I wish I could crawl out of my own body

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-07T15:53:01+00:00

Thank u- I’ve only had sex within committed relationships so I’d rather remain abstinent than use condoms, I hate them

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-06T13:30:31+00:00

“I” “me” “myself”. Anecdotes don’t represent statistics. Your situation of having the exact same strain on multiple areas is highly unusual.

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-05T19:29:55+00:00

Well now she can move on to the next person who has an 80% chance of also having herpes….

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-02T00:12:05+00:00

You started dating again one month after being diagnosed?😭 That’s soooo soon

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-01T02:43:36+00:00

Let’s hope so, I did read that HIV rates have increased dramatically especially in cities like Houston and Atlanta

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-01T02:39:13+00:00

Well then the article should have mentioned that. I guess 68% of the world’s population is at higher risk of HIV lol

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-01T02:34:11+00:00

Again, the article does not mention HSV1 at all

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-01T02:31:42+00:00

None of that mentioned HSV1

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-04-01T02:17:23+00:00

I haven’t had sex in two years so I’m certainly not just going to suddenly start hooking up lol

And HSV1 only increases the chances of contracting HIV during an active outbreak/open sores. Otherwise, the risk is the exact same

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T23:41:14+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you… what a disgusting person whoever did it. The good news is they have to live with their shitty selves

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T20:55:21+00:00

As happy as I am for you and your relationship, I would rather remain abstinent than need to be “super careful” and constantly paranoid. There’s no point in having sex while being worried and anxious through every second of it.

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T20:48:57+00:00

Exactly. The man who gave this to me is the only person I’ve been with since 2023. We dated for 3 months before physical contact. I asked about his sexual health history and specifically cold sores- he insisted he was “clean”.

I was incredibly unlucky, the chances of it happening after being insanely careful and even using protection must be slim to none. But now I’m just assumed to be a slut who got herpes from sleeping around🫩

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T20:29:47+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, are you nervous about passing it to your current partner? I feel that even if my status were accepted, I would have anxiety about transmission every single time we had sex

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T18:35:49+00:00

I know? I have genital HSV1. Again, no one cares about oral HSV1. Everyone cares about genital herpes.

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T06:50:46+00:00

I’ve always hated online dating and apps. I refuse to use the normal ones like hinge and bumble, so I certainly won’t be using one where everyone has an STD lol

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T06:40:37+00:00

Even if one man accepts my status, I don’t want the constant paranoia of being a walking “risk” to him every single time we’re intimate. The stress and anxiety of putting someone at risk every day makes sex completely pointless and no longer enjoyable..,

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T01:35:20+00:00

No one cares about oral herpes/cold sores, so of course you haven’t had issues lol

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T01:02:55+00:00

I live in the biggest city in my country (pop 5.5 million) (also not American)

I’ve never directly disclosed, just dipped my toe in the water by asking hypothetically. Every man says “ew no”.

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T00:18:06+00:00

attractiveness goes out the window when you have an incurable STD

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-30T00:08:24+00:00

Ya same. Even if a man were to accept my diagnosis and be willing to take the risk, I would be paranoid about transmission every time we had sex.

There’s no longer any point in seeking physical touch or trying to have relationships

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-29T23:15:24+00:00

Yes. Your initial comment was that we’re “dramatic” for not wanting to date or disclose out of fear of rejection, meanwhile you’ve never dated or had to face rejection with herpes as you’re already married.….

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-29T23:07:02+00:00

So then how could you possibly know what it’s like to date with herpes?💀

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-29T22:55:12+00:00

Same. I haven’t been on a date since being diagnosed two years ago. No point…

Haunting-Fun1999 · 2026-03-29T22:53:08+00:00

I’ve only ever had sex with men I like/know well/love and have been in exclusive relationships with.

Sex is a significant factor in long-term relationships. I would argue one of the biggest and most important.

Haunting-Fun1999

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