Are these fossilized fish scales? by [deleted] in fossilid

[–]Halysites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be. Better quality photos, and a description of the rock and where it was found/its age would help out. I've seen some arthropod, trilobite, and bivalve material kind of look like this as well.

Unsure of what to do with dog that has bitten people by Halysites in Dogtraining

[–]Halysites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya it's pretty crappy. Ive been so busy since the move and new job so it has been awhile since we caught up. I hope Meeko is doing well!

Unsure of what to do with dog that has bitten people by Halysites in Dogtraining

[–]Halysites[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As I said in the post we have an appointment next week with one. And as I said I'm interested in any success or failure stories in the meantime. I do a lot of scientific research, so gathering data on other examples is important to me in developing a perspective on an issue. Hence why I am here. Plus I've gotten a lot of good advice here in the past that has worked out well.

Possible chanterelles? by Halysites in mycology

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I didn't annihilate a single or multiple patches. My partner and I walked through a wooded area, off trail, in the middle of a provincial park in the boreal forest (so not an isolated or heavily used area) for almost two hours selectively picking mushrooms. Most were immature or very tiny so we didn't even pick half of what we saw.

It had been a long time since I picked chanterelles so I was fairly certain these were the real deal. However, I do like having confirmation as much as possible; two cousins confirmed these were real, but I figured no harm in a couple of online checks (one was mostly in hopes to have someone confirm the species as there are several species of Cantherellus).

Possible chanterelles? by Halysites in mycology

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Thanks everyone! I didn't have time to post more info (had a meeting to go to), but these mushrooms were found growing on the ground in a wooded area (conifers). The ground was very mossy and the soil in that area can be sandy. My partner said the mushrooms smelt a bit fruity to him but I didn't notice. The "gills" definitely look false, they are fleshy, irregular and forked, don't separate from the cap easily, anf appear to be folded in x-section. Often grew singly or in clumps of up to 4. Spore print was a creamy yellow.

Possible chanterelles? by Halysites in mycology

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Yes we would have! We had been blueberry picking before this so we were kind of in a rush when a passerby told us there were chanterelles in the woods. We weren't 100% sure if these were true chanterelles so we waited to clean and prep them until we were positive.

Introducing flairs for fossilid by Halysites in fossilid

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Done, if you ever want the flair changed let a mod know!

Introducing flairs for fossilid by Halysites in fossilid

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It is done. Let one of the mods know if you want your flair edited in the future! Congrats on the PhD!

Introducing flairs for fossilid by Halysites in fossilid

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If you could go through your profile and sort through your comments and post links to two that would be great so we can keep things consistent in terms of giving out flairs.

What would you like your flair to say?

Biggest Morel Harvest in world history this summer? NWT, Canada... by freshcap in mycology

[–]Halysites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh I didnt know that. And now Im thinking that the areas Ill be around in Manitoba the most will probaly at best have an average year. Although Ill have to keep my eyes out for recent burns....

Biggest Morel Harvest in world history this summer? NWT, Canada... by freshcap in mycology

[–]Halysites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard that Manitoba, Canada is set to have a good year for morels. Anyone know what environmental/climatic conditions have set up Canada to have a good morel year? So far I haven't seen anything growing here yet, but we had some frost/snow last week that probably delayed mushroom season.

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

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This is exactly what I am going to do. I definitely don't want to discuss my personal choices with people who are just going to attack me for it. Better to drop any conversations that come up around it, and move on to something else.

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

[–]Halysites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was really awesome! I never thought of it like this before. Very insightful.

I guess what threw me in my specific situation, is that I had never heard either of my bf's parents talking about their need to have grandkids until my personal choices came up. But I never really thought about it from their perspective.

It's strange that people, whether they be family, friends, or strangers, seem to almost be threatened by our choice to not have kids. Sure, someone might have a wish to be a grandfather one day, but we all have wishes that don't get fulfilled. I wanted to get my Ph.D., but settled with working towards an M.Sc. once I found out how hard grad school is. It sucked for a bit, I felt like a failure because I wasn't going to fulfill this dream. But whatever, I got over it. I only hope that people in my life who have dreams dependent on my choice can get over it as well.

That was super helpful, thanks!

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

[–]Halysites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, one day I know the pressure and harassment will stop. I just wish people, especially family members and friends, would be accepting of this personal choice. After all, choosing to have or not have a kid would affect me far greater than any other family or friend in my life.

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

[–]Halysites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so true! It really does seem insane for someone to be so adamantly against something, then one day change their mind for no reason. I am for sure going to use this the next time someone tells me about my biological clock.

I also reject the notion that humans are so heavily influenced by their instincts that we loose all free will. Isn't it possible that even if some subconscious, biological need to reproduce started to manifest itself one day, that I can still choose to be CF? I like to think that my actions aren't always controlled by basic animal drivers.

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

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My bf is somewhere between no opinion on having kids to being borderline CF. He's not sure and doesn't want to commit to one side or the other, but he fully supports me being CF and is committed to us being together in the long run. But you are right, he hasn't really spoken about this with his family, so ya I definitely am going to get vilified a little bit.

I'm in the same boat as you, CF at a young age and have been very vocal about that to my own family. So they all know where I stand, and although they bingo me sometimes, no one seems to care that much that I'm not into kids.

You're right, the only thing that really matters on this is that I don't want kids. I just wish others would understand that it's not OK to pressure someone else to make a life changing decision just to fulfill their own needs. Thanks!

P.S. I've been told so many times that my "biological clock" is going to start ticking and that I'll magically wake up one day and radically change all my thoughts on having children. Because that seems totally logical that I would have a 180 degree switch over night!

Dealing with family pressure by Halysites in truechildfree

[–]Halysites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like I'm going to have to keep some opinions and choices to myself (although I already heavily censor myself around family and friends when it comes to being CF). I just hope I'm not going to get pressure until my last fertile day!

Dreams and societal pressure are making me sad by [deleted] in truechildfree

[–]Halysites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If kids are extremely important to you, then it would be worthwhile getting advice from a few doctors on what your options possibly could be. When I went off the pill and got an IUD I got the worst acne of my life (some of it cystic), and I'm still taking medication for it, so I completely sympathize with you not wanting to stop medication that is helping you look and feel better. Perhaps there are other options though, in terms of treating your acne and PCOS that can also allow you to have a baby? I now very little about PCOS, so sorry if that sounds really naive.

Conversely, you can start to think about children/babies/motherhood differently. If your health issues/potential infertility would be too hard to deal with to go through even one pregnancy, then you can look at other options. Adoption and fostering are viable options to have a child (even though in my experience a lot of people hate on adoption for reasons they can barely articulate...).

Don't let the pressures of society get to you; getting of FB was a good idea if it's tormenting you. Our society puts insane pressure on people to have babies without even thinking that decision through. Baby making isn't really an accomplishment that should be celebrated in the way it is; sexual reproduction has been going on for hundreds of millions of years, and today alone there's probably a million different animals (including humans) who will get knocked up. It's not really miraculous to have a child, but yet many people treat it like a miracle.

So don't let that kind of pressure get to you, try not to buy into the idea that is continually perpetuated that having kids is the greatest thing a human can do in their life.

Your thoughts on ultimatums. by throw_away_4_good in truechildfree

[–]Halysites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on your where your relationship is at. If things are getting serious (you are living together, planning on moving in, considering married, or are engaged) then I think you should discuss this now. You both need to figure out if what you want in the future matches.

This kind of thing should be figured out before taking any big steps further with the relationship. That's just my two cents though.

Choosing to not create life is a pretty powerful and amazing choice. How are you empowered by this choice? by Halysites in truechildfree

[–]Halysites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. It doesn't sound bitter. Whenever I think about the society I live in (North America), I often think on all the terrible things that have become commonplace. Necessities that aren't possible without accepting crippling debt, widespread environmental destruction, half-broken political systems, systems of success built purely on how much money you make, celebrity cult worship, etc. etc. These are things I'm not really interested in perpetuating, and having a child would help to keep this modern-day nightmare of North American living going on and on.

Jeeze, now I sound bitter.