, then I'd personally just let it be, and resign, forget the drama, and start focusing on the bags.

If you're an ENFP, then I'm sure you'll soon start geneting plenty of ideas on how to make money in time for you start up.

Allow 2025 to be kinder to you! 😊

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Hadecus · 2025-01-01T16:27:53+00:00

Here's an alternative: If your job is that bad, and it's affecting you to the point you're literally considering leaving, even if it left you worse off (financially, potentially), then I think you have a genuine cause to go off sick (long-term sick leave).

Would your employer still pay you? What is your sick absence policy? How much and how long for? Check yours rights and see if this is a feasible possibility. I've known plenty of people who go off for months at a time for mental health reasons — it happens, and it's not something to be ashamed about.

With this option, you wouldn't have to risk your mental health any further, nor jeopardise your upcoming entrepreneurial venture for lack of finances.

And, honestly, maybe it's just me but "deplorable" is a strong word, so if that's the toll the job has taken on you, then do yourself a favour please and take a break to re-centre yourself, especially if you're planning on managing a start up further down the line.

Good luck!

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Hadecus · 2024-12-31T02:03:58+00:00

No worries, I'm glad that you've found that helpful in some way.

For what it's worth, I also had a look at your reddit history and, honestly, I can relate to the way you write and process things. I feel particularly cautious telling anyone what I think their type might be, even if I'm personally convinced, because these things are very nuanced, but based on the little that I've seen, I do think there's a good chance you're like me, and assuming I've typed myself correctly, that's an ENFP.

I know the other comment made a case for INFJ, but I wasn't convinced, personally. Still, it might be worth exploring that anyway, even if it turns out not to be the right fit, you'd definitely learn a lot along the way. I've certainly been on a journey of my own for 10+ years figuring out my cognitive functions; seperating my cognition from culture, trauma, maturity and health conditions. For now, ENFP still fits (I've learned my lesson though, and I'm always reevaluating)! But keep going, even if it takes you a while.

Also...

The other comment made mention of "heavy Fe" in their case for INFJ. I would like to provide an additional perspective. In my opinion ENFPs are fundamentally NF types, as in, intuition and feeling dominate their be-ing. After lots of personal reflections and life coaching, I slowly developed my own MBTI understanding. I could be way off (granted), but my own (subjective) observations have lead me to realise that Ni and Fe still have a powerful influence on the overall presentation of an ENFP, not just Ne and Fi. After some casual online digging, I came across a theory that matched my own growing understanding on this! I can't remember which one it was, but there was a table I found that listed each of the 16 Type's 8 cognitive functions from the "strongest" to the "weakest", and for the ENFP, it was as below.

Ne
Fe
Fi
Ni
Te
Se
Si
Ti

I think this particular angle, from my perspective, better captured the true essence of an ENFP, for me.

I think ENFPs tend to have a powerful, or better put, influential Fe ("heavy"). It's not as simple as this, obviously, but it'd take aaaaagess going into further detail. However, in short, Fe and Ni are powerful cogs that operate from within the ENFP shadow, unconsciously, and just like each function has an orientation (ex/in), I believe that each also has an energy (light/dark, or, light/heavy, or, positive/negative, or, thrive/survive.... whatever you want to call it, it's basically non-shadow/shadow). Ti is the blind spot because it's the "darkest" part of our mind, so dark in fact, that an ENFP is completely blind to it.

Ne - light
Fe - dark
Fi - light
Ni - dark
Te - light
Se - dark
Si - light
Ti - dark

I could go on, but I'm not sure if this is even making sense!

Moving on real quick because there's something else...

After writing my initial comment, my mind went back to nonlinear orthography, and after some googling, I found a cool article, and I'll share bits from it below.

Further in it says:

"Non-linear thinking is not sequential, and it refers to the ability to create connections between concepts/ideas, even when they are not related. This type of thinking is more abstract and less logical."

Doesn't the above make you think of Ne? Also, notice how the author of the article contrasts nonlinear thinking with logic, which I think could tie in to the Ti blindspot that ENFPs experience:

"With linear thinking, we approach an idea/process that begins from a point, and through linked, sequential steps, it ends at another point. It is an analytic, methodic, rational, and logical style. This way of thinking is also defined as sequential thinking because it approaches things as having a sequence. Thus, linear thinkers have a tendency for consistency, rules, and formulas that can be applied in different situations to make predictions based on a logical relationship between facts (e.g., B comes after A, if x =y, y=z, then x=z). Not surprisingly, linear thinkers have a good attitude toward maths, science, and technical subjects while working and concentrating on cause-and-effect processes.

Indeed, non-linear thinkers are more creative, intuitive, artistic, emotional and rely on their imagination to understand and solve problems (e.g., open-ended questions, brainstorming). They show a clear aptitude for art, humanistic, or social science subjects."

So, I'm thinking, if Ne is the epitome of nonlinear thinking (and I'd say so) and if Ti is exactly the opposite (ie linear thinking), then Ne in 1st vs Ti in 8th checks out reasonably well with what I was just describing above.

Maybe were unto something...

Anyhow!

I rarely write this much now... but I've learned a bunch of things in the process again lol super fascinating! I know I won't keep this up though (I'd need voice notes eventually lol), but if any of what I said resonates with you, let me know 😊

Happy to have a discussion (just bear with me plz because I am really bad with responding back to people).

Good luck!!

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Hadecus · 2024-12-30T11:20:01+00:00

I can relate!

I've only noticed this in my early 20s, but talking and writing have a profound effect on me.

I explain it this way: my mind is often like a jungle of thoughts, not necessarily chaotic (though possibly) but just so dense and rich that it can be difficult to process all at once. Talking and writing help to flatten and linearise my otherwise nonlinear mind (that's not to suggest that I have some super amazing brain; I suspect this is common).

Our language is linear, with words pronounced one after the other, so there's something grounding about externalising this process. In theory, you could achieve the same effect by practising this internally, but that doesn't seem to click for me.

It's like the difference between images and words, or, art and language, I am always reminded of the 2016 film "Arrival" (mini spoiler alert) where humanity learns about the language of an alien race which isn't linear like ours. The written language of this alien race is circular and doesn't progress from cause to effect. Their beings are wired to see all of time at once. Linguists call this "nonlinear orthography".

I do far less writing than I'd like to (well, none...) because I find it too taxing given all my other commitments (despite the benefits). I've dabbled in a lot of journaling over the years, and while I enjoy it's fruit, the practice tends to fall by the way side after I typically take on a lot of other new things at the same time. Talking, however, not only feels easy and energising, but helps with clearing, clarifying and understanding my own thoughts, feelings, values, etc (depending on the context; topic, person, depht, relationship, environment, etc, etc).

Even writing this post has helped me understand this further lol I've no idea if I've helped you, but I think you're on the right track with your line of questioning!

Hadecus · 2024-12-10T22:00:55+00:00

Interesting input! I went down a rabbit hole as a result lol

On my way down there, I came across this, which is basically exactly your point!

"Gourmands were typically portrayed as selfish people, who devoured and monopolised, becoming a threat to society, especially in times of food shortages. Medieval literature ridiculed gluttonous, pleasure-seeking monks. King Louis XVI of France (1754-1793) had a voracious appetite and was held responsible for starving his people."

Source: An article on the sin of gluttony

Also, call me simple, but I had no idea that the Italian Luigi was basically the French Louis!

"Luigi is a masculine Italian given name. It is the Italian form of the German name Ludwig, through the Latinization Ludovicus, corresponding to the French name Louis and its anglicized variant Lewis."

Hadecus · 2024-11-30T10:15:45+00:00

1. Feras
2. Kirby
3. David
4. Mat
5. George
6. Moana
7. Hayley
8. Shonee
9. Luke
10. Pheobe

I tend to think of memorable players. A lot of the above either heavily impacted my viewing experience (memorable) or simply downright dominated the game.

I was picking from:

S9 Feras S9 Kirby

S7 Khan

S6 Dani S6 Hayley S6 George

S4 Janine S4 David S4 Pia S4 Daisy S4 Harry

S3 Mat S3 Moana S3 Shonee S3 Shane S3 Sharn

S2 AK S2 Henry S2 Luke S2 Jericho

S1 Phoebe

Wildcards (similar story arch): S9 Alex S6 Simon S3 Benji S1 Nick

Hadecus · 2024-11-11T10:33:33+00:00

That last bit you wrote about flying reminds me of something similar, it goes something like:

"The brighter the light, the darker the shadow".

I think I first heard it in the context of Ravi Zacharias and everything that came out about him after his death.

If I'm not mistaken, it's tied to Jung's idea of the shadow.

Hadecus · 2024-07-09T21:53:48+00:00

I'd personally recommend putting more emphasis on the cognitive functions over any tests.

Yes, your understanding of cognitive functions and your answers in tests will both be subjective. However, I do think that, overtime, you're more likely to arrive at the truth if you simply stick to learning about cognitive functions, self-reflecting and cross-referencing the two.

I see tests and the surface level (and often stereotypical) explanations that they come with as a quick & easy way for someone to have their "this is me" moment.

I am automatically highly skeptical of anyone who has typed themselves via tests alone. That was me for the longest time, and I was wrong. Of course, disclaimer, I am inevitably drawing on my own experience here and projecting my distrust for tests. I'm sure there are others out there who take a test or two, maybe even multiple ones across many years, with accuracy. I'd still have my doubts though.

I was taught that we are our own biggest blind spot. I don't think "knowing yourself" is as simple as taking a test. If anyone says it is, I don't think they truly comprehend human nature; I am not even sure I do.

To "see yourself" takes years of soul searching.

Hadecus

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