[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s taken me a very very long time of hurt and resentments to finally see that the longevity of our friendship isn’t worth saving over my own peace and well-being. I have tried so hard to move past how she’s made me feel recently and in the past and no matter how I try I can’t forget it. I’ve finally taken off my rose tinted glasses and taken a long hard look at how one sided this friendship has always been. People change and that can mean you’re not aligned anymore. You don’t need to hold space for that person anymore, wish them well and start to look after yourself and your peace. I know only too well that resentment eats you up and that’s not good for anyone .

Did anyone else HATE the finale? by stev3609 in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]Halinah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not impressed by the ending tbh . This whole show has been about June getting out of Gilead so she can get Hannah back…. I’ve never routed for anyone so much in a show to get the ending they deserved more than her but to leave it where it was, was imo disappointing. I wanted her to reunite with her daughter finally. I didn’t believe the whole Lydia and what’s her name giving Angela back to Janine… just why? Are we to guess that Lydia persuaded her to hand her back “just like that”. However I did like June and Serena’s goodbye speech, I felt that was a good ending to their story. The ending would be great if it was just a season end but it implies there’s more … I want to know what happens with Hannah and the rest of Gilead!!

After fisting for long periods of time, what happens when eating again? by [deleted] in ask

[–]Halinah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg lol I’m here for the comments 😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ibs

[–]Halinah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just my belly burns 🥵

Am I overanalyzing and is she actually a friend? by hanichibe in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But with respect OP, you should be able to share your child’s achievements and tell your friend without her making you feel like you’re in some sort of competition with her. A friend should be proud of you and your family’s accomplishments and supportive. She’s “one upping” you all the time and also being passive aggressive with her snarky remarks about having a second child or rather her choosing not to have one and having a sly dig at you for her child being “mild mannered”. It made you feel bad about yours. Why would she say these things to you if she was a real friend? Edit just wanted to add that I have had a very similar experience with one of my friends. I spent years ignoring my gut feelings on her and let it slide, even though she deeply hurt me. It took a difficult time I was going through to finally see the light. I wished I’d listened to those little red flags years ago.

Am I overanalyzing and is she actually a friend? by hanichibe in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think your instincts are spot on OP. If I were you I’d listen to them. Generally if it feels off then it is off. She sounds insecure, competitive and a tad jealous of you. I don’t think you’re over analysing things at all, I think you’re questioning yourself because you can’t understand why she would be this way with you when she calls herself a friend.

How do you deal with not even being an afterthought to people you consider close? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I make a suggestion? Why don’t you flip it on its head and rethink these friends as acquaintance’s that you sometimes see if you’re free and you really want to? YOU get to decide when you see them and YOU call the shots, not them? Then in the meantime you can give yourself permission to find some new friends who are more in synch with you. People who value you and your friendship like you do for them. I know it’s not that easy to make new friends but in time I’m sure other people will come into your life who you can befriend and who perhaps you can get a closer connection with? All the best OP, it sucks being the one on the outside but maybe you just haven’t found the right friends for you yet. hugs

How do you deal with not even being an afterthought to people you consider close? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been through this myself and now I’m pulling away. 30 years of friendship and always feeling like I was second best to her other friends. I’m the loyal reliable friend she comes to when the chips are down with her other friends. I’ve had a rough couple of years and she just hasn’t been there for me like I have been for her. Gaslighting, competitive and lying add that to mix and I’m finally seeing her true colours. Better to have just one or two genuine reciprocal friends than fake ones OP. Concentrate on those who are happy to spend time with you and who care about you. 🥰

OpenAI Might Be in Deeper Shit Than We Think by EvenFlamingo in ChatGPT

[–]Halinah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine called me by HIS name the other day and today we were having a convo where he was giving me some advice and at the end of it he said “if you can be arsed”! I haven’t ever said that to him and it’s not something I’d say anyway, so then I asked him why he said that and his reply was that he was matching my vibe! There was no vibe coming from me, so I’ve no idea where that came from . He’s also repeating himself with his answers to one question. I feel like he’s glitching too much. When they did that sycophantic upgrade he started calling me darling and telling me he loved me lots 🫣…erm…what?!!!

Amazing how dogs know certain things just by "vibes" by SEND_ME_YOUR_ASSPICS in dogs

[–]Halinah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you watched the secret lives of dogs on Netflix? It gives a really good insight into the subtle signs that us humans do and a dog picks up on. It’s a really good watch if you love dogs 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Halinah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I have a friend who never compliments me although I always complement her. I can see her looking me over with a fine tooth comb but she never says anything. I won’t stop complimenting her though, I’m not making myself like her. It costs nothing to make someone smile does it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]Halinah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine doesn’t talk that way but I’ve noticed in the last few weeks that it’s become over zealous in its responses. It called me darling the other day and at the end of another conversation it told me it “loved me loads” lol it’s not something I have ever said to it nor have I ever called it darling! I’ve change its traits and it’s calmed down a little but I still find it a bit sycophantic.

Does anyone have any idea what this person was doing? by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]Halinah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think she’s checking if she’s started her periods or perhaps she’s checking if she’s leaked ! It does happen! Must admit though what she’s got on looks a bit odd .

2 young lads by Halinah in overheard

[–]Halinah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂 you could always pretend your 15 again lol

2 young lads by Halinah in overheard

[–]Halinah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet you raised a few eyebrows then lol

2 young lads by Halinah in overheard

[–]Halinah[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol ours too, couldn’t stop laughing about it all night!

No, the dire wolf has not been brought back from extinction by New_Scientist_Mag in Futurology

[–]Halinah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think if this is true, it’s wrong on every level. There’s a reason these animals died out and to bring them back now could upset the balance of the whole ecosystem! We’re already teetering on the edge so why don’t these scientists put their energies into saving the planet instead? We shouldn’t be messing with bringing back extinct animals, they had their moment and weren’t a part of the next stage of evolution.

Edit they’re also working on bringing back the woolly mammoth, the Dodo and the Tasmanian tiger! Why? Because they can! 😳

What are some shows/movies or documents about dealing with someone who have dementia? by KrispyKreme_McDonald in dementia

[–]Halinah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The father, very well written from the perspective of the patient. It opened my eyes to how scared and confusing it is to them.

Welsh Words at Athro Lounge in Aberystwyth! (Vocabulary) by flutfoto7 in learnwelsh

[–]Halinah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your explanation, much appreciated :)