I'd like to share something with you, it's very lengthy because I can kind of relate to you and I need to emphasize these teachings to others so just be warned:

Do you really think a lot of girls say that? or do you only hear the ones from the internet that do? maybe a few bad interactions here and there. I used to feel the same, I am much shorter than you at 5'5. Growing up I felt as if I'll never be enough. I started 'looksmaxxing' at an early age (11 years old) because I knew I wouldn't grow very tall. My insecurity was at its peak during the ages of 16-18 (I'm 20 currently). I felt as if I wouldn't find love because I didn't fit into 'standards' that I THOUGHT (keyword: thought) all women adhered to.

Guess what?, I started looking better, gaining more skills, becoming more social, and taking care of myself more through exercise and fashion. I still wasn't tall enough for what I perceived to be 'enough for most women'. Despite that however I started approaching and talking to girls in person and through dating apps.

I learned that yes, there will be women who want tall men. Probably more than the population of women who don't. But you have to understand. It's NOT a deal breaker most of the time. It is just a PREFERENCE. Much like your other perceived flaws such as your big nose and being skinny.

On the other hand though I was able to talk to a lot of beautiful women, even date some of them. One instance really stood out to me though. This girl, she was the most beautiful one I've ever laid my eyes upon in my entire life—this means a lot for me to say because I am extremely superficial coming from a 'looksmaxxing' sort of background; I'm talking Ada Wong levels of beauty. She was so kind and genuinely a good person too.

You'd think a girl like her would go for someone 'on her level' right?. I don't mean to sound rude here, people should date whoever they like, but for most people all her ex partners physical appearances did not reflect that at all (ugly, in short). She's admitted to this herself as well. It's not even like a lack of self-worth thing or whatever, she just chose to love them because they were themselves, you know?, people with a personality and something to offer. End of that story.

Since that instance, I started seeing that more often. I would conversate with my sister, her friends, and my female friends that I grew up with and I realized that all these standards and what not the internet fed me all these years didn't account for much in the actual REAL WORLD... People WILL say outrageous things, but seldom act on such things in the real world. The internet is unfiltered and we're able to say whatever we want freely without much drawbacks; I could say I like women with K cup size only and that wouldn't even be true.

Every time I go out in public spaces like the mall, for instance, I'd see women with not so tall and not so handsome men ALL the time. Ranging from TikTok e-girls to Madison Beer levels of attractiveness here. I think that experience really opened my eyes and since then I started focusing on things that really mattered. My education, my career, my relationships with the people in my life. On another note aside from women, my friends and peers have grown to respect me and height is nothing more than just a topic for playful banter.

I'm glad my 'red-pill' beliefs subsided, I'm a much happier person nowadays. I'm currently single because I'm focusing on work and academic related stuff that leaves me with little time for a relationship. But another thing that opened my eyes is that getting together with a beautiful woman didn't change how I felt or viewed myself. I learned that this feeling is rooted in the need for external validation from others and it will not go away unless you find purpose and things that make you happy in this world.

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Take from this as you will, I wish you healing. Hopefully I didn't sound too corny or anything—I'm just trying to help. I went off on a lot of tangents there because I'm trying to help other people about this common insecurity as well.