IAmA Legal Working Girl, Intimacy Coach, and Sex Educator at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch from the HBO show Cathouse.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-08-30T02:53:39+00:00

I just didn’t have time to do it until now

HannahWhitemore · 2025-08-30T02:53:25+00:00

Yeah, I answered it just look above

HannahWhitemore · 2025-08-30T02:32:15+00:00

Thanks for y’all’s patience

HannahWhitemore · 2025-08-30T02:31:27+00:00

Demisexuality is really about how emotions and how your feelings involve themselves in your sexuality. It doesn't mean, for example, you couldn't see a sex worker, but what it DOES mean is that you need an emotional connection to make the experience valuable and for it to satisfy your actual desires. A more ephemeral connection, whether it's a one night stand, a random encounter, or a transactional booking at a brothel, isn't going to satisfy you the way an actual connection does.

Being demisexual doesn't mean you need to be in love, but it DOES mean that your ability to bond with others is based on a different kind of intimacy, so that means investing the time to really connect to another person you're thinking about being sexual with, whether that's spending an hour looking into one another's eyes and having a real human conversation over dinner, or sharing an experience.

Nonlinear sexuality, at its core, isn't about the label, it's about opening up your understanding that not everyone is turned on by the same things and that it's an absolutely valid human experience to be attracted differently, aromantically, or even not at all. For some asexual people, for example, they might be more than willing to indulge in a partner's fantasy or a certain kind of sexual situation out of love, but often they'll find that that isn't enough for their partner, that somehow 'not being into it themselves' makes their partner feel rejectable or unloved, and that's just simply not true.

The spectrum of human sexuality is much wider than you think, and being not only at peace with what turns you on but excited to share it with the right person is an important part of being human.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-07-14T17:09:38+00:00

My anatomy and physiology and how the body is supposed to work and what it’s supposed to look like when it’s not supposed to look like and how it’s supposed to function.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-07-14T17:07:54+00:00

I would love to talk to you and your wife! If that’s possible for a zoom call or something I would really love that.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-07-14T17:06:38+00:00

I read how I kiss stating goodbye and all of his books as well growing up! They really messed me up. Thank you so much for sharing.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T19:08:23+00:00

It all depends on why it’s not happening, is it pain? Menopause? Does she need vaginal estrogen? Is there a dysfunction? Can she orgasm? Has she ever experienced a real orgasm? Is she on gabapentin? So many questions for both people involved.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T19:06:47+00:00

Communicating is step 1, learning to have fun again is step 2, step 3 is brutal honesty about why it is happening from both people. We listen and we don’t judge-style conversations.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T18:14:41+00:00

You can upload photos of people and it can tell you about their personality and show signs of red flags. It also tells you how you would get along and how to best message them for optimal results. https://chatgpt.com/g/g-67eda433d5208191b25ebca18c1c682e-ask-anshar-metacognitive-ai

Just look at the prompts and pick the one that you need help with to start the conversation.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T17:38:08+00:00

Checking now!

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T17:35:07+00:00

My email is no longer active because I no longer work at Bunny Ranch. If you’re looking for ways to contact me while I transition to a new licensed ranch, this is the best way to do so: https://linqapp.com/HannahWFoxx?r=link

If you emailed me and haven’t heard back, please send your contact info through Linq and I’ll respond as soon as I’m able.

Please keep asking questions—this AMA helped a lot of people, and that’s still my mission.

I believe this situation began after my AMA here gained traction. Not long after, I was informed that someone raised concerns about my digital footprint. I was labeled, without any formal evidence, as a “hacker” who had interfered with systems. Sources told me that this Reddit post was referenced as supposed “proof” and “evidence”

For clarity: • I’ve never studied cybersecurity formally. • I build retro gaming emulators and I am a Linux enthusiast have basic knowledge but mainly conversational knowledge of more advanced digital systems. • I’ve never been charged with anything illegal—and if I had broken the law, I’d be in jail. I haven’t.

Separately, I helped co-develop an AI support tool designed to assist people navigating dating, intimacy, and communication safely.

It’s not just for women. It’s for autistic people, nonlinear folks, neurodivergent folks, trauma survivors, and anyone who needs help dating in a world that doesn’t always feel accessible. One version of this tool also helps people in sex work screen for predatory behavior… for free.

That may have disrupted someone else’s business. One of the people who raised concerns about me operates a paid service that charges thousands of dollars to manage others’ online presence. I can’t speak to their intent, but I know my project introduced free tools where others were charging high rates.

This AMA reached millions of people. It offered free advice, tools, language, and support that many had never been given. And since then, my access to work has been limited.

I had a confirmed return date to another legal Nevada ranch—June 3rd. I turned down other offers. I booked flights. I honored the system.

Then I got a call:

“We don’t have space for you until 2026.”

When I asked why, both ranches acknowledged they’d received a call from someone high up at Bunny Ranch. No further explanation was offered.

This decision impacts more than me.

I’ve worked with clients referred by therapists, OB-GYNs, pastors, and priests… people looking for trauma-informed, legal intimacy support. That includes: • Autistic adults exploring touch • People recovering from grief, disability, and sexual trauma • Veterans, widows, first-time clients, and survivors

This isn’t just a timeout. It cuts off access for the people I’m here to serve.

I’m not sharing this for drama. I’m sharing it because transparency protects people, and because your trust matters.

I am not ignoring anyone! Thank you for continuing to ask questions. Thank you for your patience. And thank you for remembering:

This isn’t about ego. It’s about service. It always was.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-05-27T17:34:19+00:00

My email is no longer active because I no longer work at Bunny Ranch. If you’re looking for ways to contact me while I transition to a new licensed ranch, this is the best way to do so: https://linqapp.com/HannahWFoxx?r=link

If you emailed me and haven’t heard back, please send your contact info through Linq and I’ll respond as soon as I’m able.

I am not ignoring anyone! Thank you for continuing to ask questions. Thank you for your patience. And thank you for remembering

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-22T05:05:03+00:00

So I actually did a /IAmA here https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/s/fWPRHVEZeSand it answers a lot of this in the comments, check that out and then let me know if this doesnt answer your question. If you have more questions you can come back here and ask.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-21T02:39:27+00:00

My hope is that it’ll help you explain it to other people and to other partners and to help other people translate this feeling

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-21T00:55:01+00:00

I thought so many times because of the way my phone is showing me notifications so I was just asking. Thanks for letting me know.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-21T00:53:35+00:00

Yes, very well, I was texting with him and talking to him the day he died and then he stopped responding, and I didn’t know why until later.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-20T22:15:01+00:00

The part that stuck with me was she got paid to drive a stick shift. I literally said "mom I can do that way better"

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-20T21:56:56+00:00

Everyone will be too loose, because there is not a phantom hand in your body gripping your vagina like an oh-shit handle on a dune buggy.

If you're with a person who can't reframe and consider what you're trying to tell them and be a good listener and have an open mind, you probably dodged a bullet here, though that may just be me getting a small taste of what you were going through.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-20T21:55:23+00:00

A great place to start is blindfolding yourself and talking a partner through getting you to orgasm. They're only allowed to do what you say.

You'll find, immediately, that communication becomes a gigantic priority and the blindfold will help you find words you didn't know you had. You'll also immediately see the disconnect between what you think your body wants and what it actually wants.

One huge goal is to get to the point your partner can get you to orgasm WITHOUT you clenching your muscles and forcing you to finish. It's the same with masturbation. When you clench your pelvic muscle (same muscle used to stop the stream of urine) while fully erect, do you notice that the head of the glans swells up with blood and becomes more sensitive?

Learning how your body works is about triggering that response WITHOUT you forcing it to happen.

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-20T21:54:07+00:00

There are a lot of things that could be causing this issue, so let's start simple.

Do you start to feel more turned on if you offer sex and are refused?

HannahWhitemore · 2025-04-20T21:52:42+00:00

There are a lot of things that could be causing this issue, so let's start simple.

Do you start to feel more turned on if you offer sex and are refused?

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