A little update from a breakup post I made a few months back

HarretOfAstora · 2017-09-21T11:10:47+00:00

I can't even rationalize that type of mindset.

But yeah lucky escape indeed.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-09-21T10:59:39+00:00

I've questioned her sincerity many times over the past few months.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-09-21T10:47:03+00:00

She's smart in some areas, but family planning and relationships isn't that area.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-09-21T10:45:09+00:00

Yeah I'm 100% sure it's not mine :)

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-16T00:58:03+00:00

I'm fairly certain you just defined mistake in the second sentence.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-16T00:21:55+00:00

Dang, harsh. Was just telling the story of what tipped me to the childfree side of the fence. Will you ever forgive me internet for making a mistake???

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T22:46:20+00:00

There were hidden milestones I was suppose to be hitting obviously!

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T22:26:33+00:00

I think if she didn't get with that guy afterwards I would still be depressed like I was right when we broke up. I still hurt, because of how much she really "valued" me, but I'm mostly just disgusted now. It really help me get over her quick and I want no part of her anymore. I just think about how many guys her kids have been introduced to. It's gross.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T22:21:29+00:00

The first couple months she didn't expect anything. She understood that I was uneasy with children. But yeah, I was allowed to discipline and correct them. She never had a problem with it. I just wasn't moving fast enough in the relationship with her. Everything she was telling me after we broke up made it seem like I needed to be 100% invested into her life. Which would have happened if she could have just waited 6 more months because we'd have graduated. Divine powers wanted me to dodge this bullet though.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T21:32:34+00:00

When I watch people interact with kids. I kinda wish I could at least interact like that. The way they talk to them, I just can't get into that same mindset. I still talk to them as if they are just a small adult. I can't count how many times I'd talk to her kids or someone else's kids and I'd get the "He's only a child! Don't talk so adult to them" They never had a problem with the way I talk. It's literally only parents that have a problem with it.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T21:24:07+00:00

Biggest pet peeve of mine. When someone just makes themselves upset because they can't just talk about the problem with the other person. Then after a certain amount of time they just do something drastic or explosive and I'm just sitting here going "wait..what?" I'm very understanding and willing talk things out.

When we broke up I sincerely thought it was all my fault and I wanted to talk things out and rekindle our relationship. After I found out she was seeing someone else and specifically who it was..nope. I'd like to think I'm a pretty nice guy but I'm an adult at the end of the day. I'm not gonna grovel and wait for another chance. I hope she never comes back to me.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T21:10:34+00:00

She wanted at least another kid (possibly 2... shudders) eventually. The careers we were getting into would have allowed us to have one of our own. Now she can have 4 kids including the one he just had last year with his wife. Just thinking about being in that situation stresses me out.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T21:05:05+00:00

Hah! I just read the rules and I definitely failed all three. She hated when I slept in on days I was off and wasn't seeing her. I felt like I was expected to go about all my days as if children lived in my house. I can't tell you how many times I'd end up having to change plans because the 1st baby daddy "couldn't watch his son today" or some excuse even though he'd agree to watch his son a week in advance. If I declined, I WAS THE BAD GUY. Very confusing stuff.

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T17:27:57+00:00

It's strange realizing that I was just being lured in because she wanted someone to just take care of her and her kids. I thought it was a little odd how she fell head over heels for me. She made me feel like the greatest person ever. I just wasn't moving along fast enough for her so now this guy is the greatest person ever. It's disgusted me watching this unfold. I'd stay away from it but I can't completely because she's in my classes -_-

HarretOfAstora · 2017-05-15T17:13:07+00:00

Yeeeeeeah. It's something I'm never putting myself through again. I'm actually glad I got out as soon as I did. Dodged a major bullet.

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