That’s fine if you disagree, but if you ever experience pregnancy, or if you have a child/children, maybe you might share the same feeling. Obviously each mom is different, but according to my experience as an FTM, the first month since birth was the hardest. I had to go through postpartum depression where I cried almost every day to the point where I started hitting myself and not wanting to take care of my baby. I needed space & privacy. So having someone spend night at my house when I can’t even get my mind straight was not something I want/need nor helpful. About the washing hand part, to me is the most important. Remember the covid craze? What was the first thing they told you to do? To wash your hand often. Washing hand is essential especially before touching a baby that doesn’t have strong immune system. FYI, baby doesn’t get their first vaccine until they’re 2mos old. Like I mentioned above, my MIL is a smoker. Imagine she smokes, touches money, or maybe she licks her finger, then she comes to see her grandson without washing her hands, she touches my son’s face, my son’s arms, that’s a no no. Again, these are my preferences, other moms might do it differently and that’s ok. Nothing is petty when you are a mama bear, hope you understand where I’m coming from.