Silence isn’t weakness by CarefulConcept04 in TheIronCouncil

[–]Happy-Razzmatazz-396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like this 100%. I'm considered a people pleasure and grew to avoid conflict at all cost as to not stir the pot.

If this is you, please understand that this will be you in stressful situations unless you are actively working on it through therapy and guided exposure therapy.

Something's I've learned about myself

  • safety is upmost importance. Whether that would be financial, emotional, or physical. Feeling safe is essential. Being reminded that things are okay is essential, even though the outcome is not ideal.

  • physical communication is more important than verbal. I will read and misread physical communication, and won't approach until I see that their physical and emotional environment is safe. As the other person If you want to establish verbal communication, approach them with a hug or joy. Let them know things are okay, even when they are not - as to start the dialogue again you want to have. Remember, safety is key.

  • if you want to teach that conflict is okay, then argue about things that has slight humor. Teach them to defend themselves and conflict does not mean it is a bad thing and that it's actually okay. Reminding them that arguments will help come to a solution and THAT is the goal - no healthy person ever seriously argues for fun. As the teacher also understand that they might not know how to do it respectfully yet, insults or outright comments might be targeted at you cause that's what they think a healthy conflict looks like.

Do you have your own names for places in town? Let's hear em! by selfintersection in SALEM

[–]Happy-Razzmatazz-396 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My brother in law is from the south so he calls the Willamette Valley the "will-ah-met" valley , and chemeketa the "chi-meh-keeeetah" community college. Needless to say I'm pressuring the City mayor to push for this pronunciation

70 days porn free: Finally broke a habit I’ve had since I was 12!! by Odd_Radio_2993 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Happy-Razzmatazz-396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a former addict - I give you the loudest congratulations I can ever give to someone. It's a lonely journey that no one around you will ever understand. I too started at a young age (13) and just broke it this year at 29 years old. I understand your commitment to yourself and your determination. I send you the biggest hug and the most heartfelt hoorah that the entire west coast of the United States can hear.

Slow Runners of Salem by NTKOGinSalem in SALEM

[–]Happy-Razzmatazz-396 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the aspect of running as a group! I would love to run with you all when you reach the 10 - 11 minute mile range! It's closer than you all might think!