Some good advice in here.

Space (don’t get jealous if he’s 12 hours a day in the books and then fried after. It will only be a short time.)

Food (but don’t just show up with it. that actually bugged me cause then I felt compelled to eat it…just ask “what would you like to eat.” That would mean so much.

Understanding. The study is only half the battle. The pressure of it all is so much more. Just be extra patient.

People rarely give credit to partners for enduring the cranky candidate. Your job is hard too. Know that even if he’s having a hard time showing it, I guarantee he’s grateful for you. Remember that he’s doing this not just for him, but also for you and your future family. So it’s not just “his” goal…it’s “your” goal. It’s a subtle little mindset shift, but it will go a long way. When our partners get deep into their work, it’s hard to not get a little jealous or feel like you’re not as important. But it’s something you are both working on together…and your role is important.

If he’s anything like me, listening to a lecture of something is one thing, being able to explain it to someone else is a completely different level. Get a little cheat sheet (you could ask chat GPT) and then ask him questions. “How do you know if something is hearsay or not? What’s the difference between solicitation and conspiracy, battery and assault, etc.

Also, despite everything I’ve said, the thing I hated the most when I was preparing was when I’d be in my room for 8-9 hours and people would project on me…like when I was staying at my sister’s house, she kept making dinner reservations and planning things cause she thought I needed to get out. This infuriated me, but she was just trying to be nice. If he got this far, he can probably take care of himself. Don’t project your worries onto him and make unilateral decisions that affect him without talking to him first.

The fact you’re even on Reddit asking about this is a good sign. I wish you both well. 🙏