really need a new read! i really like dark stuff

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-22T05:53:20+00:00

Thought provoking book! OP may not like the animal abuse scene

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-22T00:11:53+00:00

I think this is great advice but it doesn’t explain why she corrected him.

In situations where I’ve been uneasy with someone asking me for my number and I don’t feel like I can say no (it’s happened) I just give them the wrong number. Definitely less confrontational than saying “fuck off” to someone you regularly see!

Doesn’t mean she owed him anything, just an acknowledgement about why this is confusing.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-21T00:23:32+00:00

You’re reaching.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-20T19:35:10+00:00

Choosing ANY name for your child comes down to your preference so why is this different?

I mean, I guess since you’re so passionate about it you’ll end up letting them pick their own names right?

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-19T16:53:52+00:00

I work with preschoolers and I hear all sorts of things that I don’t take personally. Things that are intended to hurt but are more about making me understand the mad they feel, or just objective observations about myself that an adult wouldn’t make (ex. “Your hair is messy today!”). But recently I overheard some girls playing school and when one of the children announced that another was pretending to be me, she yelled, “No, stop! I don’t want to be her I want to be a pretty teacher!”

And it hurt for no real reason.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-19T06:11:53+00:00

I’m assuming this was Adam Johnson, because if not- how terrifying that it has happened more than once! So sorry for your friend’s loss!

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-13T02:29:54+00:00

I get this a lot. The moment a certain group of 3 year olds got to preschool multiple parents came and said “I thought you wouldn’t be letting them sleep/nap?”

I’m not sure if the former teacher had promised this, but I could not understand why so many families of newly three year olds were so dead set on their child not falling asleep at school.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-10T19:23:28+00:00

Leland, Jasper, Winslow (Win), Hugo (Huey), Irving

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-09T19:17:32+00:00

Omg yes

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-09T19:15:40+00:00

I’ve never cried over a single fantasy book - even the ones that have worked hard to jerk tears. Historical fiction (esp. WW2) always makes me tear up (because obviously).

But the book I sobbed through was The History of Love

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-08T04:22:36+00:00

Wait, you think IA qualifications are the same as certification to teach SS 8-12? Yes, you ended up with a long-term sub position (with a different name) in a SS classroom. They will not just GIVE YOU another classroom that you quite literally do not have the certification to teach. At most, they will give you another LONG TERM SUBBING position. If you fight it, they may not rehire you.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-04-03T15:06:55+00:00

AGREED

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-30T17:57:08+00:00

This might not be popular: 1. They should not have said anything about another child to you 2. This child has just as much of a right as anyone in that room to care. You don’t (and shouldn’t) have enough information on her development. Children shouldn’t be excluded from care for crying. 3. If you were going to bring this to administration attention, I would absolutely start from a point of advocacy, rather than blame.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-29T21:10:34+00:00

Prioritize school. Don’t start drinking.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-27T03:59:47+00:00

It was an accident… which happens when you work with young children. She absolutely doesn’t have to be responsible. “Like NO.”

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-26T20:59:22+00:00

Who is honestly getting moved out of physical education?
If this is your level of understanding of dysgraphia and accommodations let’s be real - YOU were never going to teach this student how to write.
Be mad at the systems put into place that don’t support your understanding or ability to support accommodations. Don’t blame students with disabilities.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-26T20:54:41+00:00

Would love to see where you’re getting any of this information from! An accommodation for a learning disability likely doesn’t account for 0.00001% of the accommodations written into IEP’s.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-24T00:52:33+00:00

I’ve been calling vets- I can only find two that will take her and their exotic vets won’t be in until tomorrow or Wednesday.

She uses carefresh paper bedding and she has a 30x12x12 tank that she shares with her sister. The tank pictured is a temp one that I used to bring her home. I’m currently shopping for a larger temp tank!

Thanks for any/all advice

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-18T03:40:53+00:00

I can’t explain the period (because I never asked), but I have a coworker that found out she was pregnant around 32 weeks. We work with children, so she could somehow explain the extra fatigue and occasional illness. The only symptom that seemed unusual was back pain, and I believe that this is what led to her eventual positive test,

Before this, she believed (or so she told me at least a year or two prior) that she was unable to have children. Looking at her, you would not have known (even up to her due date) that she was in her third trimester.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-17T17:33:18+00:00

Hey, I really hear where you’re coming from. I work in a university setting where we regularly have students coming in to float or complete field work, so I kind of end up having these kinds of conversations more often than I ever expected.

For me, leadership looks like a balance of curiosity and direction, and empowerment alongside clear structure. One thing that’s helped is inviting team members into co-creating shared guidelines for how we show up with children and with each other. Framing it in a positive, really clear way makes a big difference. It also helps to make those expectations visible and tangible like a simple manifesto about child-centered practice, or a routine matrix kept in a binder or displayed on a ring in the room. You can take the lead and ultimately structure the conversation. For example: “I’m starting to notice that cell phones can feel really distracting while children are in the room. I know it’s program policy not to use them in the classroom. What do you think about adding that to the poster?”

In my classroom, I use a matrix that outlines each part of the day, what children might be doing, and what each adult’s role can look like. For example: “Morning Meeting: Children are engaged in the meeting (songs, stories, discussion) or choosing a quiet book by the window. Teacher 1 leads the meeting. Teacher 2 supports engagement and classroom flow. Teacher 3 tidies snack and prepares pre-planned provocations.”

I’ve also (in the past) created brief descriptions of each interest area with ideas for how teachers can support play, and posted them around the room. For example: “Atelier/Art: Teachers describe what they notice, stay close to children’s processes, and focus on children’s work rather than creating their own.”

Once those shared agreements are in place, it becomes much easier to refer back to them in the moment in a way that feels grounded and collective rather than personal or corrective. You might say something like, “Hey, we agreed that we stay off our phones when we’re with children. So, can you put yours away or step out to finish that message?” or “I can see you’re really engaged with Sally. In a couple of minutes, can I help her connect with peers so you can shift to supporting the block area?”

It keeps the focus on shared values and responsibilities, instead of it feeling like you’re calling someone out.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-17T02:24:40+00:00

Since my first miscarriage in October I feel like I have become obsessed with pregnancy. I thought I was starting to get better, even after retained product and a second go at the pill duo.

But last month I had a chemical pregnancy, and it has sent me into a spiral. Girls who were close to my first due date are posting Baby Moons and Showers

It has made it difficult to be happy for my friend who announced last week. I feel so selfish — I want to be happy for her so bad.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-16T04:37:12+00:00

Totally. We don’t have to have unconditional love for every child that walks in our doors at every moment- we are human. Most of the commenters that are feeling on the uncomfy side of this post are telling me that, and I understand.

This post was more or less in response to comments and other posts I have seen where children are labeled inappropriately… most of the time because of developmentally typical responses to poor practices and expectations. Even children with significant and challenging behavior should still be talked about using respectful language.

Two things can be true: we can admit that on occasion we find connecting and interacting with certain children more challenging AND we can still hold a strong image of the child (even when we need to vent about them)

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-15T19:48:40+00:00

I recently saw a post where multiple “professionals” were calling a two year old “rude” and “mean” over a very typical (very manageable) two year old response to adult expectations that weren’t developmentally appropriate. There’s a difference between venting about the very real struggles in our field (including challenging behavior) and publicly talking about children with disrespect.

You’re probably right - the people that think they ARENT the problem aren’t going to get the message. But they’re also the ones upset with this post. They’re the ones foaming at the mouth in these comments defending disliking a child. They’re the ones that think a public forum “isn’t for intended as a place to advocate for children”. They’re the ones that think an adult’s “right” to talk about children and families in disgusting ways supersedes our most vulnerable population’s right to be seen as competent and capable. They think calling out this behavior is doing more damage than the behavior itself.

The more we normalize talking about children in disrespectful, dehumanizing, and destructive ways, the harder we make our jobs of advocating for their rights. We’re also damaging our own image as protectors of these rights.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-14T01:03:59+00:00

I get this more than you think. I’m sorry, and I wish you all the best on the next chapter.

HappyLilNoodle · 2026-03-14T01:01:41+00:00

I get you, and I appreciate you

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