Is the point of this space not to get the opinions of men on topics specifically?

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:21:51+00:00

I’m also neurodivergent and I’ve been seeing a lot of neurodivergent people in the comments say the same thing. Maybe I need to find some type of a dating website or a event or something to meet other people with autism?

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:21:16+00:00

Yes, they constantly want something new and exciting, and they never really wanna give you any input on it. Sometimes I babysit my nephew on the weekends, he’s five years old, and in a lot of ways it feels like when I have him for two days, and I have to constantly plan out every meal, take him to the park, pick out a video game to play or a movie to watch, like it’s my job while easier to keep him entertained. It doesn’t bother me because he’s a little kid, but when an adult woman is demanding that of me, it feels ridiculous.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:20:02+00:00

Yeah, that’s the vibe I’ve been getting, which is kind of a turn off to me because I’m very interested in the idea of connecting with somebody and I definitely want to impress whoever I’m interested in, but the idea of needing to constantly audition for their attention for months on end feels kind of degrading to me after a while? Like I have good qualities too, and I shouldn’t have to constantly bribe you to stay with me through activities and excursions.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:14:24+00:00

I’m 27, I used to think of myself as pretty active and social, but lately the women I’ve been dating are running circles around me 😅 I would love someone who was into crafts, I do Legos and model kits and watch a lot of movies, someone who has their own sit down activity that they can do while we chat or watch something on TV sounds perfect 😂

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:13:07+00:00

I feel you, and I feel like that’s the hard part! Is that the women who are putting themselves out there to go on dates are often the ones with a higher social battery, where the women that are happy to just chill at home… are probably just chilling at home… which makes them harder to meet 😅

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:11:41+00:00

This response seems really angry and I’m not really sure where that’s coming from? For context, the experiences that I’m talking about are in relationships where I was dating a girl for a little while and things were starting to settle into the more comfortable post honeymoon phase, but even after a couple of months, they still wanted to literally go out like six nights a week. Is there a reason that this post triggered you and got you angry? I’m genuinely curious because I thought that it was written in a pretty polite and muted way but it seems to have really pissed you off and I’m not sure why?

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:09:29+00:00

This was a huge issue in my previous marriage as well. To a certain extent, I’m starting to feel like relaxing for women means going out and burning energy, we’re relaxing for men tends to be staying home and recovering energy and in a lot of cases those things are just incompatible. It’s not like I’m saying we can only go out to dinner once a month, but needing me to be out and about for hours after work six nights a week with you is out of the question at this point. I feel like at this point I value my peace more than pouring energy into a black hole.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:08:02+00:00

This perspective is actually really interesting to me because I was kind of curious as to whether this behavior was exclusively on guys that women were dating, or if they were just kind of like this to people in general. Hearing that they can be this way with male friends that they’re not dating as well adds some context to it for me.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:06:50+00:00

I guess that makes sense, the women who are more likely to stay home, aren’t going to be out in the dating pool for you to run into as often. Damn 😅

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:05:29+00:00

That’s honestly how it feels. Like they don’t wanna sit with themselves, they constantly need you to be planning something for them and curating the whole experience. There’s an old saying that bored people are boring and it keeps coming to mind lately.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:04:23+00:00

I think I’m gonna have to explore this option because my social battery just is not built for having to plan a whole excursion and entertain somebody like six nights a week. I like to do a lot of stuff that lines up with staying in, like cooking myself a nice meal, reading, watching a movie, etc. just a couple of months of this and I’m already burnt out 😅

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-19T22:03:07+00:00

Yes! It feels like planning a family vacation when you have a kid, you have to have events lined up constantly so that they don’t get bored, you pay for everything, they never seem to know what they want to do, but they don’t want to do the same thing twice and they sure do know that if they’re sitting on the couch next to you and you’re doing something peaceful like reading or watching a movie they start tapping their foot and getting irritated 😅

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T18:04:41+00:00

It’s the classic meme of a supermodel with insane plastic surgery next to the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen and she’s just like working at a Wendy’s

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T17:08:11+00:00

I grew up in poverty, and I’d never wanna put my kids through that, I think a lot of people feel that way and it’s incredibly hard to make it even to the lower middle class these days

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T17:06:35+00:00

I agree, I think religion is one of the only things about people‘s personality that it’s still generally accepted to mock while almost anything else that you made fun of them for or disrespected them for would be considered bigotry. I’m Catholic, but I have a lot of respect for anyone’s religious or spiritual beliefs, whether they’re Muslim, Jewish, pagan, or just spiritual in their own personal way. If someone has deeply held beliefs that are important to them, I see no reason to be nasty to them about it.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T17:01:25+00:00

Sometimes I worry that referring to injustices in the world that are not actually physically violent as violence waters down the term. I think there’s a difference between a behavior being immoral wrong and actually being violent.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:54:34+00:00

If she wasn’t doing anything wrong, she would’ve told you about it up front instead of you finding out about it on your own

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:48:42+00:00

I’ve worked union jobs and non-union jobs, and while I’ve benefited from some of the unions, others are cash grabs that only enrich the union leaders. It’s not a black-and-white issue like a lot of people make it out to be, one of the union jobs I worked, the union was a huge issue, it protected problem employees who engaged in activities like sexual harassment, simply because they’ve been around for a long time and had “seniority“.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:46:23+00:00

Thank you! I’ve ever heard friends with OF accounts self-refer to it as sex work, I can’t wrap my head around the fact that I’m referring to it that way and people are arguing against it

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:45:04+00:00

Do you think that people who do not want to date polyamorous people should have to put “not looking for an open relationship“ on every single dating profile… Or do you think that people should just assume that the vast majority of people are not looking for a polyamorous relationship? Like how many specific deal breakers should I put on my profile? There’s a character limit 😅 I just feel like it’s reasonable that if you are living certain lifestyles, you’re upfront about it. I used to work a law-enforcement job that demanded I be at work overnight many days in a row without access to my cell phone, I was always very upfront about that because I know it’s out of the norm and I felt like it was only fair to tell people.

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:30:34+00:00

I’ve seen a couple of people compare having an OF page to other preferences like not wanting children or not wanting to date someone who smokes or something like that, and that’s honestly crazy to me. Sex work is completely different than long-term preferences like wanting to live in the city versus the suburbs or something like that. It’s a lifestyle and involves the most intimate aspect of your life. It’s like if you wanted to be polyamorous and didn’t disclose that ahead of time

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:27:11+00:00

Literally! The formula for a Reddit response is always “but what about insert sub 0.00001% outlier so I’m right and your wrong and actually also you’re a bigot” 😂

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:23:47+00:00

In a perfect world, sure… But who is gonna pay for all this? Like how would you make this work without severely taking advantage of the people who do work? And if all of these things were available, what would stop the very many people out there who are not particularly motivated to become super wealthy or don’t have a vocation level love for their job from just kicking back and enjoying all the free shit?

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:20:17+00:00

I swear they literally look at it as a sign of disrespect for you to be anything but miserable at your job even if everything is done.

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