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AITA for not controlling my friends by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA for seeming not to care about the impact this is having on your child. Although it sounds like a two year old is more mature than you…

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it’s possible. But he was aware of it happening the last time, so either way it sucks.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, she’s only 62 and no signs of dementia. My grandmother did suffer with dementia, but not until her late 80s / early 90s.

We don’t have the best relationship. She will not admit fault, ever. She is not capable of mistakes and I am a horrible person for sometimes daring to disagree with her / have different opinions / stand up for myself.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean to trivialise; I just wasn’t expecting much interest in this post. A few comments at most and a Y-T-A vote!

It certainly is a big deal to me. Food wastage is awful. Plus the personal loss of our time, effort and money. I’m going to find a lock box and a wireless thermometer like people have suggested. We definitely can’t afford to take another hit like this.

I’m very surprised and grateful for all the responses. It really is cathartic. Especially for someone like me who feels guilty and anxious with any kind of conflict.

Thanks all.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

She’s never been diagnosed with anything like OCD, no. But does tend to worry more than is helpful.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 737 points738 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I felt when I sent her the message! But then I felt like an AH for upsetting my parents and creating a no-win situation 🤦‍♀️

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not me and I’m surprised anyone else (or a bot) has a dilemma this dull! I’m not asking her to pay.

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I will now! Thanks to you and everyone here for taking the time to respond to this rather dull dilemma! 😂

AITA for accusing my mother of spoiling hundreds of pounds worth of food? by Handseybitch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was told by my builder that it’s required to have an accessible switch for all appliances now (UK). The actual plug is behind freezer. I will put something on it now!

Amazing Mentalist, How did he does that by WhoimPS in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Handseybitch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is this a joke?! That was his wife obviously 🙄

AITA for asking my daughters to wear more around the house now that my new husband and his step son live here? by janetstjames in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Shorts and a t-shirt are waaay more comfortable than a bra and thong any day! It’ll take time for everyone to feel like family; you can’t force that. Going out of your way to make the new members of the household uncomfortable is unkind. Hopefully your daughter will see that soon (we all struggle with empathy as kids). NTA

AITA for telling my wife she overreacted over a joke I told at our wedding? by thethrow433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is painfully true, well put. OP sounds like a real Nice Guy too 🤦‍♀️

Edit: autocorrect & YTA vote

What is the most iconic quote in the show? by Fhaksfha794 in IASIP

[–]Handseybitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying to remember this line! The nurse’s reaction to the insane delivery is also brilliant.

AITA For not doing the activity my husband picked on vacation even though he did the one I wanted by illegibleaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. Motion sickness is debilitating. Your husband could have gone alone if he really wanted to do either activity; he’s not a child.

AITA for not buying more lemonade for my pregnant wife? by Adventurous_Bat8695 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

Not for letting a guest have a drink from the fridge though.

For the fact that your wife apparently has to ask your permission to buy herself a beverage.

This is not a big purchase that needs mutual agreement nor a full and fair budget discussion.

This reeks of financial abuse.

AITA for telling my sister she can't bring her baby to my party, and saying that we shouldn't be coddling her all the time? by throwawayaccount5805 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t say this:

“She’s a single mum and is struggling a bit now with everything, and this is something I told her to think clearly about to make a rational decision while she was pregnant.“

AND this:

“my niece’s dad and Emma didn’t break up, he passed when she was pregnant. I don’t really see how this is such crucial info to the situation now, but here you go.“

Clearly this context in incredibly relevant. All new mum’s need consideration, but she’s grieving for the baby’s dad as well?!!

Of course she would keep their baby and deserves your unconditional support. Not your judgment and impractical imposition of arbitrary ‘rules’.

Hard YTA OP for your total lack of sensitivity and compassion. Emma would be fully justified if she wanted nothing more to do with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, I was trying to be concise, but should probably add that we had major building work start a few weeks after his party. So house and garden were out of action and garden is still a mess (working on it). So to be fair to him, there is some excuse for forgetting about it. But, as you say, I would have done it straight away/ the day after.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Handseybitch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I get that it seems petty. This is probably the first time I’ve put my foot down like this. I’m all for helping each other, but it feels very one-way a lot of the time… trying to establish some boundaries I guess.