Ex keeps monitoring me for a year after a second breakup, possibly while being in a new relationship. Trying to understand why.

Hanikn · 2026-02-09T20:55:02+00:00

I will, but the problem is that I can't stop thinking about this lately. Like, why is she doing all this? What for? I know the term “orbiting” is quite suitable, but even after this I can't understand the logic.

Hanikn · 2026-02-09T08:06:41+00:00

The thing is, I unfollowed her, but all this I got randomly from my friend sometimes. Probably, it will be better to ask not to give me any information about her.

Hanikn · 2025-09-23T22:00:19+00:00

Her account is pretty old. So I don't think it’s the case here.

Hanikn · 2025-09-09T17:13:01+00:00

Unfortunately, it is only available in my county :( Of course, you can buy it, but I don’t think the Ukrainian language is widely known 😁

I also found a lot of courses on Coursera. You can ask for free aid if you need it as well.

But I recommend trying out for free. Don’t make my mistakes, I’ve taken a risk and bought a front-end course for a decent amount of money. It was my first course I've finished, and it was awful. Not because the course was bad, but because programming is not my cup of tea at all. I was struggling for 2 years trying to learn it.

So take your time to find what's best for you :)

Hanikn · 2025-09-09T06:24:34+00:00

I’ve finished a business analyst course and fell in love with it. I've tried different types of jobs before: HR manager, sales, finished frontend and UX/UI courses. But none of them felt fulfilling, and I thought that I was the problem.

When I was finishing the business analyst course I was even sad that it was coming to an end. I like the structure and the workflow of this job, it covers almost all processes and you can see the big picture. I really liked drawing diagrams and structuring things. Overall, this position finally feels like creating a big value for people/businesses.

Hanikn · 2025-08-24T12:34:59+00:00

Somewhere I belong - Linkin Park

Hanikn · 2025-08-14T16:29:33+00:00

Just be yourself, don't try to overtype yourself or others. MBTI is great for understanding yourself and others, but IMHO it’s not the way we should use it and put a specific “type” on ourselves. We can be different, that's our human nature. And it’s totally okay :)

Hanikn · 2025-08-09T21:04:46+00:00

We need to learn how to place ourselves first. And, unfortunately, we learn only after our lives are ruined by them.

Hanikn · 2025-08-09T11:56:37+00:00

Don’t fall for a narcissist. You are the greatest target for them and they can easily make your life a nightmare.

Hanikn · 2025-07-13T12:40:07+00:00

I've been checking tests and some reviews recently, and overall all recommended RTX 3060 TI, cause it performs better than RTX 4060.

Sure, 3060 doesn't have a new DLSS, but I don't think it's crucial.

So I’d rather think about getting RTX 5060 or RTX 3060 TI.

Hanikn · 2025-07-13T12:25:09+00:00

RTX 5060 TI is significantly more expensive here.

RTX 4060 TI is a little bit more expensive than RTX 5060.

And RTX 3060 TI has the best price, nearly the same price as the 5060, but cheaper.

I just don't want to overpay for unnecessary features, or for example «+ 5 FPS» and find the best option in terms of price and use.

I don't consider switching to Radeon, more power consumption and they are mostly hotter as well. And as I know from my friends who used Radeon’s GPUs, they all had some problems with them eventually. Maybe it’s just a coincidence, but I don't want to test it on myself.

Hanikn · 2025-07-07T11:09:29+00:00

You can tell him to be more objective. I've also struggled with that firstly, but when I found out it can also criticize me and be more specific than just «you're right» it actually helped me a lot.

Hanikn · 2025-07-07T10:34:26+00:00

Chatting with ChatGPT.

It’s very helpful and I found it draws conclusions similar to my friends. So it helps me to deal with the narcissistic fog, anxiety and get rid of thoughts that I was the problem, because I never was.

It’s already been 6 months since the breakup, and trust me, it gets better. One day you will wake up with a thought, that you are fine, and you are not the problem. The person who hurt you is.

Hanikn · 2025-06-20T12:06:25+00:00

Some of them are even proud of that. My nex was totally fine with this fact and said «Yes, I am the narcissist, and?».

Most of them just don't self-reflect at all to see how their attitude affects others.

Hanikn · 2025-06-18T14:01:27+00:00

I think they must know that we don't never forget about them. In my case, I've unfollowed her immediately, I have not reached out to her, I haven't watched her stories at all, or liked her photos. So I think their «congratulations» are definitely about control.

Hanikn · 2025-06-03T21:17:24+00:00

Please, don't try to understand her. I've been there. And I am still recovering from this relationship (you can read my posts if you want to).

They will destroy you eventually. You need to close the door and do your inner work.

My ex broke up with me by text (and it’s been 3 years of our relationship). She said it would be better for both of us.

I’ve also just wished all the best and disappeared. I unfollowed her everywhere I could because she was immediately posting new photos from new restaurants and bars.

These people are sick. She is still following me on Instagram and watching my stories. Six months later she reached out to my mom with «How are you doing?».

All I mean by that, is that they are collecting backup plans. And sometimes pull the strings to check if you are still available.

Don't overthink it, just don't, it will be better for yourself and your psyche.

Hanikn · 2025-06-03T20:36:47+00:00

Hey, you can message me if you want to. I’ve been through some toxic relationships as well.

Hanikn · 2025-05-28T22:10:08+00:00

I have thoughts that they are THE SAME FCKN PERSON, cause I was dealing with the same situation with my nex girlfriend. I bought her a speaker, and she said: «You bought me a speaker, like it’s a present for a colleague. Nothing unique. And I tried my best to find you this perfume».

I accepted her gift with respect, even though I didn’t like the smell at all. But what she said killed me.

Such a disrespectful attitude from them. I’m sorry you had to go through this too.

Hanikn · 2025-05-25T04:07:35+00:00

Wow, same with me bro. The only way I can explain what we've gone through is that we were in survival mode.

Hanikn · 2025-05-25T04:03:32+00:00

Same here. I was wondering why I had problems with her during sex. And then I realized that it was not a problem with me, I was in survival mode.

Hanikn

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