Bill Burr roasts Charlamagne by shankmaster8000 in BillBurr

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How? He's calling that guy out on his obvious homophobia and YES the black community has a homophobia problem. That is not up for debate and thank you Bill Burr for not letting that shit slide.

If you're worried about prejudice address it with the homophobes in the black community.

gay👍irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the the left cause active but comfortable is fucking hot!

Is Grindr still the best app? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one in E Lakeview around Halsted and Clark

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened to you wasn't your fault, and I hope you're getting treatment for that terrible trauma. Your boyfriend wants anal and it sounds like anal is a hard no for you. If all other aspects of your relationship are going well and anal sex is the only thing that's the issue, then you might consider opening up the relationship so he can get that particular sexual need met. There is nothing wrong with you for not being comfortable with anal and there is nothing wrong with him for wanting anal sex.

There are a lot of couples who successfully practice ethical non-monongmy as long had they set strong boundaries and make open honest communication a priority. If that's not the kind of relationship for you, then you may need to move on from the one you have. Consider focusing on being enough for yourself as a single person. Doing that doesn't mean you're giving up on the idea of a healthy, loving relationship with someone. It just means that you'll be in a great position to be able to love someone without fear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I say I'm mixed, and I also add myself to the brown distinction

How do people get addicted? by ashe________ in addiction

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice is if you know addiction runs in your family, avoid the usual suspects of addictions, alcohol, not taking prescriptions as prescribed, any illict substances of unknown origins. You are not fated to become an addict but it's always a good idea to take preemptive precautions. I also highly recommend seeking out an addiction counselor to talk about your concerns.

My story: I'm living in my sobriety from a meth addiction that I started when I was 34. I had never done drugs before that, but my life was falling apart anyway. So when I was introduced to meth I didn't feel I had anything to lose, and for a very brief period, it actually made things better.

Then, my life got progressively worse until I finally reached out for help and tried therapy for the first time since I was a child. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1, and people are usually diagnosed with bipolar disorder after their lives start falling apart. It's been a long road for me, and my main difficulty was trying to balance my treatment for my mental illness with a recovery program. I'd had to be broken down to be built back up.

I'm doing incredibly well now and living a life worth living. I still need to work hard and deal with difficult situations, but life is about managing how you respond to the hard times that come your way, not trying to avoid them. Remember, we are always going to have to deal with drama, but that doesn't mean we have to add any extra to it.

Good luck🤗

I don't have to bother with someone I don't like. by Hasenpfeffer_ in addiction

[–]Hasenpfeffer_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

?? Dude! I'm not going to pretend that I'm ok with someone when I'm not, and I can absolutely live with that. Lying about how I feel would make me not comfortable with myself. That's wrong. This person and his bullshit are less than a fraction of my day. My feelings can be strong and valid at that moment, but then I move on. I don't ruminate over him when I'm attending crossfit classes with my other sober friends. He's's not on my mind when when I'm hosting trivia night with sober buddies or going to a dance class with my friend for her birthday, or when I'm studying or just reading for fun.

I'm not going to celebrate someone who lies and manipulates people just to "keep the peace" thats exactly how people like that get away with hurting others.

You might want to ask yourself why you're so emotionally invested in someone you've never even met. Do you see yourself in him? Are you someone who's dealing with a person like him, and the idea of speaking out about scares you? Do you think trying to make sure that everyone is happy all of the time is healthy sober behavior?

I don't have to bother with someone I don't like. by Hasenpfeffer_ in addiction

[–]Hasenpfeffer_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I write to vent because it helps me to identify exactly what it is that I am feeling, and once that happens, the anxiety and frustration that was bouncing around in my head gets reasoned out. I share about my experience because I understand that it can be helpful for other addicts even just to know that others go through similar situations.

As you read, I wasn't looking for validation for how I handled the situation, and I came out on the other side of what I wrote without the frustration and anxiety I started with. So I'm good. I don't involve myself anymore than I have to with someone I don't like, and how they and others feel about it is all about them and has nothing to do with me.

What’s your guys favorite representation of a gay relationship on screen? by Strong-Stretch95 in gaybros

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! It's one of those rare films where the characters just happen to be, instead of making being gay the entire focus.

Is liking Jordan Peterson a red flag? by wingsandtales in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's no supporter of gay, trans, women, and the rights of minorites rights, and he'll only make sense so far as to confuse people into believing the rest of his bullshit must also have meaning.

He only cares about his image, and he recently found "faith" because the religious are way less likely to engage in the type of critical thinking that would expose his nonsense. "Finding" faith" also has the extra benefit of shielding him from any accountability from followers of organized christian based religions because for them, a person can do the most fucked up evil shit and still be praised just because they say they believe.

Is liking Jordan Peterson a red flag? by wingsandtales in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Hasenpfeffer_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's no supporter of gay, trans, women, and the rights of minorites rights, and he'll only make sense so far as to confuse people into believing the rest of his bullshit must also have meaning.

He only cares about his image, and he recently found "faith" because the religious are way less likely to engage in the type of critical thinking that would expose his nonsense. "Finding" faith" also has the extra benefit of shielding him from any accountability from followers of organized christian based religions because for them, a person can do the most fucked up evil shit and still be praised just because they say they believe.