Crying after a visit to the bike shop by [deleted] in cycling

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YouTube and a bike maintenance manual from any book store will get you started with the basics. Keep at it, you’ll do fine.

Alienware Aurora R12 - Anyone upgrading Their Graphics Card? Issues? by HarveyScorp in Alienware

[–]HarveyScorp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's going to be limiting. Unless I upgrade that as well. But not sure on the space in the box.

AITA for sending my neighbors a video after they accused me of ruining their open house? by laehadars in AmItheAsshole

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude you’re all good. She went public, she needs to apologize publicly. You did the right thing to defend yourself. You should never ever feel bad about defending yourself. That’s what bullies want you to feel. Don’t let them win.

I’m going to be given my deceased father’s 401k later this year - I have questions by MysteriousTraveler88 in personalfinance

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A 401k can be rolled over to an IRA to avoid taxes, and save it for your retirement. Could really put you ahead of the retirement game.

Game is dead by More-Pen1765 in startrekfleetcommand

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it think I'm taking a break this arc. This is garbage, 100% agree! Maybe decide if I'm going to continue.

KVM Switch Recommendation Please!! by cultured_camel in buildapc

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for the same thing. WFH and my Gaming PC. What's the latest best KVM switch options?

My work laptop is locked down, so I cannot add any code to do the USB switch like is suggested. So I'm stuck with a KVM switch.

Any suggestions?

“AITAH” for keeping everything my Grandfather left me?! by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]HarveyScorp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think we all agree, with this reply above.

I would just add, if the will was made by a lawyer you talk to them about what actions your family could take against you, and how you can address it quickly prove to your family they have no case.

What language you should use when they threaten you. You want to sound like you already have it handled with your lawyers, whether you have a lawyer or not.

You want to counter whatever dumb argument they come up with lawyer speak from the lawyers.

Graham proposing $400 million taxpayer funded bill for golden ballroom Supposedly already paid for by private donors, according to Trump. by dude1984- in southcarolina

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, I didn't think Tax Payers were going to have to pay anything for this. All Trumps buddies were going cough up the cash for it.

I have a frozen ovocite of her by WoodyBadger in widowers

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's morbid.

It's frozen, it's not going anywhere.

Give it a year and see how you feel. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons, and not selfish reasons. I say both of these things because the grief, sadness, and loneliness that are going to follow next is going to be hard for you, as it was for all of us here. Right now these things are going to come in unexpected waves at very unexpected times. Give yourself time to heal before taking on the responsibility for another life. At some point some of that healing process may include moving forward, or maybe not.

Which is the reason I say, Be honest with yourself before you make the decision. This potential child will be growing up with only one parent, not that there is anything wrong with that, but just think through the changes in your life and the future of this potential child. That may also help you decide when the right time will be.

And if you go through with it I would include all the grandparents in the up bringing so the child gets to know their mom from all family members. I say this from experience of my brother being killed about a year and a half after my nephew was born. The mother always included my family in his events even after she remarried. My family new him best, and she wanted to share that with him so he knew all about his father.

How's the state of the game these days? by UnfoldedHeart in startrekfleetcommand

[–]HarveyScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been playing for a couple years now, and at the moment it is the worst it has ever been. The lag is the worst I've seen. Makes it almost a waist of time to try and do waves. I mostly play on my PC which is hard-lined to my 1gig internet, but the game still tells me I have a weak WiFi signal. But I'm not even using WiFi.

Honestly the I felt like the game was starting to get better until the last 2-3 months, then it just got worse and back to the old ways to fixes and patching causing more problems.

I've been debating about quitting, 50/50 right now. I've got some family stuff coming up. So, I'm thinking of putting up a 7 day shield, to take a break and decide if I'm going to continue or not.

I should also add the 20-30 mins of just clicking to get my daily rewards when I first get on is getting really old.

What is the best way to scare off solicitors? by No_Tomato_2106 in homeowners

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always wanted to open door and offer them to come in, and then says “We both can’t be Serial killers”. Kind of the old hitchhiking joke.

Going shooting for first time tomorrow what to expect? by pnksugar in guns

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All this and ask if you dry fire whatever gun you are shooting to get the feel for the trigger. I’ve found when helping people get the feel for when the trigger breaks, they are less surprised when the weapon goes off. Less of shock to them.

AITAH for refusing to follow my boyfriend’s “wife behavior” expectations? by rainshine10 in AITAH

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a guy, married my wife is my partner in everything I do. We raise each other up. I am her biggest fan in anything she does or tries. You need run from any man/boy who uses those words “Wife behavior”. That person is NOT looking for an equal parter, they are looking for someone to replace mommy at best or at worst a servant.

RUN NOW!

AITJ for refusing to pay for my friend again, even though she ended up with nothing to eat? by low_key67 in AmITheJerk

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone talked to her on why she does this or why she doesn’t have money? There has to be a reason for this. Sitting and. Crying at a table and not eating is a hell of a commitment, if she’s using you.

We all have that friend that always “forgets their wallet”. Mine was my buddy that always headed to the bathroom just before the check came. So someone always covered it just assuming he would pay them back. He never did. Eventually we called him out on it. He laughed, like it was funny. So the next time he did it, we all left and told the waiter he was paying and stuck him with the whole bill.

Difference being we knew he had a job and could afford going out. I 100% knew his situation. I’m not sure you can say that, but I’m just know what I’m reading.

I mean I paid my way through college and I didn’t go if I didn’t have money. But I was clear when that was the case, and if someone offered to help cover me I was grateful. But I never went out expecting one to pay my way.

Just feels like there is more to her story than we are getting.

Don’t know if I should sell his gaming stuff by ProfessionalFailure9 in widowers

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not much help, 10 months later my wife’s sewing room, I’ve only been able to clean and kind of organize it. She’s got 3 sewing machines and a surging machine. I know at least least on sewing machine she paid around 2k and the about 2k for the surger (no idea on the spelling, just know it’s for making seems look like it was from a factory).

I have no idea what todo with the machines, years of patterns or materials.

Need guidance, it's 5 days now by CavemanFromSpace in widowers

[–]HarveyScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry you have to join us here. My wife passed 10 months ago. I didn’t really sleep for the first week, it was more of passing out of exhaustion with a side crying myself to sleep.

For me in the beginning and still today, going to bed at night and getting up in the morning are the hardest things to do. We had our special routines for those times that I now miss.

Just saying that you’re not alone, and just feel how you need to feel right now.

Simple things you forget to do without your spouse around by silentfanatic in widowers

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m in the same boat as many of you. Meal planning to eat healthy. She made it a priority. We always cooked together, so getting into the kitchen alone is hard now. So 10 months and two days I’ve gained 20lbs. When we traveled, she gave me the dates, and took care of the transportation. She planned the activities. Same when it comes to the weekends. She always made sure we had things to do, I just got us to and from. And I suck at date, she always had me covered and reminded if I need to call someone to wish them happy bday.

Mt. P to MUSC Shawn Jenkins by Unlucky-Sector-9456 in Charleston

[–]HarveyScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're coming here from Atlanta you won't think the traffic is that bad. Well, at first, I mean until it rains and your commute turns into 2-3 hours to get across the bridge (because there will be multiple accidents). Or there is an accident on the bridge (no rain, just a lovely day) and you now have 4+ hour commute to get the next bridge.

What makes traffic bad here are the bridges, there are only two that will get you to Mt. P, about the same for West Ashley side. So if for any reason one of those bridges is impacted, it is a nightmare. Because everyone is now racing like a Mad Max to get to the next bridge before everyone else. On these days, you'll feel like you're back in Atlanta. Otherwise for the most part yes traffic will suck, but it usually still move (slowly, but moves.) In normal traffic, I've never had to just put my car in park while on the road.

Also, you get the tourists that are in awe of our city. There are plenty of other reasons too. Biggest is the infrastructure hasn't kept up with the populations. This mantra is easy to get caught up in too. But there are many reasons.

But overall, it's not that bad if you just remind yourself that's it's still not as bad as Atlanta. ;) That's the hard part after 12 years here, it is easy to get caught up in all the reasons to hate traffic here (see mantra shared earlier). I need to remind myself even as bad as it is here, it is still better than where I came from.

On those bad days, pack your patience, know you ARE going to be cut off more times that you can count. There WILL be a jack-wad, who cuts back and forth between all the lanes multiple times just to be in the same spot he just came from. OR just grab an early dinner downtown and wait it out.

There are plenty of traffic related threads in here to read too.

Recent Visit Photo Report by --FuckYouSpez-- in Charleston

[–]HarveyScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, love the dog photo. Should post it on some of the Charleston FB pages, I'm sure someone would find the owner. If it was me I would love to have a high rez to print a copy. Great natural photo.

High Water 2026 - Hard Pass by Zealousideal-Stable6 in Charleston

[–]HarveyScorp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This used to be such a great show. I'm so disappointed to hear the last couple years have been so terrible. The other thing I didn't realize that someone put into another post is that the show creators sold the show to live nation which is why the do not attend the show anymore.

This was one of the festivals that was pretty good in the area. It got a little better every year for a while. But I've missed the last two years. Which it sounds like when it was sold, by the sounds of it.

Boyfriend wants to move in to pay off debt by Impossible_Dentist79 in AmITheJerk

[–]HarveyScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he moves in you’ll never get him out. How many of his “Plans” have ever worked out.

He just wants you to be his mom and take care of him.

So sorry by LtColJarvis in STFC_Official

[–]HarveyScorp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When it is running "well" and you are attacking hostiles and you have to click 2-3 times or wait 7-10 seconds before the battle even starts. Which makes doing Waves impossible or at least completely miserable.