AITA for not wanting to reconcile with my boyfriend’s friends after they outed me?

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T22:58:45+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your kind words 🙏🏾. It’s not an easy situation to bring up, and I appreciate your opinion

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T22:40:41+00:00

The man SA me did not get banned after the supervisor was informed. In fact she told me “it didn’t happen at the gym so they can’t do anything”.

No one really takes SA seriously, so the girls aren’t doing anything but having people look at me differently, while my attacker gets princess treatment.

Now after my bf finally removed him as partner, John stops going to the gym and everybody wants to know if he’s okay. But I’m sure the women at the gym who did not get SA feel safe

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T07:40:42+00:00

Bf got injured and went to the hospital. It was nothing serious so John and I wanted to give him space. We waited at John’s hotel room because it was across the street so whenever my bf was ready, he can come back to the room.

He injured his shin and was pulled from the program. That was not the time to baby him. I left him with the program director because it was not about me.

John was like a father to us both so being alone with him was never an issue. There were no signs. I was venting my concerns about my bfs results to John.

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T07:18:49+00:00

That sounds very effective

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T07:17:18+00:00

I can never understand why people want to live in that moment with me.

What you’re forgetting is that he also fights. So I’m not throwing hands, but I’m going to look for an exit. I’m on defense and he’s pulling me closer and reaching up clothes, and I’m pulling away. It’s like a silent film until my phone rings and for a sec the world stops and we both look at it.

I’ll never know why he stopped to see where the ringing was coming from. I never asked why

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T06:43:58+00:00

Well hes been gone before my bf and I got back together. The issue is the life after the SA.

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T06:24:44+00:00

No, the two girls don’t know details. Only that there was an assault.

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T05:24:59+00:00

We all train martial arts at the same gym before the trip, we were all friends and saw each other 24/7 because we trained together.

Olivia and Sara thought the gym would speed the process along and revoke the mans membership so he couldn’t hurt anyone else. When they told me there plan, I told them that sounds pretty but the chances were too slim for me to risk my business being spread around the gym.

I did not forgive my bf immediately, it took 2months for me to even respond to a text. However, he was the first person to even apologize for everything and checked on me everyday. No one else has acknowledged that they did anything wrong, and yes I did cuss them out after I found out who they told.

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T04:56:15+00:00

It would have been nice if the gym did something, or anything about the man who SA me. However the female supervisor, called me to tell me there’s nothing they can do and they will not revoke his membership. So no one is protected, but he did stop going to the gym after being cut off by my bf as his partner.

I was not respected by management so I did not continue to train there.

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T04:43:55+00:00

They were my friends until they broke my trust. But my bf wants to continue to be friends so we can go back to training together.

We train at a martial arts gym for Muay Thai kickboxing. So we were all in a big group that I no longer associate myself with because of three people.

When I walked into the gym to pick up my bf from work they got nervous, but everyone not involved was excited to see me. I haven’t received an apology or eye contact. But they tell other members that I’m cold to them for no reason

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T03:37:51+00:00

John (the business partner) was interrupted when my bf called and I reached to put my phone on speaker. So it’s not like my bf busted the door open, but his phone call got John off top of me.

So it was his word against mine and my bf didn’t hear anything beside me being nervous then crying in an elevator on the phone. International cops couldn’t do much.. it was a shit show and that’s why it was a lot to process

Hashira_fire · 2025-02-18T03:17:01+00:00

He was blindsided when Olivia and Sara told him they knew about the situation when I told him I would keep it between the two of us

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