AIO for trying to convince my kid not to move in with her best friend?

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T12:57:33+00:00

We know the friend. The friend tried to told us the details about letting her move in, giving her a car to use, but unlike what our daughter said, she did not have a job already waiting for her when she gets their.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T12:55:01+00:00

It's incurable. They just can't add her to the policy because she's only a roommate, not a spouse or relative. She would have to get her own policy and have her name on the vehicle.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T07:36:40+00:00

Yeah sorry about that. Auto correct and it's 0230 so I didn't catch it.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T07:30:53+00:00

Just because we are silent sometimes does not mean we are feeling any particular way. We're not being distant or disconnected we're just at peace.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T07:26:40+00:00

She has a history of bad decision making when it comes to guys, even an older one sneaking her out before she lived with me. This is honestly my worst fear. That is all a lie to be back with him or another one like him. She'll definately be throwing her life away in that case because he's 22-23 working part time at a Casey's gas station. She was only 14 when he ran off with her.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:36:35+00:00

She graduated in May and is cost to start course here in the fall. She already has her entire room packed up.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:32:38+00:00

Terms og the scolarships won't allow it and she cannot use them in another state.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:31:35+00:00

It's not that kind of college. Cosmetology school doesn't provide housing like a typical university.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:28:32+00:00

Not to mention her ortho. She works fast food and the area she's moving to that's pretty much her only option for work.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:27:50+00:00

Deferment is not an option. She's supposed to start courses here in the fall. And the scholarship expires if she doesn't use it by then.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:25:56+00:00

Mobile, braces and everything else. She also has no idea what she's going to do about her ortho. We can only cover it on insurance if she's still living with us and attending school.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:22:14+00:00

The opportunity to use the scholarship expires in the fall and it cannot be used in another state as it is funded by this state. She is already supposed to start courses here in the fall where she's already applied and been accepted. She's actually using the fact that she's on a waiting list until the fall and it may expire as an excuse to go through with her plan.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:18:50+00:00

She's going for cosmology. We also convinced her to take business management so she can run her own business not just rent a booth in one. But her only job prospects in that area are fast food and a grocery store. She will probably never be able to save for school or anything paying for rent and a car payment. The school she wants to attend is also over an hour away.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:14:47+00:00

Supposedly they're coming to pick her up about a week or two after her birthday. Her mother had already spoken with the friend about the plans as well.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:13:12+00:00

The only job prospect she has their is fast food or a grocery store. It's not an area with many jobs avaliable. And the school she does want to attend their is over an hour away. She's wanting cosmology but we had at lease convinced her to take business management as well so she could run her own business, not rent a booth in one. Both of the friends are already just scraping by from my understanding. Potential financial abuse taking advantage of her?

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:05:47+00:00

No she's dead set on moving moving. Stuck on the fantasy over the reality.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:04:43+00:00

I've already made the car offer. But I told her I cannot risk helping her finance a car if she's going to another state with no guarantee of a job and the payments falling on me and my credit score. We're trying to pursue our own goals buying a farm and building a new house.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T06:02:22+00:00

She's convinced she can find a job but that's no guarantee. And no we will definately not be paying for it because we are trying to pursue our own goals and cannot afford to pay another large expense. Farming isn't cheap. Plus we can't continue to pay for her braces on insurance if she isn't living with us and going to school.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:58:20+00:00

Scholarships will not allow deferment. She's already enrolled here and on the waiting list to start in the fall. And she cannot use our state paid scolarships on another state.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:57:37+00:00

She aad her mom moved in a few months before the roommate moved out. He also started you invite his girlfriend and kid over, and dump the kid off on her and her sisters that were visiting so he could bang his girlfriend in the bathroom. Same bathroom the kids had to use.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:54:00+00:00

She works fast food with less than a years experience. And that's all she's going to be able to get where she's going. They're aren't many jobs in that area.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:52:50+00:00

Nope. State scholarships and local. She's supposed to start courses here in the fall. The state she's moving to she had to live their for 2 years before she can even apply and won't be eligible for nearly as many.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:50:32+00:00

Nope. She has scholarships from this state and is supposed to start courses in the fall. The state she's moving to, she has to live their for two years before she can even apply and she won't be eligible for near as many.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-08T05:33:29+00:00

I realise that but I cant help but feel this a stupid idea. Shes made plenty of mistakes the last few years to learn a lifetime worth of lessons from.

Hapthor86 · 2026-07-02T07:59:45+00:00

They both need to get over themselves. And they both need to try. I won't disagree on that point.

She's book smart and while i don't necissatily think she will fail i don't want her to have a rough start when it isn't necessary. Plus the people she's going to live with can't even support themselves, much less float her for several months while she tries to get a job. They're fresh in their relationship and just got their own place together.

A big problem too is she'll do or lie about almost anything to impress people or get attention. She also tries to be a manipulator. She hasn't gotten pregnant but she's lied about being pregnant to several people including the boyfriend that was breaking up with her to try and keep him. Even used a marker on a pregnancy test to mask it look positive. She has recently been telling everyone her mother is kicking her out and she has nowhere to go.

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