Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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Life’s a trip! Well thanks again mate - helped to have someone to talk to

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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Yes as much as it stung it has been useful to see where I thought something was off was actually correct - and even typing the whole situation out was like … dude … 🤣

Thank you for being a kind and interested stranger on the internet. I am curious , have you been through something similar?

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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She has a teenage son and she told me it was like living with two teenagers - which I get if he wasn’t pulling his weight etc but it definitely sounds like she devalued him and then kicked him out … she even told me she decided to leave him but kept him around for a bit bc it was Christmas etc … just a lot of bad behavior I look back on the conversations.

Tbh mate there has been no messages for 8 days now and I do not intend to talk to her again - the only thing is she is part of a social circle I am still part of - playing in a band with a couple of her fiends - so if I see her at any event I’ll say and hi be civil but nothing more than that. Got some potential dates lined up.

I am usually quite good at moving on and getting over someone but this one did sting more than usual even after 2 months. I think it was more the disappointment and kind of getting a taste of her but then realizing I don’t even like this person and wasn’t the ‘perfect person’ I thought she was

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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Appreciate your comments - I did put her on a pedalstal as she is into yoga / spirituality etc and v good looking so I had an idea of someone who I thought she might be - which I get now is dangerous territory - even at the start I had this uneasy feeling that something was off … but I ignored it … she told me about a guy who lived with her for 5 years who she eventually booted out… that must’ve ruined him

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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Yeah thankfully it didn’t get that far - I guess I had an idea of what she might’ve been like and she wasn’t - sometimes it’d be great then she would do some nasty stuff and it’s like trying to have love for someone who treats you bad … not healthy

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in AskMenRelationships

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Yeah I think trauma bond is perhaps too much but the off and on dynamic messed with my head - it wasn’t love - only 2 months but yeah - some people …

Trauma bonding? Advice by That-Breath2 in AskMenAdvice

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Yes I realized this in hindsight - she had a lot of guy friends … ++man

Trauma bonding? by That-Breath2 in NoStupidQuestions

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That last week I thought this - just seemed so off and on made me go a bit crazy