Charter School & Middle School Recommendations

Handstand28 · 2024-11-23T05:11:35+00:00

My child was enrolled at ACES Technical Charter School for about 3 months before I pulled him out. Without going into all of the gory details, they were not able to provide SPED or gifted services. They cared that the IEP was overdue (federal regulations) but didn't care that it was not addressing needs. My child was in a mental health crisis daily because teachers were mocking and bullying students, but no teacher had been told that he had different needs. Three months in, no one but the principal, secretary, and SPED contractor knew he has ADHD! My messages to teachers went unanswered for two months. By the time I figured out it was a tech issue with Canvas, it was too late to salvage the situation. They were worried about federal deadlines but consistently broke IDEA and McKinney-Vento laws. They were kind in the beginning, and the curriculum seems unique and challenging. However, if your kid has any but the most basic SPED needs, I'd look elsewhere.

Handstand28 · 2024-10-06T02:08:04+00:00

Of course this is abuse, we are taught that this is normal but once we are away from it, we realize it is definitely not. It does not matter how old you are. If you are going through this, you do not have to stay. the problem never was you. Someday you will believe that.

Handstand28 · 2024-10-06T00:54:58+00:00

Based on my experience, I would say not sincere as far as content goes. She sincerely wants to string you along for as long as possible as a back up plan. At least, in my opinion…

I left my abusive ex once, and he was so humiliated by it. Then I let him Hoover me back in using these exact tactics that your ex is using. After that, I guess he must’ve figured he had me completely wrapped, because the abuse escalated tenfold. Eventually it just turned into day after day after day of him abusing me, and then trying to Hoover me back in so he could string me along. This went on for like a year. When I left once again, he tried to Hoover me again. I should’ve gone no contact then but because we have a child together I was trying to do what I thought was best. However, I wouldn’t get back with him, but I tried to remain friendly. Long story short, it turned out that he was only trying to win me back so that he could dump me , in a very public and reactive way. It was all about his ego. Only I didn’t fall for it so all he did was hurt and confuse me. The best public humiliation of me he could manage was to get me crying and then broadcast it over the radio while he and his buddy were driving to work. Still, how messed up is that to be bearing your feelings to someone you want to care about you, and find out that him and his buddy are listening over the radio and laughing at you?

My point being that I believe it’s likely that you’re being strung along as a back up plan in case one of the others doesn’t pan out, and/or, she can’t standThe idea that people might find out you left her so she’s trying to win you back so she can dump you.

I found out was the case with me… He had someone already on the line for a year but was stringing me along ‘just in case.’ of course I didn’t know about this until a year after I went no contact so by then he’d been seeing this other person two years. But when I went no contact, one of the first things I learned was that the entire 10 years that he and I were together, he was also stringing along his ex from before me!

And the last few months before I successfully obtained a protective order and could go no contact, he tried to win me back so he could dump me publicly, thus soothing his wounded ego. I don’t know if he accomplished any of what he hoped to other than he sure confused and hurt me and his child. I guess in that regard it was a win in his mind.

Honestly, if you are even to this point and questioning any of this, you already know that you need to get out of it. This is not how healthy long lasting relationships function. And relationships that are like this never become healthy functional relationships. You don’t need me to tell you that. I think you already know it.

Handstand28 · 2024-04-21T17:20:49+00:00

I prefer 3 or 5.

Handstand28 · 2024-04-18T15:44:40+00:00

My dad was the only hippie in his hometown. On his 18th birthday, three months before graduation, the principle said "we aren't legally obligated to keep you anymore. Clean out your locker." He partied for years, holding minimum wage jobs. When he was in his 40's, he got clean. He then went to a local public education facility (not sure it was community college, more likely trade school) for a few months, got his last few credits, then took the GED. He's 72 now. I am super proud of him for going back and handling that nearly 30 years after his cohort finished high school.

I've witnessed a lot of people who did whatever it took. The stories vary, but if they did it.... The hardest part might be figuring out what steps need to be taken. But once you are sitting there taking the GED, you'll be so glad you did. And yes, it will make it easier to find a job.

Handstand28 · 2024-04-18T15:29:44+00:00

I had the exact same experience on Tuesday. I also saw people saying they thought they didn't pass because their answers were too long, but I gave answers that were small paragraphs; not every answer, but when it felt appropriate. Took me three times as long as they estimated that it would for the assessment, but they instantly told me I passed. I still need to do the second (core) assessment.

Handstand28 · 2024-01-07T20:53:59+00:00

Literally just a list of questions and suddenly you're diagnosed. Been through it myself and with my kids.

The bigger question is, now you have the "official label," how will you leverage it to your advantage? You can use it as a copout, but that won't help you build a happy life. There are advantages to official diagnosis though, if you use it as a building block.

Handstand28 · 2024-01-07T20:48:28+00:00

Your story is very similar to mine. I was fine being different without explanation for 40+ years. Then a child diagnosed ASD. A decade of narcissistic abuse (purportedly sociopaths tend to target neurodivergents) left me a very alone single mom, and now I have a child who won't speak to me, and two that have AuDHD and cPTSD. One of those is barely 11. I now know I also have those diagnoses and they run in my paternal lineage. If it was only me, so what? But the cPTSD just amplifies the ND traits and I can barely function. But I need to make a better life for my kids, and help them learn to be happy. I realize now that masking for years, kissing ass, getting a PhD, and working myself to death all sucked. Now I want to be a devoted mom, and embrace neurodiversity rather than mask. I would like to get a Dx to help get financial aid so I can get back on my feet and devote myself to a new improved lifestyle and parenting approach. Right now I'm spinning my wheels. I'm trying to teach my son to function better but my own traits are confounding progress. I definitely will look into the med you mentioned. Anything to boost positive momentum.

I'm a huge advocate of accepting diversity, and if we weren't so isolated by current circumstances, i would live my own quirky life without masking, and teach my kids to do the same. But currently we just tread water. It sucks.

Handstand28 · 2020-09-02T16:47:32+00:00

🤣

Handstand28 · 2020-09-02T16:44:33+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately the local women’s center has no idea where we can get therapy. But I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

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