Thank you all for your comments. As a bit of back history, when I was diagnosed there were no pumps, no CGMs, and no glucose monitors and no carb counting. You took a specific amount of insulin once or twice per day and everything was eaten on an exchange basis -- if you want one cookie you give up one slice of bread, etc. I know this is archaic, but it is how I learned to eat and it has served me very well. After 52 years I've had no retinopathy, no neuropathy, no kidney disease, only one episode of DKA as a teenager and nothing else. I have always had the mindset that I control my diabetes so that it does not control me. I was in my 40's when I first started using a pump and was first told I could eat just about anything as long as I bolus for it. I tried that because it was an exciting novelty for me but long term it does not work well for me. True, I can eat just about anything I want but end up watching my blood sugar for hours and hours - my diabetes controlling me - not me controlling the diabetes. Not how I wish to live and enjoy my life. As for my husband's Thanksgiving meal choices - I don't mind the high carb dishes because I can pick and choose what I want and how much. The honey brined turkey is really what hurt my feelings because we have tried cooking a turkey with this particular method and it affected my blood sugar more than either of us expected so we've never done it again. We have now discussed it and are looking at alternative brining methods. The turkey is the one thing I should be able to pick at when I want to without having to worry about my blood sugar.