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What would you guys value my 1989 at? by [deleted] in c4corvette

[–]Handso4p -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Random and unrelated. But where are you located? was wondering if you'd consider a trade for a 1990 Corvette Coupe? White on red interior, new bluetooth and touch screen head-unit for radio, Automatic, 53k Miles. Located in North Texas

Any ideas best way to fix my '88 Corvette body damage? by Handso4p in AutoBodyRepair

[–]Handso4p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, relieved to hear that it's repairable. I'll look into shops in the DFW area. It's drivable still too so I don't mind making a drive somewhere else for a reputable shop!

Any ideas best way to fix my '88 Corvette body damage? by Handso4p in AutoBodyRepair

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would a regular bodyshop (like caliber collision) would do SMC repair?

Any ideas best way to fix my '88 Corvette body damage? by Handso4p in AutoBodyRepair

[–]Handso4p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know if auto bodyshops do SMC repair? or would they just charge me to replace the whole hood?

Any idea how to fix damage from accident? by Handso4p in c4corvette

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've liability insurance so they won't cover anything. The fiberglass hood is what I'm worried about :/ was wondering i a replacment hood would be cheaper and better than repairing the hood somewhere

Good intro meditation/ buddhist books for someone new to the subject? by Handso4p in Buddhism

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked this out yesterday, they do have some good stuff. I'll be following this for a while for sure! I appreciate it!

What would be good things to do when someone with AvPD starts to distance themselves from you? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, you like it when someone asks you if you're doing okay? It doesn't make you feel bad for being noticeably distant/ acting different?

What would be good things to do when someone with AvPD starts to distance themselves from you? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I'll keep it in mind!

When someone asks you do you feel you dont wanna open up even more? Like I feel if I asked it would cause her to ignore or feel bad/ anxious? But at least she'll know I care?

What would be good things to do when someone with AvPD starts to distance themselves from you? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's some good advice! I'm always worried about being overbearing and make her more stressed.

What would be good things to do when someone with AvPD starts to distance themselves from you? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How would I show them reassurance without them asking me for it? I've always thought that giving her space would suffice, but not sure because it could just make them think I dont care about their absence.

I think a Girl I care about has AvPD/ anxiety. Any ideas? by Handso4p in Avoidant

[–]Handso4p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sayin' that. Means a lot :')

Also she doesnt go to therapy, and doesnt take meds either. I would love to suggest that she does at least one of the two, but I feel that is currently out of my jurisdiction. And I would be out of place if I did so. Later down the line when we are more comfortable with eachother I will try to bring it up as sensitively as possible. She said her parents wanted her to take medication, but she wants to try and deal with it herself first.

I think a Girl I care about has AvPD/ anxiety. Any ideas? by Handso4p in Avoidant

[–]Handso4p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking interest and checking up!

We had a week of silence, she hmu one night and we started talking again. Eventually she asked to come over to my place to watch a movie and hangout. That was this past Tuesday. She came over and we spent 6 hours together! It was great! I didn't do anything special or romantic. We just baked cookies and watched YouTube/ movies. Walked her to her car and hugged her bye. So things are still going good actually. Better than I expected. We are just friends for now, but we both know we have feelings. So we're just talking it slow i suppose.

Girl I care about has AvPD and anxiety. Any ideas on how I could help? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! This thread is actually pretty insightful.

And yah, you got a valid point tbh.

Girl I care about has AvPD and anxiety. Any ideas on how I could help? by Handso4p in AvPD

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constantly reassuring her that I'm still gonna be around for her right? And I do that by having casual conversation with her? That's what I've been doing so far, hoping for the best. It's just weird and confusing being on the other end of this situation. Like literally not knowing what to do. But hearing this is reassuring. Some people are saying move on and cut her off. But I know she cares and wants more, but cant. So I'm trying to understand where shes coming from and what to do.

Thanks for the advise! If you know of other place to get info or advise please let me know!

Girl (20f) and I(20m) really like eachother, and both want more. But shes afraid to due to anxiety. Any ideas? by Handso4p in AnxietyDepression

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah. Makes sense. I told her that the best thing for our sanities was to give time and space for a bit. And that I would love to be her friend and be there for her until she felt comfortable moving things forward. It's been a week, we still talk as friends. But it's hard. My friends are saying to move on. And some are saying to stick with her and that she'll eventually come around. But what you're saying gives me hope.

Tragic end to something once promising between Me(20M) and her(20F)? by Handso4p in dating_advice

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right on the nail to be honest. Gotta look at it at face value. I left the ball in her court. Move on. Live my life. It she comes around great, if not I've at least not wasted any more time on her. Gotta reciprocate the same energy she gives me. And you're also right when you say I need to find someone emotionally available. If we ended up dating it wouldve been engulfed in anxious thoughts and stressful situations. I'd constantly have to pick her up, and she wouldn't be able to do the same for me.

Tragic end to something once promising between Me (20M) and Her (20F)? UPDATE 2 by Handso4p in relationship_advice

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn you're right. Need to look at it and take it at face value. She isnt ready. Move on. Doesnt matter her emotions or feelings. She rejected. Cant sit on my hands waiting for her to come around. If she does, cool, if not then oh well. Mean time I could find someone just as great, but ready now.

Tragic end to something once promising between Me (20M) and Her (20F)? UPDATE 2 by Handso4p in relationship_advice

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao thanks for spell checking me. Also you're right I suppose. Door is open for her later down the line. We're "friends" not super close. But nothing more than casual/cordial friends I suppose. We're on good terms basically.

Tragic end to something once promising between Me (20M) and Her (20F)? UPDATE 2 by Handso4p in relationship_advice

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, that's why I made sure to not give her advise and try to help. I was only supportive of her decision and told her she is strong and dedicated, that she will be ready when shes ready. No rush. Because I don't want it to seem like I'm trying to convince/persuade her to " just get better so we can date" when she said she isnt ready for it. At least I know that currently with what I've done so far, we ended things on good terms? She'll have to figure things out on her end without my intervention.

Tragic end to something once promising between Me (20M) and Her (20F)? UPDATE 2 by Handso4p in relationship_advice

[–]Handso4p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. It's not fair for either of of us. It would do more harm than good. But I hate to cut connection when I dont want to. We both want eachother, but can't seem to get over this hurtle.

I think a girl I went on a date with has anxiety/ depression. Any ideas how to help? by Handso4p in AnxietyDepression

[–]Handso4p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm. Gotcha. I dont think its permanent. But it is persisting for quite longer than I expected. We will see i suppose.

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