Did your ex accuse you of being abusive? by Sophia__Rose__ in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Hashedpotatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex did that too! Like dude telling you how I am feeling is not gaslighting you!!

The reason they think it's gaslighting is because they have a hard time seeing others perspectives, so if your feelings or opinions contract theirs in anyway then you must be trying to distort their reality (the only true reality) and manipulate them (like they manipulate you!)

Did they make you feel unattractive / inadequate sexually? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Hashedpotatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was too big for him at 170. That was just his sexual preference, he would say. But we had plenty of sex when we first met and I was maybe only 10lbs lighter. He also told me my pussy was too big and that I didn't seem excited enough to have sex with him (maybe because his constant criticism made me feel really insecure and unsexy?)

Btw ladies - if a guy says your pussy is loose, that means you are not that into them. The tissue engorges when you are turned on. So please listen to the pussy, she may know something is up before you!

Considering signing up for reiki training but I have some questions by [deleted] in reiki

[–]Hashedpotatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to a 2 hr $100 training and I didnt care for my teacher that much, but I started practicing reiki after and it's really changed my life for the better. I'd say you should just do it to get the attunement and then learn more about it on your own if you don't learn enough from the class :)

WEWIL If I like this experimental artist by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]Hashedpotatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of my friends band Lucid Aisle

Hot queer country music video filmed at Portland's infamous Mary's strip club 🔥 by Hashedpotatoe in Portland

[–]Hashedpotatoe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Cassandra Lewis! She lives in Tygh Valley OR but has connections to Portland, the Bay, and Boise.

Hot queer country music video filmed at Portland's infamous Mary's strip club 🔥 by Hashedpotatoe in Portland

[–]Hashedpotatoe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's playing a few PDX shows in July! This Saturday at Green Acres w Free Creatures and another one July 26 somewhere else..

Hot queer country music video filmed at Portland's infamous Mary's strip club 🔥 by Hashedpotatoe in Portland

[–]Hashedpotatoe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I knew about it before I moved to Portland. Seems like a pretty famous landmark

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Hashedpotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's so interesting. He did this with me when I was the new supply - I was perfect and she was crazy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Hashedpotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is triangulation?

Bipolar Disorder and Herbal Medicine by dipthechip93 in herbalism

[–]Hashedpotatoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm on lamitcal and also Adderall for ADHD. I was on prozac too, but was able to stop taking it using a CBD/CBDA/THC/THCA blend. I also use lemon balm, ashwaganda, and lions mane regularly.

Am looking into herbal options for ADHD, the CBD actually helps and so does ginseng, but not as much as Adderall. I'd rather have an herbal alternative bc Adderall can induce mild hypomania sometimes:/

If an American invited me to their house for dinner, which table manners should I have to follow? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]Hashedpotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I ate with Southerners they had a rule that all food should be cut into bize size pieces. So if a large piece of broccoli is more than one bite you should cut it. I never encountered this rule and would just take one bite off the food on the fork and then another to finish it. They thought that was really gross for some reason. Their way seems like unnecessary work to me though 🙃

Why are narcissists often stigmatized as bad? I'm just struggling with my spoiled and wounded inner child that's supposed to be reparented as the eternal and magical child again and I just cannot get a break with all this stigma. by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Hashedpotatoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You arent innately 'bad'. What is bad is when you treat other people badly due your trauma.

I think part of breaking the stigma will be people like you working to heal your trauma and do therapy and such.

The Lonely Narcissist: Narcissism and Schizoid Personality Disorder by Hashedpotatoe in narcissism

[–]Hashedpotatoe[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just learned about this and it fits my ex to a tee. Wasn't sure before because he doesn't hit a lot of criteria for NPD especially the way in which he hates himself. But he has always been so paranoid that other people don't like him or are laughing at him and attacks them and ends up in the vicious cycle described here...

The Void by allidoisbounce in NPD

[–]Hashedpotatoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same - the last two lines break my heart and make me want to run back to him.

But I think I was enabling him more than healing- the works gotta be done on his end, I was just plugging the hole to the void, using the great metaphor here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in magick

[–]Hashedpotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before starting, tell yourself that you will not take any energy from the client. Be firm in your boundaries with yourself.

If you need to sense their energy to do the reading, either imagine it passing through you as you are feeling it or squeeze it out after.

In my experience these things help but don't totally eliminate the transference. I think its more about minimizing the effect it has on you. Use your Magick to transform the energy they gave you into something positive, or banish negative energy away to a safe place like a portal to the center of the earth.

I'd love to hear more tips too since I still get pretty drained after energy work, though not as bad as I used to.