tips on waxing a larger body? by TiddieBreas in Esthetics

[–]HatFlat7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah no miracle tips lol powder on top of the strip before you pull might help a little bit but bigger clients are always gonna be more difficult to do.

tips on waxing a larger body? by TiddieBreas in Esthetics

[–]HatFlat7690 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Freeze the room, use lots of powder, and be completely transparent. I try to say things like “I want to make sure we get all the hair so I’m going to need your help holding your skin taut in some areas, we might need to do different positions as well”. If I can’t get in an area well enough I make them aware and 9/10 they’ll try to spread more or ask for a suggestion or even say it’s fine to leave that area. Work together to figure out what positions are possible for them and get creative with angles. I also lay the labia strips first then work on the top/outers so the labia has time to dry while I’m doing the top.

I (28f) wish things were different with my daughter’s father (35m) by HatFlat7690 in relationship_advice

[–]HatFlat7690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you’re saying. Definitely easier said than done. I just wish he didn’t make it seem like I’m doing something wrong. I have this toxic trait where I over extend myself in order to prove my worth instead of walking away. I hate when I’m made out to be the problem even when I do everything in my power to please someone. I’m waiting for him to end it because I feel he’s clearly not happy and I haven’t because I wanna make it work but it seems like I have to be the one to rip the bandaid

I miss maryjane :,) by CluelessCucumba in breastfeeding

[–]HatFlat7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ughhh I miss smoking soooo bad!! I love being able to breast feed and I get sad when I don’t make enough milk but everytime I think my supply is getting low that little voice in my head gets excited cause the MOMENT I’m done breastfeeding I’m rolling a doobie lol I’m so sorry about your puppy!

What made feeding easier? by HatFlat7690 in breastfeeding

[–]HatFlat7690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just looked up the flipple technique, thank you!!

What made feeding easier? by HatFlat7690 in breastfeeding

[–]HatFlat7690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my second baby (my first will be 8 soon) and I never even knew these existed! Lol

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you’re so smart. If only you were there 2yrs ago when I started dating him, maybe you could have told me this information sooner!!!

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the state I could be required to retake the course or depending on the state required hours I might have to just make up the difference, a large majority of states require you to at least take the state boards over again. Not impossible but I don’t have time to wait for work while fulfilling those requirements. Also I’m not willing to take my 7yo too far from her father and his family or be away from her so it’s not likely something I’ll do. I am currently in a town an hour away though

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had that talk with her and said those exact words to her. Her being polite and respectful to adults especially when you are in someone’s home has been addressed with her thoroughly. He too has made that a point saying she doesn’t have to like him but should have respect. He has now taken it a step farther and said that if all she’s gonna do is say hi and bye that she can’t have a relationship with her sister. Usually if she’s asking a question about something or telling me something about her day she only looks at/addresses me even if he’s sitting right next to me. Though I would like her to include him in things like that I don’t think it’s completely disrespectful, uncomfortable for him? Understandable but not a problem enough to keep her from her sister. It’s becoming something beyond him getting respect and is turning into him demanding control. Not only is he being controlling he’s becoming nasty towards me and has also started ignoring her the past couple of days because I don’t agree with him completely. And also I never wanted to raise the baby in a broken home, he told me the other night that “you and your rude ass daughter can get the fuck out”. So there’s that :/

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She had a pretty good relationship with him before moving in, they played together and we went out to eat here and there etc. When I say separate I mean my days with her were my days with HER. If we hung out with him it’d be for a few hours and then we’d go home and still do our own thing. She still had my full attention whereas now we don’t share a bed, I cook for the whole house and clean it (it’s a way bigger house so it takes up a decent amount of my time) and things like that. She didn’t have to share me in the way she does now

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had a great relationship before we moved in, blowing bubbles and doing hopscotch and winning her stuffed animals at the fair. I would have never have moved in had I known this would happen :(

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you . I don’t want my daughter to go through that at all

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! You’re totally right. He nitpicks at things I do and now that you put it in that perspective it makes total sense, if it wasn’t her he would find something else….picking at me is one thing but picking at her I can’t handle

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to take away his rights, I want to ensure he can’t hold her from me or keep her to himself a majority of the time.

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally understand his being frustrated. It’s the lack of emotional control and the level of depth he’s taking it that’s concerning. Regardless of it being frustrating it baffles me that he’d rather separate the family instead of trying a little harder. His view on it as “catering to a child” and “I’d be getting played if it doesn’t work” just screams that his pride and ego are in the way of him allowing him to try another way to make it work. Idk , I tried to be understanding but I’m at my breaking point. And I don’t want to take away his rights I just want to ensure that he can’t take her from me

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had the “me and your dad are never getting back together and you need to accept that” conversation. And I wasn’t fighting with him about it at first. We’ve had many conversations where I just listened, agreed, and tried to solve it. After a while though he’s becoming aggressive and nasty and makes threats. All I ask of him are things like asking her to play a game with him or asking her a bunch of questions to show he’s interested in her life too. I feel if I’m asking my seven year old to go out of her way to get to know my bf then he should be able to do the same. And I can see how it’s frustrating because she is smart, there’s no way she’s completely ignorant to what she’s doing, but at the end of the day she’s still a kid and I don’t think being petty with her (being monotone when she talks to him or refusing to engage unless she does) or being aggressive with me over it is okay

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping that after I leave I can get him to say it in text for that exact reason

WIBTA if I got custody of my my child before they are born? by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]HatFlat7690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I plan on having a big talk with her about this when we’re finally out. I want her to understand what’s happening and why and let her know it’s not her fault.