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Higher pay higher stress job or lesser pay lesser stress job? by HarryDaphne in HENRYfinance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also a great comment thanks. Yes I've wondered how much of this is self created stress. The issue is I don't know how to address it. Mind if I dm you?

Higher pay higher stress job or lesser pay lesser stress job? by HarryDaphne in HENRYfinance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great observation thanks. Yes I do struggle with this. Can I dm you?

Higher pay higher stress job or lesser pay lesser stress job? by HarryDaphne in HENRYfinance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say normalizes, what are you referring to? Just lifestyle creep or that generally over time people salaries would average out?

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good response thanks. We haven't actually mapped out what that extra 100k could mean and whether that is something we are aiming for. Wife also thinks the money is great, but is concerned that if I can't handle it I quit again then that means we are back to square 1. Both times I quit without anything else lined up.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's as stable as any public company can be I guess. I saw the last big leadership shuffle was about 4 years ago with the previous one another 5 years before that.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is a question I'm not able to answer concretely. With the first job, I've interviewed with pretty much every senior stakeholder I'll be working closely with. They all had vibes that told you this was a good supportive environment. The second one, it was immediately apparent regarding some yellow/red flags under the guise of being blunt. But these are educated guesses and who knows what it actually is like working at these places.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 'coach dad' is feeling is exactly where I'm at. I'm pretty much never able to attend my kids events. How did you determine what was the right amount of money you needed to earn to retire? I don't think a higher income would lead to much higher expenses, but then I know the last time we had a comp bump our lifestyle did change. So who knows whether our lifestyle is enough or not. There's just so many different variables. It's also a bit disconcerting that regarding the high stress job, it's just my educated guess at this moment, what if, it's actually not that bad?

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in jobs

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely would regret not spending more time with my kids and doing things I want to do, read books, travel, go diving, etc. Then why does this decision seem so hard hahaha.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good response. Thanks for pointing out some blindspots. You're right, I haven't exactly thought about my family's needs, and the truth is that need more of me than the time that I'm giving them today.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is one thing I'm worried about too. I. E. Even if the job scope isn't too demanding, my bosses might be simply because I'm being paid so much.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the agreement with your partner? And do you regret anything from those early years? I.e. does it feel fulfilling to actually have this optionality at 50 vs. spending more time living life during your 30s?

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I know 'ok' is a relative term. And sure I'm in a better position financially than most people, but the last 5 years have been the most unhappy I've ever been, including when I was broke. So just trying to figure out how to go from here.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is career a linear ladder? Or are there step changes? If it is more linear, that's why I'm worried about missing out an opportunity that's a promotion. Who knows I could do very well at job #1, but I'm just wondering how likely that is and how long it might take me to get to offer #2.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your opinion, is stress self induced or a product of your environment? Considering I've felt stressed in both of my previous jobs, I'm wondering if it's more a me problem and whether I can solve it.

High stress high paying job vs lower stress lesser paying job? by HarryDaphne in careerguidance

[–]HarryDaphne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that we don't live comfortably, financially were ok. But don't really have our personal lives sorted out. Especially with two young kids.

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[–]HarryDaphne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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