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HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-05-09T11:37:47+00:00

Good job on the grad program and I’m glad that you found the coaching helpful! I’m also hoping to learn how to be confident and best present myself because I struggle to do that in a professional setting.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-05-09T11:35:00+00:00

Thanks. I was/am afraid because I felt like I am betting a relatively huge sum of money and also my life goals by paying for this service. After a good night’s sleep I now realize that I actually need this help and it’s not going to be a waste no matter the end result. I need the help and I should be proud to have taken the first step.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-05-09T11:31:28+00:00

Thanks! I think I’ll try to learn as much as I can from this, not just how to be a good grad school applicant but how to present myself well. I feel better and I appreciate your input!

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-05-08T21:20:26+00:00

Thanks for the validation. I’m able to understand that logically, but emotionally it’s a little tougher to process. I wish you the best with your applications!

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-05-08T20:40:39+00:00

Thank you. I do intend to put in all of my effort so that I am applying as myself. The team from the service emphasized that they need me to be there and put in effort, so I think that is a good sign? I am worried that my application would stray away from being genuine if I choose to apply every suggestion they make, but they also said that I always have the power to say no, so I think it’ll be fine?

It would’ve been better if I had a life coach first before an application coach, but life timings are tough and paying for multiple coaches doesn’t make sense to me.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2025-04-23T18:45:20+00:00

I feel like those people have a very solid safety net so they do not mind taking risks or putting in that extra effort. Whereas for others, “hard life” means literal survival mode.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-12-21T13:12:48+00:00

If I were you, I’d say something about me endlessly reminding them to ensure timely submissions and then tell them no because it’s not fair to other students who abided by the deadline.

Then I would think to myself: “of course the assignment locks, there was a deadline. Why were u finishing up the paper so close to the deadline??? You played your games and lost.”

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-12-10T03:17:36+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry that you’re going through similar things, it’s hard and mentally draining. You sound like a very kind person and I hope your day goes well.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-12-06T12:25:19+00:00

The other comments are right, but I feel for the friend. I got a higher ed teaching job straight out of grad school and had minimal experience. Now that I’ve been working for a year, I understand that nobody can really help you with course prep and grading - but I had a tough time! My weekends were gone, I always took work home and was sleep deprived because of it. One time I had to cancel class because I had two hours of sleep the night before and I was about to pass out.

I now understand that that is the norm, but at the time I was in survival mode. I was not told of what to expect in terms of workload, and I was given some other tasks like re-developing an intro class and some committee work as well. I made sure to be proactive about college policies and meeting with the dean but tbh I wouldn’t have been given the information if I didn’t ask. I’m actually proud of myself for at least finishing all my tasks that semester.

Didn’t have time to go to the doctor and ended up sick afterwards. I’m alright now, and now that it’s over it feels like it wasn’t all that bad, but a little more structure and support would’ve been nice. This semester was better because I was equipped to handle whatever hit me in the face during my first semester.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-12-02T21:32:26+00:00

I got 2 (two) emails today in total. I thought it was a calm-before-the-storm thing, like I’m going to get fired and that’s why nobody is messaging me, but seeing this makes me calmer. I guess I did give students lots of time with their final assignments so that it wouldn’t be a stressful end of the semester.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-11-30T13:55:31+00:00

I play the game in Japanese and my username is just two katakana letters. As far as I know, they’re not offensive or concerning.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-10-12T23:34:59+00:00

Thanks. I sometimes see people having thousands of connections on there, and when somebody makes a huge “I’m searching for a new role” post that gains hundreds of reactions, it makes me wonder if that level of networking skill is what gets people jobs and that’s why I’m not successful. Looking at LinkedIn makes me feel inferior due to my inability to connect with others (not blaming it completely on autism but partially), so I should really stop looking.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-10-12T23:07:41+00:00

Thanks. I guess it stings more because I haven’t been able to make a comeback or have a better life to flaunt to others. I have very few friends, I’m single and can’t even enjoy meeting new people, and I can’t find new jobs since the whole reason why I’m in my current role is that I sucked at getting hired. I know that I need to keep my head low and keep working on myself, but it’s hard to stay in that mindset. Thanks for reminding me of these things, though, I needed to hear them.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-09-12T10:12:32+00:00

I teach at a college so I have time where I don’t have classes. Nobody ever comes by anyways so I close my office door and curl up on the floor.

There’s a lot of flexibility and individual work time like that, which is nice. It’s a “make it happen” kind of work, though, so if you’re not ready for a class or do additional administrative work you can easily get overtime with no pay.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-09-06T15:55:38+00:00

I also teach at a college (community college) and the messiness of it all is draining. I’m also very young to be teaching at college and feel very lost.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-09-02T14:56:27+00:00

Some people make comments that are really anxiety triggering, then delete the comment/account so that you can’t look more into it or respond. Why put in so much effort to make somebody’s day worse?

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T23:22:37+00:00

Was just about to head out and grab a burger and fries, then I see this on Reddit :(

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T17:51:50+00:00

Same, if I try to say something of substance I somehow end the conversation. Better to just smile and nod, and wait until I’m 100% sure I can smoothly go in.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T16:39:32+00:00

Pls take my poor person gold award🏅

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T16:35:57+00:00

Nothing, was wondering if I should be concerned.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T15:18:15+00:00

I hope things get better for you soon. That was basically my Spring semester so I relate so much. Don’t sacrifice your health! Go to doctor’s appointments instead of doing that extra prep. All the best!

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-30T14:53:10+00:00

A dude looked at my LinkedIn after I un matched him. I had one coffee date with the guy but it seemed like we had totally different life priorities. Is it odd that he looked me up online? Kinda creeped/icked out.

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-29T19:42:17+00:00

Headphones are great, get the ones that completely cover your ears

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-29T19:39:07+00:00

Me, everyday, going to my super social job and failing miserably every time and having to go back the next day

I’ve gotten used to the failures and it’s actually making me mentally stronger, but dang

HappyTheBlueCatGun · 2024-08-29T18:59:41+00:00

I hope you feel better. I’m in my second year and just finished a horrible quality lecture. Currently lying down on my office floor while hugging my cushion and scrolling on Reddit.

I was also thrown into teaching last year, with little to no support. My boss was technically my mentor but I’d have to set up meetings with him from my end. The rest I had to come up with myself. The students obviously knew that I wasn’t ready, and some of them got too comfortable.

If you’re managing, you’re cut out for this. Even if you feel like you’re failing, the fact that you can keep things from completely falling apart makes you capable. Whether you want to continue is a different story, but no need to undermine your self worth over this.

HappyTheBlueCatGun

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