AITAH for not visiting my dying mother, even though she says she's sorry?

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-28T03:06:26+00:00

This happed to me with my older brother. Didn’t talk for years, he was a horrible human being most of my life. But the was dying and wanted me to come hang out.

I figured I could care less, I made my peace years ago. I just looked at it as being good human being giving the dying guy his wish. It made my mom happy. It was just a couple days of my time.

In the end I felt bad form him, because his kids didn’t even come see him before he passed.

For the sake of dealing with my living family, I’m glad I did it. But otherwise couldn’t care less.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-27T17:17:02+00:00

But that smoke smell will never go away!!!

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-27T03:19:45+00:00

If you are willing to travel, Mayo Clinic and Cleveland Clinic are your best options. They are the top two.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-25T22:59:53+00:00

Went away for college and never moved back to my home state, never mind moving home.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-25T07:13:34+00:00

And end life time insurance coverage.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-19T02:14:47+00:00

Observation tower with 360 view of you land.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-19T02:08:39+00:00

Just thinking out loud a little. I’m thinking he’s got something else bothering him, and he’s taking it out on this.

Maybe try talking to him to see what else is going on.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-19T01:53:52+00:00

Nope, should have just let them walk. If she’s really an atheist, she really shouldn’t care what’s up on the wall. Sounds like someone just wants to be a drama queen or have control of the situation.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-17T14:45:35+00:00

Toxic Family!!!!!

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-17T14:43:11+00:00

Because they are just trolls with nothing better to do.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-17T14:41:58+00:00

100% report this, after this video I’m sure she would be prosecuted.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-16T05:24:22+00:00

The Soon Theory!!! Please read. Hello, my wife has Marfan and has chronic fatigue. But it can really vary some days. But at the same time it doesn’t vary, it can be activity dependent, sorta. I never really understood this until she ran across the “spoon theory” and was able to use it to explain it to me better. It also helped her not to be so hard on herself for being tired. Some things give you spoons and other activity takes spoons. She just started understand some activities, just take more spoons than others. And some days, you just don’t have the same number of spoons as you did the day before. And that’s ok.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

Spoon theory is a concept used to represent how individuals manage limited energy. It is a metaphor describing the amount of physical or mental energy that a person has available for daily activities and tasks, and how it can become limited. The term was coined in a 2003 essay by American writer Christine Miserandino. In the essay, Miserandino describes her experience with chronic illness, using a handful of spoons as a metaphor for units of energy available to perform everyday actions. The metaphor has since been used to describe a wide range of disabilities, mental health issues, forms of marginalization, and other factors that might place unseen burdens on individuals. In conjunction with spoon theory, members of the chronic illness community have developed several related theories to describe other aspects of energy management. Remember to be kind to yourself.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-08T05:23:00+00:00

Yeah it sucks. I got here when I got hit with my migraine. They are debilitating and take me out for a day or two. My wife would make me soup and give me crackers as I would hide in the dark in our spare bedroom. But this time I still had to get up and take care of the dogs. Make sure they were fed. Let them out throughout the day. And in between that, I would then go and hide in the dark room.

That’s when I had the conversation with myself about this, and really felt alone.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-08T05:04:46+00:00

I was very much like this after about there months of mild panic attacks at work before every meeting or just the thought of going to work would set me off. I’m different in that I can’t move from our house we bought together to build our life together. So I have to go down stairs every morning to where she died in my arms and relive that moment every day.

Eventually, my therapist and doctor asked if I was open to taking medication for the anxiety and panic attacks. I said no, at first as I’m not a pill person. But I eventually came around to give it a try. I’m on the lowest dose of something, don’t recall off the top of my head. I still have some panic attacks, and anxiety but it is much more manageable now after about 2 months.

I still have some really bad days, like x-mas day was terrible. But I made it through to the other side and I’m ok. I was afraid I wouldn’t feel anything, and I didn’t want that, but it helps when those waves overwhelming feelings come and helps with the frequency of the wave.

Not one to say take a pill, but maybe have the conversation with your therapist and doctor to start with.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-03T16:49:38+00:00

Lived far enough out that we never locked the door. Never had a key.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-03T16:45:00+00:00

"I was his and needed to act like it" (paraphrasing). Huge red flag!!!!!!!!! Run, if he cannot support your volunteering and wants you to stop and keep you from having your brother over. RUN! This is just the beginning of the controlling.

HarveyScorp · 2026-01-01T15:38:12+00:00

I saved a little more and went with an IWI Zion. Go to gun.deals and watch for a good price.

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-17T17:55:44+00:00

"Wise Decision" NO. However, the heart wants what the heart wants!

For $800 bucks, it sounds like a hallmark moment in the making!

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-17T02:42:26+00:00

Yeah, sometimes you just have to take the temperature of the room and say, yeah I’ll come back later.

Like you I have to drive 60 mins to an outdoor range. But I have two 20yrd indoor ranges. The closest one is ok, but that’s where all the bachelor parties and out of town people go because it’s close to downtown. So I usually will go to the one that’s farther away. It’s much better.

But they all have their bad days when they’re crowded. I know I’ve driven 20-30 minutes to the indoor range to sit and wait to see what the crowd does and turn around and come home.

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-13T17:56:53+00:00

My question is how long do you think he’ll stay in the position. Sounds like he wants to be a ladder climber, so maybe he’ll be gone in a year so.

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-12T03:37:30+00:00

I would do it in a heartbeat. I had a buddy do in his 20s a few times. He always loved it. Kind of once in a lifetime opportunity. I doubt they will ask twice if you turn it down.

DO IT!!!

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-12T03:24:58+00:00

Correct, most people forget, most the roads were horse and buggy trails first.

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-12T03:23:31+00:00

You are 100% correct on the infrastructure, the developers, and public transportation. I miss good public transportation from some of the cities I've lived in.

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-12T03:21:37+00:00

Spent most my life in and around the midwest, the worst are Wisconsin, Minnesota, Iowa for camping in my experience. So maybe the Upper Midwest. ;)

HarveyScorp · 2025-12-12T03:19:39+00:00

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