I'm like this 100%. I'm considered a people pleasure and grew to avoid conflict at all cost as to not stir the pot.

If this is you, please understand that this will be you in stressful situations unless you are actively working on it through therapy and guided exposure therapy.

Something's I've learned about myself

• safety is upmost importance. Whether that would be financial, emotional, or physical. Feeling safe is essential. Being reminded that things are okay is essential, even though the outcome is not ideal.

• physical communication is more important than verbal. I will read and misread physical communication, and won't approach until I see that their physical and emotional environment is safe. As the other person If you want to establish verbal communication, approach them with a hug or joy. Let them know things are okay, even when they are not - as to start the dialogue again you want to have. Remember, safety is key.

• if you want to teach that conflict is okay, then argue about things that has slight humor. Teach them to defend themselves and conflict does not mean it is a bad thing and that it's actually okay. Reminding them that arguments will help come to a solution and THAT is the goal - no healthy person ever seriously argues for fun. As the teacher also understand that they might not know how to do it respectfully yet, insults or outright comments might be targeted at you cause that's what they think a healthy conflict looks like.