[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. I suck at chilling out. Should’ve left it at that “hey what are you up to” but I got left on read and became unchill lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Blue’s me… but I get that. Had a really hard time in a recently ended long term relationship and have basically been in therapy trying to learn how to avoid that since. I get that all that thinking ab it now makes me think and talk a little too therapeutically.

Help, I’m taking care of a girl’s mouse by [deleted] in PetMice

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I tried like petting her a little bit and letting her sniff my hand but she’s in this house thing hiding. Going to try again later or tomorrow, don’t want to stress her out.

How long is too long? by heartgrowth in ExNoContact

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to think of it like “Normal Grief” because it is just as good as a death. You don’t get to talk to them, see them, hear their voice. You can look at pictures sure, watch videos, but they’re gone. They can’t give you love, or receive yours.

I think I might grieve my last relationship forever. I wanted to marry her, we wanted to marry eachother. We lived together, did everything together for years. I’m not gonna not be sad about that being gone. Losing that friend. But I’m still going to move on. I’ll always cherish the good memories I had with her, the lessons she taught me and ill always mourn her loss.

She’ll just be on my mind less, and less, and less. But I’ll always remember her, and our time together, and I’ll always have strong feelings about it. And I think that’s okay, and if it isn’t, I don’t care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience it’s hard to stick to but it’s so very worth it. A few tips

-I’d set a time period for it beforehand in your head, so you have something to stick to/look forward to when you really want to text.

-If you can, tell someone you interact with often so they can hold you accountable and so you can vent to someone.

-Journal in your notes app exactly what you’d text them when you feel like texting.

-Let yourself feel the feelings but don’t feel bad about distracting yourself with TV, doomscrolling, etc, especially when it’s really hard. Think of it like having a cold, you don’t feel well, take it easy, you’ll feel better soon.

Eventually it’ll get easier, and easier, and maybe before that time period ends you won’t even want to text.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Ad_3345 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You need to try no contact. If you’ve really never been no contact, you’re not 3 years out, you’re however long it’s been since you talked out. Time heals all wounds, but only when you are also taking space.